Family & Relationships - 13 September 2007

You all make it seem so easy to just get up and walk out...... I love him and the scarey thing is that i truely belive he loves me, he just can't seem to keep his dick in his pants. He is very loving and says I love you 20 times a day. He isn't very thoughful most times, but on the outside he is a sweat guy. I am going to my first time at counseling next week. I don't want a divorce, I want him to come clean and try to straighten up and keep our marriage together, but we can't if he continues to deny anything has ever happened. We have an 11 year old daughter and this will devestate her. I can't just throw 13 years away, can I??? Maybe he just has a screwed up head from childhood.....he said he would go to counseling with me, is it worth a shot???

2007-09-13 09:09:23 · 16 answers · asked by IDontGetIt 1 in Marriage & Divorce

On the Yahoo homepage there is an article (Called "Giving up on love") about a woman who never gets asked out. I'm curious to know how many women find themselves in this situation? It is not unusual for men, of course, because men are typically expected to do the asking, so if they are too shy to ask, then they're out of luck. I was a shy man for the first 30 years of my life, so I know what it's like to be socially invisible. But I have the impression that for women the problem tends to be somewhat different. That "finding a guy" is not such a problem, but "finding a GOOD guy" – someone you would really want to spend much time with, can be an seemingly impossible task. I appreciate any enlightenment that anyone can offer on this. Am I just way off base? Also, women, how would you like men to express interest in you? Any tips on how a man can avoid being annoying, while still somehow letting you know that he is attracted to you and would like to spend time with you?

2007-09-13 09:07:56 · 10 answers · asked by eroticohio 5 in Singles & Dating

pretty serious and i liked him a lot and he was very sweet and loving - though his flaw was that he was always talking about how his parents divorced really messed him up and how his relationship with them is terrible and how he felt they've neglected him (he obviously has a lot of psych issues - but i still liked him a lot, because i found that we connected on various levels and he treated me well). At the end of the summer, i was leaving to go away to school - he didn't come see me before i left. i felt hurt - i emailed him later to act like i didn't care (Even tho i did) and he got upset at me for seeming so careless. then i wrote back and said "i actually do care and im upset you didn't come see me". he didn't respond back until a month later, in which he asked me how things at school were going and that he missed me (he didn't mention the fight). i miss him a lot and wanna be with him but i don't want him to feel like he can take advantage of me. i wanna make him go crazy for me.

2007-09-13 09:05:44 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I really like someone who returns my feelings in the same manner. He just recently moved away for college and we only had one date. We keep in touch and talk almost every day. Nothing in our feelings has changed. I recognize the pressures and challenges a long distance relationship can bring. Nevertheless, I think we could both handle it.
We are both very shy about bringing up anything concerning ourselves (as in relationship subjects). He is someone I can completely trust because I've known him for a few years and can trust his character. I'm shy and worried about bringing up the subject because I had a previous bad experience with someone else. How can I bring up the question of whether we are in an actual relationship or not? Should I just be direct and take the risk or just let things continue as they are, with no other reason but that uncertainty to complain of?

2007-09-13 09:03:02 · 1 answers · asked by P 2 in Singles & Dating

im messing up bad . me and my wife got in a fight and she packed up all her things and left. were fighting cause im jelouse i al ways bugg her when she goes out . i dont know whats wrong with me . y can i leave her alone . does any body know what i can do to stop bugging her . how do i control my jelousy .. i want her back with me i miss her so much . wats a good way to make some one forgive u

2007-09-13 09:02:28 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

she's a great roomate except for the snoring matter.

2007-09-13 09:01:51 · 15 answers · asked by Leana 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I haven't had sex for nine months now. But I saw a handsome guy about 6months ago and I can't seem to get him out of my head. Everytime I think of dating or having sex I think of him. I would like to think that I genuinely like him but maybe I am starving for sex.

2007-09-13 09:01:35 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My husband cheated and left me back in July for another woman he met online for sex. In the past few weeks, I have been on an emotional rollercoaster and just trying to move forward in my life. Just recently I started realizing that he really was never the best for me. Why couldn't I see it like that before?
We live in the same town and I saw him last weekend sitting at a light, with his boat and new whore in tow. They didn't see me. I think God is punishing me but my friends say that it might of happened that way to HELP me deal with getting past him.
I was a loving, caring, loyal wife so I wonder if he sees the opposite now in me? All the nice things I did, etc. Maybe not now but one day he might when he realizes he may never be lucky enough to find another woman like me again in his life! Doesn't that old saying go "you don't know what you've got till it's gone". Divorce has been filed, no children involved (thank you Lord)

2007-09-13 09:00:49 · 17 answers · asked by texas_redlips 1 in Marriage & Divorce

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I met this girl and we really hit it off, did loads of fun things together for 3 weeks but then she moved away. She came back to pick up some stuff&stayed with me.I asked her if we could be together properly,but she seemed funny about it even though we'd been sleeping together, said she was bad at talking about things.Eventually she agreed and we been together 2 months now. But last week we were going2sleep &she suffered a panic attack, said it was brought on by something i did but wouldn't tell me what. She also said that she has made the mistake in the past of getting together with people out of guilt, because they pressured her.
Then again, 2day she text me saying she's frightened of actually liking me. What the hell is going on? What should I do?

