I sent my cousin (she's 41) a few photos of us ages ago, and not once did she even have the decency to reply. Each time she sends/emails me photos of her, I eagerly thank and welcome them. Now my mum wants to send her a handmade card with photos of her when she was a child. I said to her,"But she hasn't even answered our photos yet from a year ago". Do you think my mum is being too nice, because I certainly wouldn't send her a card like that when she rarely appreciates/acknowledges my communication with her. Before you ask, YES, she did get my photos, as they were sent (as I always do when I post anything to her) via recorded delivery.
2007-09-13 02:59:02 · 12 answers · asked by Hello 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Let your Mum do what makes her Happy. So the cousin does not know how to reciprocate, so what.
What is most important is that your Mum is Happy.
2007-09-13 03:05:51 · answer #1 · answered by Dionannan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked her for a response? Some people just need to be gently reminded about their manners. Tell your mum to write a short note in the card, asking the cousin to let her know how she liked the photos. Maybe the cousin wasn't taught about sending out thank you's when receiving a gift, no matter how small. If she still doesn't acknowledge it, you might have to make a decision whether or not to continue sending the cousin anything at all, or just keep sending her stuff, knowing at least you're doing your part in keeping her in the family loop. I have an aunt that I've been sending Christmas cards to every year for over 20 years, yet she never sends me a card back, or even a note. But, I love her and want her to know what's going on in my family, so I will continue to send her cards, not expecting anything in return. It's your choice. <*)))><
2007-09-13 10:08:04 · answer #2 · answered by Sandylynn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is between your cousin and your mother and you should respect that. If you don't like how your cousin behaves to you, then by all means break off communication and live out the rest of your life never speaking to her. Then when she dies and you show her a thing or two by not showing up at the funeral you will feel vindicated having punished her for this disrespectful behavior.
However, again your mother and your cousin are not you, and its none of your business.
2007-09-13 10:27:06 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mother is like that to ! yes she is being to kind but if she wants to send the photos you should let her. Maybe your cousin will realise the effort you mother and you have gone to and say thank you, it might even encourage her to keep in contact because that is a very nice gesture.
2007-09-13 10:03:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even if she doesn't get a reply,a mother's act of kindness is genuine. She's the other 50% kind of mothers unlike>> (the ones that drown, suffocate, dump them in trash). A genuine act of kindness. Let her do it. It will make HER feel better. lol. Really. I would know. My mom is exactly the same way. She doesn't care if she gets anything in return.
2007-09-13 10:11:12 · answer #5 · answered by LadyD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Just because kindness isn't reciprocated doesn't mean you can't continue to be kind. Being kind shouldn't be based on getting something back. You should practice kindness just because it's a good thing to do, not because you expect to be thanked or given something back in anyway. A true kind person will live life being kind just because they know it's right, not because they need a "pat on the back" for doing it.
Kudos to your mom.
2007-09-13 10:05:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't call it being kind, I would call it being realistic. Your Mother is giving with the true spirit of giving. She is not expecting anything in return.
2007-09-13 10:16:42 · answer #7 · answered by jcf6865 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that mean why would she send her more photos if she don't even care about it
yes your mom is being kind
2007-09-13 10:06:11 · answer #8 · answered by maya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your like me, i wouldnt send anything anymore either, best thing, let your mum do what shes gotta do, when you next get sent pics, DONT REPLY!!! haha
Lets us know if your mum gets a reply!!! :D
2007-09-13 10:02:39 · answer #9 · answered by Saz 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
hey if it make's yor mom happy why not? don't worry about it you have to keep being the nice person that you are.
2007-09-13 10:07:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