why is my wife such a nagging chicken face?

Question

Despite the question language, i really am a sensitive guy. I dont wear panties or anything, but I listen to what my wife says...and what she doesnt say. I just have the feeling that no matter what I do, she has an image in her head of what a man is and does, and Im stuck with that. She constantly criticizes me for things that I do and dont do, and then tells me Im overly sensitive when I stand up for myself. I take the trash out, I get up for work every day at 6, I take her out, I tell her I love her everyday, the sex is good and regular, I take her to the market after work because she wont walk 2 blocks, I take her and the baby to the park and to the mall regularly, but If Im tired and want to sleep for and hour I'm lazy? Or if I didnt put a bib on the baby and she drips a little food on her clothes Im a bafoon?? Im looking for an honest womans response...what is going on??? Is she just annoyed with me? I feel like shes not in my corner, which hurts me alot

Answer 1

You sound like a sissified man to me and real women don't like men like that you need to grow a pair and stand up to her if you want the respect you deserve and hold your ground real women want real men not some over sensitive whiner.

Answer 2

She has control issues and you need to stop her from putting you on these guilt trips. If you're tired and want to sleep for a while, do it. If she calls you lazy, tell her you've been called worse and go to sleep. If you forget to put the bib on the baby and she calls you a bafoon, tell her that you don't appreciate the name-calling. She's not annoyed with you, she just wants to stay in control. She's been doing this for quite a while. You just didn't realize it. She constantly criticizes you to hide her own imperfections. And if anyone is overly sensitive, it is her. You have to stop allowing this behavior.

When she starts being critical of you, tell her that you're not interested in her criticisms. If she has something constructive to say, you'll listen to that; but not the criticisms. These kind of people say whatever they want to say, then call you "too sensitive" when you stand up to them. Stop allowing it. Understand that a woman who has control issues is insecure. She uses guilt, sarcasm, and criticism to get her way--also to keep you from seeing her own inadequacies. She's more in her own corner than she is yours, because she's more concerned about her own security than she is yours. Doesn't mean she doesn't love you; it's just that she's insecure. You have to start being the man in her life, not the little boy she can play games with. Once you make her understand that you're not going to put up with it, she'll stop treating you this way. And stop talking about wearing panties. You're a man, not a joke!

Once she sees that you're not going to play with her, she may start asking if you love her. This is because her insecurities will take over and she'll become afraid of losing you. Don't let this stop you from standing your ground. If she asks if you love her, or something like that, let her know you do. Don't, however, let her put you back under her control.

Answer 3

You sound like a perfect 10 to me, I dont know what her problem is other than maybe she doesnt realize that she could have it a lot worse. Keep your head up, you arent doing a thing wrong, what she doesnt like another woman would love, ( dont say that!) I think youve been soo good that she takes you for granted. Maybe hangingout with friends or not doing the things that she doesnt appreciate anyways will wake her up. Im not saying change completely or treat her badly, but she does need to know what life would be without you. Do you have any buddies you can go on a weekend trip with or something? Chicken face thats cute!

Answer 4

There are tactful ways to do things. I used to hate it when my husband wouldn't put that bib on... but I look at it this way, yes it irritates me, but I have to spray my kids clothes with shout any way, so what does it matter if it is dirt or applesauce? I got the best advice from a friend of mine... you can ask a man to do something or you can tell him how to do it... you can't do both. So I just thank my husband for what he does to help, I stopped judging that the kids didn't have their "outfits" on, but the clothes did match, I stopped saying that the cups go here and plates go there. I just thank him for getting the kids ready to make my morning smooth, I thank him when he takes the trash out, or puts the dishes away. I just appreciate him.

The way I see it... Even if my Mom does things in my house, its not the way I do, because no one does it like me but ME. So, I just have learned to appreciate the help and just tell him I love that he is trying to make my day easier on me. Thats all I can do as his wife.

Answer 5

From's a woman's perspective, she doesn't realize she is doing this. I know because my husband and I have recently started having problems with this. Since I've become pregnant, I'm extra bitchy or so he says. He's much like you in many respects but I find something to fuss about. You need to talk to your wife about this and let her know up front how you feel. Usually this kind of behavior comes from women's insecurities about men. That's where mine came from bc I never had a dad. good luck.

Answer 6

It's hard adjusting to motherhood.

She's probably fed up with being stuck in the house with the baby. It's such a huge responsibility looking after a 'tiny'.

I get p*ssed off with my husband because he takes me for granted, I have ALL the household responsibilities and he expects me to cook and pick up after him all the time. I have no break and no time to myself. Those are the things that drive me mad.

You'll have to sit your wife down and talk to her about things. Find out what's bugging her.

If she's niggly for no good reason then get her some 5htp to relieve depression (it's a natural product). Make sure she gets enough rest too as tiredness causes irritability. Rhodiola Rosea can help with exhaustion and also helps the general mood. A good multivitamin/mineral can also help.

Answer 7

looks like u married a nut case, and the answers that she is adjusting to motherhood is bull crap she isn't adjusting she is contolling the situation. she can't walk 2 blocks with the baby in nice weather which would be healthy and good for both of them. sorry man u need to get ur things and leave before she takes ur things and goes. ok u didn't mention if she could cook but i'm just gonna guess that she can't, i bet u do that too. before u leave take her underware tie them in a knot and stuff then in her @ss. good luck man

Answer 8

she feels out of control and she's responding by wanting to control you? Is this normal behavior for her or is this new?
There's something going on here with her but it's hard to tell exactly what it is. Maybe she's lacking confidence in her abilities as a mother and to deflect those bad feelings, she has to make you feel like you're a worse parent that she is? Or she's displacing her anger onto you?
If you defend yourself, you're validating her accusations. When she says something rude or nasty try saying something like "You must be having a bad day. Are you ok? Do you want to talk about anything?"
See what happens.

Answer 9

Sounds like she may just be feeling a little overwhelmed with life, and taking it out on you. She probably isn't doing this on purpose. I would suggest she has a day to herself, maybe a night with her friends, or maybe just the two of you can go on a mini vacation together and just relax. Communicate with her and let her know that she is not alone, and whatever can be done to help her will be done.

Answer 10

Oh wow! She is a nag!! She should be on her knees thanking you for all that you do. Maybe she is just one of those women where nothing is good enough and never will be. Or maybe there is something going on that you don't know anything about...have you talked to her about her criticizing you all the time?