2007-09-13 08:59:13 · 36 answers · asked by Robert M 1 in Singles & Dating

If he keeps the door open when you're in his room? He's the type of guy that's very private and usually keeps the door closed when friends are around...

2007-09-13 08:57:22 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My mom just had surgery on her shoulder. She broke it while running a triathalon. Flowers are no good and food is no good as well. What do I do? My mom is very hip and has a great sence of humor! She is 55.

2007-09-13 08:56:27 · 2 answers · asked by Johnny Elbows 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

ok, so im super confused, theres this guy at work, who i think likes me,but im not too sure. at days hes always teasing me, and to make me jealous he tells he how he was talking to "hot babes" al day. when he sees that i get mad or ignore him, he replies, "im just kidding u kno that ur the only girl i like". but that thing he, he flirts, teases me, calls me names, and its hard for me to know if he's serious. i made fun of him, and he replied, "u kno u think im cute'. so, wats the deal ,does he like me? why hasnt he asked me out yet. (i usually flirt back, or call im names, we're very immature).

2007-09-13 08:55:38 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Most of us use pet names for our lover's sex organ. What's yours? Have you heard of someone else's pet name?

remember to keep it clean and fun.

2007-09-13 08:50:20 · 19 answers · asked by estimator01 4 in Marriage & Divorce

it always hits me how people answer or the outlook on morals. a lot here say stripclubs and even lapdances are ok, but then they are ? about going to dinner with the other sex while you are married and its a big no no. that was just a example. i see many things here that make me wonder. whats up with all these double standards? has anyone else noticed?

2007-09-13 08:50:13 · 16 answers · asked by not this way 5 in Marriage & Divorce

What is it that makes them "a little special" to you?

2007-09-13 08:49:37 · 30 answers · asked by HAPPY HEART 3 in Friends

Husband has now been asked to take his four children and provide a home for them because mom is on drugs. This situation has been going on for about 4 years and now it's take them or foster care will have them. We have been married for 6 years; have a three bedroom ranch home; my son and daughter live with us (daughter in college). We really don't have the extra room; they would be sleeping on cots in the living room. Three girls (19, 16, 15) one boy (14). I have been accused of not caring because I haven't responded as to what should happen. His children have alot of anger because they feel they have been neglected by him, mother's family. Now he said "he is going to do what he needs to do for his kids--and if that means moving out and getting a place for them to live and he live with them--that's what he is going to do". I'm crushed and now our marriage is over. I am I wrong for being mad because I was not asked first?

2007-09-13 08:48:51 · 29 answers · asked by buckeyemom 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My boyfriend used to be a complete player. Never dated girls, just used them for (yeah, this sounds HORRIBLE) sex & money... I think he needs to feel wanted by girls, and he talks to other girls a lot, and I let him. Is it wrong for him to flirt with other girls, as long as its not physical? Am I stupid for letting him do this? Or is it letting him be himself enough that he'll remain faithful to me but still fulfill his need to feel wanted? I know he's not just using me, cuz I don't buy him things, and he could have sex with anyone, there would be no reason for him to stay with me instead of just being with a few girls and not have to deal with the issues of having a girlfriend. I've met his family and he says he wants to marry me and have kids with me. Do I continue to trust him and let him flirt and call other girls or do I put a stop to it? Will he be driven to cheat if he doesn't feel desired by other girls, or will it make him remain faithful?? Thanks for your help!!!!

2007-09-13 08:48:31 · 1 answers · asked by LP 1 in Singles & Dating

to someone else? Just a crush... I would never cheat. Just thinking of my boyfriend having a crush on someone else breaks my heart. But, I can't help it. I have a crush on someone. AAAHHH!!!

2007-09-13 08:47:59 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

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Okay, so I MONITOR him and am uncomfortable BECAUSE there is suspicion of infidelity here. I have been married for 13 years and in that 13 years I have come to find out that he has been at strip poker parties, didn't come home a few nights......to drunk. But he has alwasy seemed to have a good story that has gotten him out of it. Lately a somethings got back to me that he screwed a girl from a local bar that he hung out at. He had come home VERY late and drunk a few times. He had her in his cell phone under an alias.......I saw a text message from her saying "too bad that rumor got started we could have tried out my new bed" AND the newest kicker I found a box of condoms (newly bought) hidden in my garage. He says nothing happened with the girl he was just lending moral support to her and for the condoms he said he bought them while he was out of town on a boys weekend away, but never used them, how lucky for me???? So now tell me I am being paranoid about the internet porn.....

