Family & Relationships - 13 September 2007

i stupidly went into a chat room, and ended up watching someone masturbate on webcam. I feel really stupid cos i didnt enjoy it and its out of character for me.

im not normally that type of guy. i feel as if ive let myself down in some way. I wont do it again, but i just feel bad.

im 18 so was it just a silly rush of hormones? do you think im a bad person? i feel bad about it and wont do it again. its so silly.

(please note... im just asking for advice/opinions and am not criticising cyber sex or porn. People are free to do what they want, and i mean no offense to anyone. i just feel really bad for doing it)

2007-09-13 01:36:56 · 21 answers · asked by Answerer 1 in Singles & Dating

it started when we were 12 just both of us masturbating in the same bed then she would play with mine and so on. this went on for a couple of years hell we even had a shower together while my aunt her mum was in the house, that was when we were both 14. her mum come in once when we were having sex on her bed, and i mean proper sex, we didnt get caught we pretended to be asleep. even when she got a boyfriend at 15 she would come over to mine and have sex with me. I am 17 now and she is 16 and we still have sex, we need help how to tell everyone or just keep it a secret

2007-09-13 01:36:47 · 13 answers · asked by why_dale 1 in Singles & Dating

but shes got a boyfriends she cant leave? What should i do?

2007-09-13 01:35:17 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

been married for 12 years and she has fully admitted that she has never truly loved, respected or trusted me. (she confessed she trusts NO man) We are intimate MAYBE 5 to 7 times per year (since day one) and we were virgins when we got married. Well, told her i was tired of being roommate and she went histarical with the crying and laying guilt on me. We have been to 4 to 5 marriage counsellors and nothing has changed. She vows she will now change and be the wife i have always wanted. Sorry to say this...maybe i am selfish...but i am done. She pleads for me to stay, pressures and guilts me, using the kids to make me feel horrible.
Well, she says she will NOT sign divorce papers. Why i dont know. Should i believe her and try to work on the marriage? My family is on HER side not mine. (strict mennonite religious beliefs are whats driving them)

2007-09-13 01:35:06 · 21 answers · asked by Jason F 1 in Marriage & Divorce

we all take the good with the bad in relationships but what do the people close to you do that REALLY winds you up

2007-09-13 01:35:03 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

My best friend of ten years has been cheating on her husband (their marriage has always been a violent one) over the last year and has gotten pregnant with her lover's child. Her husband finally found out just recently and says that he wants to start over again (though he thinks the baby is his) considering they have two young children together (one 4 and one almost 3). When her husband found out and confronted her lover (who was a long time coworker of his and hang-around pal) and demanded to know if he (the lover) loved my best friend and if so, was he willing to marry her and be good to her. The lover, of course, said nothing and refused to step up to the plate.

2007-09-13 01:31:19 · 17 answers · asked by Kitten 4 in Marriage & Divorce

sooo whats newww?

2007-09-13 01:31:07 · 8 answers · asked by Brooke 2 in Friends

I have asked this question before, if you have answered that’s fine, I just need more answers.
a girl i know, is having a birthday, i am not interested in dating her, she is currently single but dating trying to find a guy, i went and bought her a $850 necklace jewelry as a gift, which i can afford that, but the lady who sold it to me, told me it may give her mixed signal or that i may be intreseted in in her, which i am not, all my friends know that i am very generous due to my good paying job, she does not know that, i only know her for a month, i don't know what to do?, should i give it to her or not, if i give it to her should i give it to her in private or infront of others, especially that i don't want others to see me giving her the gift, also, my girlfriend may be there at the birthday party, and my girl friend does not know anything about the gift, and i never got my girl friend any gifts before, and i don't want to get her anything at this stage, because i don't want her to think that i am trying to buy her with my money, she hates rich people to answer those who said give it to your mother, i bought my mom alot of things, i bought her a house, a summer vacation house at the beach and a car full in cash. for my girl friend, i didn't forget about her. i am going to fly her to france in this october

2007-09-13 01:30:19 · 6 answers · asked by ilovelife 4 in Friends

Indian Parliament contemplates making of a legislation making it mandatory for men and women to provide for accommodation and food for their parents, biological and through adoption.
One Shri Tapan Pal writes in The Telegraph, a leading Calcutta based English daily, against the proposed legislation. The letter can be seen in


http://www.telegraphindia.com/1070913/asp/opinion/story_8307599.asp

Do you, or do not you, agree with him? Why?

