So my bf of 5 years cheated. He said he stopped but I just happened to look at his cell because he told me to check and see if his mom called him and there was this number I didn't know on it so I searched it and it's the girl who he was cheating with and he talks to her all the time still!! There's no point in me saying anything, we have kids together and everything. Well my best friend knows and she told some of our friends who don't like my bf and now the guys are calling me and telling me to move on he won't stop and even with kids I could start over and don't think otherwise. And 3 of my friends actually called me and said hey let me take you out. So what do I do? I don't want to be like him, and it's great knowing my friends are there trying to make me feel better, but I also can't leave him. I don't have the guts. What should I do? Also this is the 5 th time I caught him cheating.
2007-09-13 01:27:45 · 12 answers · asked by blueeyedmama 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes I got tested for everything!! And I'm clean. I get tested every year because I saw friends who had no idea get something. So at least I'm doing that
2007-09-13 01:47:00 · update #1
its just a bf, no ring. get your stuff and move. now you know what to expect. come on. get strong.
2007-09-13 01:35:05 · answer #1 · answered by just hanging around 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all after 5 yrs. and children he has yet to put a ring on your finger? Well, I guess it will be better that way because you at least don't have to go through a divorce. You need to leave now, take him to court for child support, prove the fact that he was cheating on you, and just make a better life for yourself and your children. Obviously, with him cheating on you so many times there is no chance that he will stop. And you are disrespecting yourself and your children by putting up with this, it's not setting a good example to your kids at all. Yes, it is hard to be a single mom but it's better than being miserable right? You can get through this, but you need to get out! I mean, you also have to think about with all the people he may be cheating on you with what if he brings you home an STD?? Get out fast!!!!!
2007-09-13 01:42:02 · answer #2 · answered by Chelley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are unhappy and cant see a way out leave. now if you can work it out and forgive stay. let me tell you this any man that wants to date you right now is not your freind. i have a girl best friend and even if i liked her romanticly i would not try to ask her how right after her man cheated on ther. you need time to heal and these looser who are asking you out are not respecting the fact that you need time to really deal with this and not a quick fling. Decide one way or the other and stick with it . if your bf keeps talking to this girl then just leave because unless you guys are going to have a threesome then the relationship is already doomed. Let me put it a different way i you can forgive thats great but if you cannot stand the thought of you guy having to watch your bf have sex with another girl then you know you need to go and heal and survive this blow. stay strong you will be surprised how powerfull you can be. good luck
2007-09-13 01:48:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the 5th time and quite frankly, he is never going to stop because you allow him to get away with it. He needs to realize that this is not acceptable in your relationship and you need to get some guts and leave. He has no respect for you or the kids. God forbid he brings something home to you. A friend of mine was with a guy who could not keep it in his pants. She was with him for a long time and they had a daughter together. She finally had enough and got the guts to leave but not before he brought something home to her. That something was HIV and now she has to be on a bunch of meds and her life has been cut short. Get out now and I would make an appointment with your doc to be tested for everything. You do not know who he has been sleeping with or who those girls have been sleeping with.
2007-09-13 01:40:59 · answer #4 · answered by bluemysti 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't want to change, you have to just deal with it or leave. My husband cheated and we worked it out, but it was not easy. Your bf doesn't sound like he plans to change any time soon, he doesn't even sound like he is trying to hide it. If you decide to leave, make sure you get something LEGAL that requires him to pay child support. And by the way, you DO have the guts. It sounds like you have a great support system, and would have a lot of help!
2007-09-13 01:38:13 · answer #5 · answered by Kelly C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave and don't look back. b/c he will continue to cheat as long as u let him. Take your friends advice. U and Ur kids deserve alot better. The more u stay and put up with it the more he is going to do it. so please leave, ur kids don't need to be around that. leave him and then go out with one of your guy friends. it want hurt nothing. Trust me i've been there done that. and as long as u stay it don't get any easier.
2007-09-13 02:12:33 · answer #6 · answered by bluedevilsgirl07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if hes cheated on u 5 times then thats crazy...he obviously doesnt care very much about u or ur relationship for him to be doin that...im sure hes cheated more then 5 times though cuz these are the only times u know of...its even harder cuz u guys have kids together...but honestly, i dun think u could ever be happy with this guy cuz he continues to betray u...u need to find sumone who will appreciate u...u dun deserve to be treated like garbage...
2007-09-13 02:02:54 · answer #7 · answered by Jessica A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no honey, u have to talk to him, tell him what his feelings r 4 u, and if there is no more love, well it's got to end, u'll have to leave him, and trust me things happen for a reason, there is someone better out there for u!! he might just be using u, u don't want that do u? so sometimes is better to end things in the good way, and not wait till it get worst...well good luck!!
2007-09-13 01:38:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my God!!
He cheated you 5 times and you're still together??
Break it off with him before its too late to keep on living without him. Trust me on this.
2007-09-13 01:37:16 · answer #9 · answered by pitch black 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Excuse me the 5th time ? what in gods name are you waiting for ? are you waiting for him to give you a disease ? God girl grow a set and tell him to get the he-- on down the road do a ray charles ,you know hit the road jack and dont come back .He is a a--hole and scum. tell him to go or you will go . good luck .
2007-09-13 01:38:49 · answer #10 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him! problem solved! A new happier life in front of you, so get moving hon! Have a great day.
2007-09-13 01:37:01 · answer #11 · answered by wheeliebin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