2007-09-13 08:47:43 · 16 answers · asked by IDontGetIt 1 in Marriage & Divorce

If you liked a girl, but she had a boyfrirend, would you stop flirting with her if her boyfriend called you and told you to? If you knew that her boyfriend could most definitely beat you up? But there's a catch...would you still stop if he went to a different school and you never saw him? Cause I'm tempted to get my boyfriend to call this guy if it'll stop the flirting.

2007-09-13 08:46:07 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have been with a man for 11yrs now..we have kids together and I have 2 kids prior from another relationship I was in before we got together. For 10 years now he has been verbally abusing me. And now since we have moved to another state..going on a year..he has gotten worse. What should I do? What can I do? He is controlling. I haven't worked in like 10 years..he tells me.. I can't. I have no money, no car..no nothing to help me escape this "HELL" my kids and I are going through. well I do have access to his accounts and I do drive but the things are not mines to just get and just leave and be happy with my kids. I hate feeling this way because when I am no happy...my kids are not happy. and they see me going through this and also hear all of it. Im so sick and tired living like this. If he knew I was on the computer..not doing something.."PRODUCTIVE" all hell would break loose. Just really tired of living like this. Do I hang around or leave?

2007-09-13 08:44:40 · 9 answers · asked by 'Fed'Up'07 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

met a girl 2 weeks ago or so. we've hung out 3-4 times so far. she's single.

1) asked me if i was single the first time we hung out

2) often gets changed and puts on make-up before we go out together, even if it's spur of the moment.

3) seems comfortable around me, but doesn't tell me about other guys ever.

4) told her friend, very near me, she wanted a "long term relationship" and teasingly accused me of eavesdropping.

5) friday night, she went out with me even though i asked her just a few minutes in advance. we didn't do anything, but i put my hand on her shoulder several times and she never pulled away. sits very close too.

6) also last night, asked if i thought she was "crazy," because she's kind of hyper/scatterbrained sometimes.

not sure if she wants a friend or more. what do you think

2007-09-13 08:43:28 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

A lot of people on here say they hated their teenage days. I actually miss my teenage days - maybe it's because I've never had a girlfriend. Is it strange that I'm feeling like this?

2007-09-13 08:42:18 · 6 answers · asked by entertainment fan 7 in Singles & Dating

im going on my second date with my gf and we have been talking about doing stuff...yea, and im kinda nerveous cuz i never really done stuff to a girl, but im actually excited yet nerveous, we will be going some quiet, we'r not having sex btw XD
but is there any suggestions on stuff i could do to really please her or anything like that :/ any advice will be nice...thnx

2007-09-13 08:40:08 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

First time I met her she threw herself all over him, made no attempt to talk to me, wouldn't let him talk to me! He quit talking to her after that, next meeting I went to the washroom, she rubbed herself all over him, saying "don't worry, your gf can't see", recently tried to add him to facebook - he declined so she added all his male friends and is constantly writing him emails. He told her to fix it with me first - I don't need her in my life, especially with a child on the way! How to deal?? I wrote the following email - will it work? Other ideas?

2007-09-13 08:39:49 · 23 answers · asked by Betty 4 in Other - Family & Relationships

i am moving closer to my girlfirend and i am getting a 1 bedroom bachlor apartment, with a bathroom and kitchen And my girlfirned want to move in with me when she is done school. i am really touched by this but do you think it is unrealist? we could be comfortable and we will move to a bigger place eventually, but essentially we live in one room together.

2007-09-13 08:39:26 · 7 answers · asked by lost 2 in Family

Just trying to get some ideas before I get old, like you. Kidding.

2007-09-13 08:34:51 · 2 answers · asked by HERE WE GO BROWNIES, BEAT PIT!! 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

plzzzzz help me.....tomorow i will go to the mall and i want to have girlfreind ..........and im ......little........shy

so what to do plzz help me and thanx

2007-09-13 08:33:12 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-09-13 08:32:02 · 10 answers · asked by TRUTH 1 in Singles & Dating

He filed for a legal seperation and it has been in effect since the 6th og August. He believed that I had an affair. I never did. I lied one time about where I was and who I was with because my husband did not like him at all. Also, for a long time my husband wasn't giving me the attention that I needed, in and out of the bedroom, but I still would never cheat on him. But I never cheated on him! Evryday without him get harder and harder to live. A few Saturadays ago he showed up at my part-time job and everything seemed to be going great, we laughed and talked, held hands. He called me that night and everything seemed to fine. I couldn't get to sleep, so I drove over to his house, to find a strange car in the driveway. I tried to call but he wouldn't answer. I know I shouldn't have ever gone it, but I did. There he was watching a movie in the dark leaning shoulder to shoulder with another woman. Since then he said that was it. I want him back, what can I do? Please help!!

2007-09-13 08:31:54 · 23 answers · asked by sarah_jetty 1 in Marriage & Divorce