a boy keeps harresing me in the class.i don't want to complaint the teachers about it and be a small boy.i know he is stronger then me.what should i do.should i challange him to a fight or sit quitely.
2007-09-13 03:00:29 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
the best thing i can tell you is to just act like you dont care. blow him off completely, that way it seems to everyone else that he's wasting his time harassing you. and if he doesn't get the point, tell him "Your wasting your time, you're not going to get a fight out of me. if you want a fight i suggest you find someone else, I'm not going to be much fun, if you try to beat up someone who's not going to fight back, your friends will think your a wuss for picking on someone who doesn't care".
OR
secretly make his life miserable. SECRETLY being the key word. leave a anonyomous note or myspace comment to his girlfriend, saying that he cheated on her (don't give out any specific info otherwise she could figure out that he's not the one who's lying)
call in an anonymous tip to the police that you think he's shoplifting or has drugs in his car.
call his parents and say that you caught him doing steroids in the boys bathroom or that he tried to sell you weed.
call his boss and pretend your him and say something like you hate work and that you quit. or call his boss a bunch of names.
even if nothing happens or he doesn't get in trouble, you've made his life very inconvenent or hectic for a little while.
the important thing is just not to get caught or expose yourself. dont even tell your friends, they might slip and acciendently tell the wrong person that it was you. just keep it to yourself and concider it a personal victory.
2007-09-13 03:16:23 · answer #1 · answered by sprikles_777 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feel sorry for him. He's a bully. Bullies bully other people usually because they have low self esteem are angry inside. could it be his home life is terrible? Sometimes bullies bully people because they are jealous of you. Either way you have something they want and don't have. Whether it be you are a high achiever, captain of debate team, good looking, lots of friends, popular or a nerd- (so to speak) No, don't be a tattletale unless it starts to get physical. Talk to your parents, maybe ask them what they would do, or would have done or did when they were kids.
All you can do is look him straight in the eyes and say something like, I don't know what your problem is, don't make your problems mine, but if you want to talk, I will listen...then go from there. If he can't or won't, doesn't want to - walk away with your head held high. chances are he will leave you alone once you stand up and make it known that his behavior is unacceptable and you will not tolerate.
2007-09-13 10:15:45 · answer #2 · answered by tbird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit quietly? No. Don't be afraid of complaining to the teacher. It won't stop. Believe me. I've been there. It won't stop. You NEED to tell the teacher pronto. Or at least someone you trust that can tell a teacher for you. Don't challenge him to a fight because you ruin your reputation with teachers and in turn defend the wrong person. Let the teachers know...all of them...of any conflict this person has brought upon and let them know. Once you do decide to fight him or whatnot, then they will take your side and say that you had complained about it before and nothing was done, and that this other student has been harrassing you for some time. Counselors and other authority will consider it. TRUST ME.
2007-09-13 10:05:55 · answer #3 · answered by LadyD 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definetly do not fight him. Think of all of the bad repercussions that could come of fighting him. You could be suspended from school, and your teachers that you have now may tell your future teachers that you are a trouble maker. Plus, if you don't do well in the fight think of how more kids may taunt you. You should go to the teacher, but wait to talk to her after class of in between classes. You can act like you packing your belongings slowly and just wait for the other kids to leave. Explain to the the teacher that he is bullying you and that you would really like for her/him to not tell the boy that he came to you. Surely your teacher will respect that. Just do your best to ignore him. I know that can be really hard, but I really believe that it will work out in your favor in the end. Don't indulge his pestering as it will only make it worse.
2007-09-13 10:27:47 · answer #4 · answered by AB04 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No do not challenge him! It is the schools responsibility to keep you safe and in a non threatening enviroment, they can't do that if they are unaware of a problem. You should talk to your teacher, just ask her to keep an ear out for him, that way she can correct the problem with out anyone else knowing you spoke to a teacher. You should also talk to your parents if they are the type who will listen to you.
2007-09-13 10:13:27 · answer #5 · answered by ReBelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fighting doesn't do anything. Only causes more problems. My daughter has the same problem. Don't be afraid to speak up to the teacher. Ignore this person because sometimes if you do he will notice it doesn't bother you anymore and hopefully it will fade away. But I do know one thing is NOT to keep quiet.
2007-09-13 10:07:16 · answer #6 · answered by conny 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could tell him that he can harass you until the cows come home, you're not fighting with him, and have no issue with him... ask him to leave you alone.
If he doesn't, you really need to take this up with the school administration. This kid obviously has issues, and you don't need the aggravation.
2007-09-13 10:05:56 · answer #7 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would not complain to the teacher. nor would I go to fight him.
Just ignore him, pretend you don't hear him. and just get on with your life. but, if he continues tell him to Shut Up and Get A Life!
2007-09-13 10:10:14 · answer #8 · answered by ms.trinuh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best way to defeat these bullies is to kill them with kindness! It really get under their skin!
2007-09-13 10:32:05 · answer #9 · answered by MarkyMarkC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friend syas to challenge him.but if ur weaker i think u should lay low.but maybe standing up is a good thing.u cant run away all your life.
2007-09-13 10:05:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