Family & Relationships - 13 September 2007

Nearly 3 years & I still miss her.

She began working nights 10+ years ago, - I asked her to work days to be on the same schedule. Said she could earn money & home school our 2 retarded sons. Pressure grew - nervous breakdown, abandoned our sons for 2 days - I was out of town. After, she agreed to a public school for them 4 services.

Her mother got sick & died - she grew even more depressed than with the boys & was on 3 types of psych meds at 1 time. She grew more & more distant, refusing sex or being very erotic, very happy or sadly distant... with no in between.

I used her car one day and found 2 strange books about personality disorders with notes she wrote about me having the disorder. The author is Sam Vaknin A TOTAL FRAUD about NPD. She tried to diagnose me & used this book 2 blame me for everything. She left. So much hate from her, so undeserved. She's improved but is 2 proud 2 say she was wrong even though she admitted she could have done things differently

2007-09-13 03:24:20 · 16 answers · asked by ? 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-09-13 03:24:15 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Also, 1 family mbr lives in home, that is deeded to 4 family mbrs.Can this person make improvements to home, with out knowledge of other family mbrs AND then expect them to help pay for it? Person that lives in home (home is paid for) pays no Rent, just insurance and taxes. What are the "rights" of all parties? Can other 3 move in, IF they desired? If 1 mbr holds more interest in the home, does that person have more "say"?Thanks.

2007-09-13 03:24:08 · 2 answers · asked by musicnut 1 in Family

i've been really close with this mr.popular in my school for almost 3 months.i broke up with my ex-bf bcause of him.but i never told him ,that he is the reason of my breakin up story.i really really like him,before we're this close,i play a lil bit hard to him,and he didnt give up at all.And now ,when i fall too deep on him,why he dont ask me out yet?peeps in our school thinks that we're dating.but we're not.last nite,in my friend's party,he told me "i like you,seriously "then he kissed me.but today,i saw him flirted with another girl.what should i do?

2007-09-13 03:23:04 · 3 answers · asked by msdigitalism 2 in Singles & Dating

I have a friend he is 40 years older than me. I'm 30 he's 70. Both of us divorced. He is a well respected doctor from my town. Well he invited me this weekend to another city 6 hrs from where we live. I want to go but I have a feeling he's gonna want sex, how can I make it clear to him that if we go is just as friends?

2007-09-13 03:21:44 · 42 answers · asked by needsuggestions 1 in Singles & Dating

Despite the question language, i really am a sensitive guy. I dont wear panties or anything, but I listen to what my wife says...and what she doesnt say. I just have the feeling that no matter what I do, she has an image in her head of what a man is and does, and Im stuck with that. She constantly criticizes me for things that I do and dont do, and then tells me Im overly sensitive when I stand up for myself. I take the trash out, I get up for work every day at 6, I take her out, I tell her I love her everyday, the sex is good and regular, I take her to the market after work because she wont walk 2 blocks, I take her and the baby to the park and to the mall regularly, but If Im tired and want to sleep for and hour I'm lazy? Or if I didnt put a bib on the baby and she drips a little food on her clothes Im a bafoon?? Im looking for an honest womans response...what is going on??? Is she just annoyed with me? I feel like shes not in my corner, which hurts me alot

2007-09-13 03:20:43 · 22 answers · asked by john b 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I'm attending school to become a wedding planner but have some doubts... I've always wanted to become a wedding planner/party planer and make other people dreams come true... I'm just concerned if this career will take some time to build clients. I am a people person - wondering if anyone has advise on what to ask clients?

2007-09-13 03:19:02 · 5 answers · asked by PineApple 1 in Weddings

OK, I can understand my 4 year old crying when she wants something, but my wife does it too...Is it fair that she will cry if she is upset, or wants me to do something for her?