2007-09-13 01:30:04 · 13 answers · asked by sexy grandmother 4 in Family

Hi i am a software professional.I am in love with my girlfriend for the past 3years.We both are from different castes.She is 2 months elder than me.This is where the problem.Her parents are unable to accept me in this case as she is 2 months elder than me.They believe in astrology.According to the horoscope some astrologer told them that if their daughter marries me i will die within 6 months of our marriage.Even she is scared about this and avoiding me a lot.But she loves me very very much.She will be completing her PG and got selected for MNC.She will be joining in that company by july,2008.So anyone help me in this.

2007-09-13 01:29:43 · 1 answers · asked by nawab_of_hyderabad 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

ok so i've been somewhat talking to this girl (shes 24, i'll b 23 in october) we both recently broke up with our others like 2-3 months ago. were getting kinda close it use to be we talk maybe once a week to now like 3-4 times a week. but heres my question she called me like 3 in the mornin when she got home from work to say goodnight, when we were talkin she was at a friends house, her best friend actually. she said to me i want u to meet my friend, then went to her friend an said i want u to meet him, hes a great guy but a little rough around the edges, then laughed. then she was like but i kinda like it. can anyone explain to me what rough around the edges mean?
i'm guessing its a good thing in a way.

2007-09-13 01:28:57 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

So my bf of 5 years cheated. He said he stopped but I just happened to look at his cell because he told me to check and see if his mom called him and there was this number I didn't know on it so I searched it and it's the girl who he was cheating with and he talks to her all the time still!! There's no point in me saying anything, we have kids together and everything. Well my best friend knows and she told some of our friends who don't like my bf and now the guys are calling me and telling me to move on he won't stop and even with kids I could start over and don't think otherwise. And 3 of my friends actually called me and said hey let me take you out. So what do I do? I don't want to be like him, and it's great knowing my friends are there trying to make me feel better, but I also can't leave him. I don't have the guts. What should I do? Also this is the 5 th time I caught him cheating.

2007-09-13 01:27:45 · 12 answers · asked by blueeyedmama 2 in Singles & Dating

i am living with my husband's family. i am a professional and just waiting for my employment. my husband has to take the licensure exams. we have a baby. basically, we need our parent's support.

everybody here at home is in love with our baby. my mother in law is really a lot of help to all the burdens in baby caring.

thing is, i find myself jealous of her since when she's around, my baby ALWAYS wants to be picked up by my mother in law. and when the baby hears her voice, the baby gets so excited about it. also, i think my mother in law also announces it to the world that the baby is so fond of her.

i just feel bad since up to now i'm a full time mom, but my baby prefers her than me.

am i thinking the wrong thing? what should i do?

no rude comments please, or else...

2007-09-13 01:10:14 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

He's into fishing and hunting, but I don't really wanna get him something that tangible because it would be broken eventually. It needs to be something that would last. Please, any ideas would be great. Thank you.

2007-09-13 01:06:25 · 8 answers · asked by 2ndammendmentsupporter 3 in Weddings

lollypop"? she says it is nomal and lots of people do it! please help I am crying so much I may electrocute myself on the key board coz the tears are falling on it but I don't care.

2007-09-13 01:02:35 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-09-13 00:58:33 · 6 answers · asked by Honest 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

I have often wondered WHY NOT JUST GET MARRIED! this is very controversial subj because I believe it is a hypocracy 2 every person who participates:
Why is it that people can run after lust & have sex with a total stranger, running the risk of STD's unintended pregnancy, possible victimization because they didnt take the time 2 get to know who they were sleeping with but its almost impossible 2 get the old fashioned lets run away together & get married attitude. Everybody seems 2 be looking 4 "The ONE" & trying each other on like u would a department store shoe selection...dont forget your footies! My grandparents eloped & stayed married 4 the rest of thier lives. My sister got engaged right away, but people THINK tht its safer to "get 2know som1?" But frankly, if a person is a liar, a cheat, bad person, whatever, they r going 2continue & can trick u no matter wht. If they are not, then they are not...people dnt run arnd changing thier charachter alignment. Gtta tk a Chance.

2007-09-13 00:50:41 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

One of my best friends had a kind of messy break up with her boyfriend of 5 years. She is trying to make it as clean as possible but its complicated. I knew her boyfriend and even though he is her Ex-boyfriend now I still want to be friends with him! I'm completely neutral, I refuse to pass any information from one party to the other, they have to do that themselves. But my friend seems to have such a problem with it. She broke up with HIM and she doesn't own him! I'm trying to explain that to her nicely but it really seems to bother her a lot that I continue to talk to him. I hope I mentioned everything... but what should I say to her to get my point across without risking our relationship?
Just an FYI: I'm engaged to a guy I've been with for 3 years, so there is no chance of a more than friends relationship with her ex-boyfriend.

2007-09-13 00:32:20 · 9 answers · asked by Veronica 2 in Friends

a few months ago i called my best friend a whore because she made a mistake and had a one night stand with someone when she already had a fiance. She definitely flipped out on me and so did her gfs. The reason im so mad at her is cuz i spent alot of time "protecting " her from doing stupid things when she was drunk cuz i hate cheating. I feel like theres no way to get our friendship back cuz we havent talked for 5 months. what do you think. I know i shouldnt have been so hard on her and just forgiven her. Im male by the way

2007-09-13 00:31:49 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

So I just moved out into the world after having three years of success. The major agreement that i made with myself was that i would continue with the same recipe that created my recent success. No major job changes, no complications from women, and limited drinking/weekends. Well its been a week, i moved in with two women, they have stopped speaking to one another, i woke up this morning with two empty bottles of wine and evidence that one had spent the night in my room, and in two days i have an interview for a position with more money/ possibly more responsibilities that i want/could handle. does this not sound like a recipe for disaster? I could potentially take a new job leading to potential failure, cause a rift between two roommates that had previously lived in harmony, break one or both hearts, end up getting kicked out of the house. this current trend could leave me jobless and homeless, so what do you make of that?

2007-09-13 00:21:52 · 12 answers · asked by steveo 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My husband and I bought a house together with my mom, she put down 30,000 on the house and we got the mortgage (both parties provided something the other couldn't) in our names.When we bought the house she said if my bro(he's older)lost his place she wanted him to be able to come and live here for a while.He's lived with us since a month after we bought the house, and it's very stressful. My husband and I have 1 child and 1 on the way, my bro has 1 too.His son isn't supervised or corrected when he behave's bad, this rubs off on my child.Him and his son have both broke things and never fixed them in the house.I talked to my mom about all of this and told her my reasoning but I wanted my bro to move or I would.She refused to kick him out so now I am moving, but she is making me feel awful that she will loose her money since I can't afford a new place and the mortgage for here.at the same time i feel like i tried to wokr with her.

2007-09-13 00:18:26 · 3 answers · asked by Jenna24 2 in Family

my friend is going out with a guy and she wants to show him she loves him but not sleep with him. how does she do that?

2007-09-13 00:17:22 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

One of my friend's dad's died recently. I knew him, and I'm pretty sad. But I'm not sure what to say to him. His cousin is my best friend, so it was his uncle that died. I really want to try to comfort them, but I'm not sure what to do.

2007-09-13 00:09:52 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

Here's the thing... my bf's dad is in critical condition and inspite of it, he accompanied his mom to go on a tour. For me, it's really weird because they should be taking care of his dad in the hospital and even though his brothers and sisters are there taking turns to look after his dad, I think that the wife should always be there. His dad has been ill for 7 years but it's only now that he's been confined in the hospital and his condition is real bad. Though it's understandable that the wife is tired of taking care of the sick husband, I don't think that it's a valid reason to go on a vacation especially now. They'll be gone for a month and I want to give my bf a piece of my mind when he gets back. Do you think that I have the right to tell him what's on my mind or do you think that it's best to leave it alone?

2007-09-13 00:04:25 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

it seems like men only get into a relationship with me because they wanna sleep with me. right now im married to a professional boxer and he is really abusive, before him i was with a famous rapper and he was abusive it makes me think that there is something wrong with me. I am beautiful, intelligent , i make my own money, im very sweet and passionate i dont understand why noone appreciates me what can i be doing wrong.

2007-09-13 00:01:30 · 11 answers · asked by Saraiya B 1 in Singles & Dating