2007-09-13 03:16:13 · 8 answers · asked by photoguy1967 3 in Family

My husband and have a great relationship except for in one aspect, his family. His sister is my age and is constantly being negative toward and saying things like I'm a little 'chunky' and that so-and-so doesn't look good on me. I'm an attractive 24 year old woman with an hourglass figure (36D:40-30-40) and my husband loves it. His sister on the other hand is about 100lbs soaking wet and flat-chested and slim-hipped. But every time I mention that his sister said something hurtful he always just says she's 'always been that way' and that I should just accept that. I've told her I don't appreciate her sniping comments and she just laughs it off and says she's 'joking.' Should I just take this sort of abuse from this woman or am I right in thinking that my husband needs to tell his sister that it being being nasty to his wife won't be tolerated?

2007-09-13 03:15:35 · 17 answers · asked by Kitten 4 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-09-13 03:13:16 · 28 answers · asked by kim l 2 in Singles & Dating

I want to leave my husband for a while. I have made him leave a couple times before and he knows that because he has to live with his mother he will eventually come back and things will be ok for a while but then back to the same old junk. We have been married for alomost 8 years. I have two children 13 and 16 and when we get along we really get along but when we argue we really argue and most of the time it is how I am raising my children he thinks I shoul dbe more strict and i think if you don;t allow them to make some decisions and mistakes on their own they will never make it in this big old worl of ours. we started arguing on sunday it is now thursday and he has been giving me the silent treatment since then. i think if i pack my things and leave perhaps it will give him a wakeup call that i am not going to continue to put up with this crap anymore i love him very much but i cannot live the remainder of my life with these up and down moods do you think leving will wake him up

2007-09-13 03:12:29 · 22 answers · asked by Scorpio_sting 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-09-13 03:11:22 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-09-13 03:10:55 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

skinny girls with bones sticking out or thick girls with meat you can grab onto?

2007-09-13 03:08:16 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-09-13 03:07:22 · 4 answers · asked by Honey 1 in Marriage & Divorce

So i am going to homecoming with this boy and i just got braces yesterday. Homecoming is this saturday and i want to be able to have a confident smile. I can't do a closed mouth smile because it looks bumpy. And then there is this whole subject of kissing with braces? How do you go about it? Can he really get stuck in them? Thanks guys!

2007-09-13 03:07:05 · 7 answers · asked by Shelly 1 in Singles & Dating

My daughter will be nine in Nov., She is the most loving and caring little girl. She has a outstanding personality. She is in third grade and has many, many friends. What is troubling me is, she seems to care more about her friends, socializing, looking pretty, ect... She wants to talk on the phone all of the time. She is having trouble with reading, staying focused, rushes through everything. She doesnt listen to anything I say!!! She looks at me when I am talking, but when I ask her what I said, she cant remember. Also, when I ask her if she remembers what I told her a few days later, she will say I never said that to her. She is still switching her letters around in her writing. Example- dad(she will write bab) or love ( she will write lvoe) she does this often. I had deslexia when I was her age, but we had her tested and they say her vision is perfect. She was extremely hiper when she was younger, but now has settled down a lot. I am really worried!! What should I do?

2007-09-13 03:06:55 · 2 answers · asked by matty 2 in Family

My wife works for a large company and she is the only woman in her department. Her friends are mostly men... Lately she seems to have become very protective of one of them and I do not like it at all. I am convinced he is just waiting for the chance to get in her pants. I happen to know one guy my wife works with and have befriended him so that, without letting him in on my secret thoughts, am using him knowing that he would spill it out if something went on between my wife and this other guy. Eventually this guy's name did come up during conversation and I then asked my friend to invite this guy to come along for a drink. Neither of them know who I am married to. We went out the three of us and there he started spilling his guts about how he had a crush on this hot woman at his workplace, and how he intends to bone her. He even went as far as saying, among other things, that by the look of things, she has the hots for him and is asking for it. I am now unsure how to tackle this.

2007-09-13 03:03:29 · 13 answers · asked by Rick 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Give me your own personal definition of Love, how you find it, and how you know that He/She is The One.

2007-09-13 03:02:46 · 24 answers · asked by Melinda 2 in Singles & Dating

i want to know what i can compliment this amazing guy with so he will know i have admiration for him

2007-09-13 03:01:15 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

a boy keeps harresing me in the class.i don't want to complaint the teachers about it and be a small boy.i know he is stronger then me.what should i do.should i challange him to a fight or sit quitely.

2007-09-13 03:00:29 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

About how much does it cost to change your name after you get married in Illinois? We live in Madison County if that helps any. Thank You.

2007-09-13 02:59:08 · 8 answers · asked by butterfly_arashi 2 in Weddings

I sent my cousin (she's 41) a few photos of us ages ago, and not once did she even have the decency to reply. Each time she sends/emails me photos of her, I eagerly thank and welcome them. Now my mum wants to send her a handmade card with photos of her when she was a child. I said to her,"But she hasn't even answered our photos yet from a year ago". Do you think my mum is being too nice, because I certainly wouldn't send her a card like that when she rarely appreciates/acknowledges my communication with her. Before you ask, YES, she did get my photos, as they were sent (as I always do when I post anything to her) via recorded delivery.

2007-09-13 02:59:02 · 12 answers · asked by Hello 2 in Family

Hubby and I have been married for 5 years, and had been friends for 5 prior to that. We began having problems, a lot of fighting, little progress. We even tried to go on a vacation to reconnect, but we just didn't work out. Despite the divorce and the problems, I will probably always love him, because he's a really decent person, always has been. We just had problems.

I'm moving out-of-state for a my job, and to de-stress. This whole thing had me sick, but I found out that it wasn't stress, and that I'd gotten pregnant on our vacation 3 months ago. My husband found out that I hadn't been feeling well (doesn't know about the baby) through a co-worker of mine and has been leaving me messages to that he's just checking on me and to feel better.

We're getting along better since we began proceedings, and I don't want to disrupt that. I don't know what or when to tell my husband about the baby, or if I even should at all. I don't want to complicate this already complicated situation.

2007-09-13 02:58:12 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

my mum passed away just over a year ago leaving just, my dad, my 20 year old brother and myself together in the house.

This year im finishing school and i want to go travelling with my boyfriend, my brother also has a girlfriend and he is at university so isnt at home much. My eldest brother who is 26 comes over sometimes but he is also busy.

I dont want my dad to be at home by himself because thats unfair but i also want to do my own thing for a while. What can i do?

2007-09-13 02:57:19 · 4 answers · asked by kangaroo girl 3 in Family

I'm pretty sure the answer to the first question is always "yes."

But I'll be damned if I know where to start on # 2.

2007-09-13 02:55:53 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i want to get her in bed and the problem is am not ableto perform well with other women cos i keep thinking about her ? pls help me . I want sex with her !!!! Anyone angry with this dont bother to reply . Genuine help needed ?

2007-09-13 02:55:16 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year now, he is recently divorced, and shares 3 daughters w/ his ex. We spend weekends and nights together often, but when his children are with us, he doesn't act like we are a couple. We bought a boat together, my name as primary, and the boat is at my house. His children think the boat is solely his. What is going on? His children are rude to me at times, and he doesn't correct them. he thinks telling them we are a couple is "cramming things down their throat." Their mother lies to them, told them she had a 2nd job, but was really sneaking around to see a man she worked with. So it is ok for the mother to date, but not the father? Please tell me what I am not seeing here????

2007-09-13 02:55:11 · 16 answers · asked by MGrnl 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Hi im about to leave the country where i have stayed for 3 yrs in my partners hometown.We havent lived with his parents but i need to say goodbye as i am leaving to find emplyment months ahead of my partner, as i am going back to my home to the city.How do i say good bye ,like a gesture or something.i dont want to spend too much money !Any ideas ????

2007-09-13 02:55:03 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

In July 2008

2007-09-13 02:55:03 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings