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Okay, so I MONITOR him and am uncomfortable BECAUSE there is suspicion of infidelity here. I have been married for 13 years and in that 13 years I have come to find out that he has been at strip poker parties, didn't come home a few nights......to drunk. But he has alwasy seemed to have a good story that has gotten him out of it. Lately a somethings got back to me that he screwed a girl from a local bar that he hung out at. He had come home VERY late and drunk a few times. He had her in his cell phone under an alias.......I saw a text message from her saying "too bad that rumor got started we could have tried out my new bed" AND the newest kicker I found a box of condoms (newly bought) hidden in my garage. He says nothing happened with the girl he was just lending moral support to her and for the condoms he said he bought them while he was out of town on a boys weekend away, but never used them, how lucky for me???? So now tell me I am being paranoid about the internet porn.....
2007-09-13 08:47:43 · 16 answers · asked by IDontGetIt 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Porn is the least of your worries.
2007-09-13 09:01:03 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All i can say is that you need to follow your instinct because it is usually right!! and i think you already know the answer honey. It sounds like you deserve so much better than this selfish man.
My ex husband was into porn big time, and it used to make me feel sick, not because he did it but the way he did it, he never involved me, and always hid the evidence all over the house, he was constantly at it even though he got what he wanted from me ( or so i thought! ) in the end our love life was ruined.
I think most men like porn and generally theres nothing wrong with that, im not a prude, but the secrecy etc makes it unnacceptable.
If he has also slept with other women honey, you need to do what is best for you and dont stand for this selfish behaviour no more!!
Good luck, and i hope you find happiness soon xxx
2007-09-13 09:05:10 · answer #2 · answered by atlantis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all you never said all that then obviously my answer would be different. at that point i dont think that wether or not he is addicted to porn is the issue porn isnt a physical action. him cheating on you however is. clearly he has no repect for you and you shouldnt even stay with him. between the condom and the text and the late nights its time to move on i know it has been thirteen years together. but once a cheater always a cheater. and there should be no reason for him to lie to you at all... good luck do the right thing for yourself you dont need him
2007-09-13 08:57:51 · answer #3 · answered by jeanie730 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Internet porn hasn't got anything to do with your man f*cking that girl. Its one of two thing. Either your man is just a dog or you're too much of a nag or maybe its the combination of the two. But there is free will regardless of the reasons he still chose to be unfaithful...there is no way around that.
None the less, your man is LYING to you. That is the issue, not internet porn....you can stick your head in the sand, blame it on the net, society, whatever the hell you want to. But the basis is, your man is LYING to you.
2007-09-13 08:57:45 · answer #4 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, internet porn is the least of your problems. He obviuosl;y had sex with her , why would he put her under an alias name? why would he hide condoms? why would she text him that? You need to either seek counseling or better yet leave him, hes only bringing you down and driving you outta your mind. I can't believe your even asking this question you need to take action and quick! After 13 yrs this is what he does... Take him for everytihng he's got! Good luck!!
2007-09-13 08:53:53 · answer #5 · answered by NY Yanks Girrl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Internet porn has nothing at all to do with infidelity. You are looking to blame an external source for your husbands lack of moral values.
I looked at porn, before, during, and after I was married and never once cheated. Stop blaming porn for his screw ups.
2007-09-13 08:52:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If your intuition is telling you that he is cheating he is. Believe me I was in the same damn situation but I ignored my intuition and decided to believe him. Two and half years later his ***** came to my door saying that she had given birth to his child. I can't believe I was so stupid! Believe me when you think "He would never do that." Ha ha oh yes he would. Men are capable of anything, especially when it comes to other women. Sounds like he is cheating I don't know what more evidence you need. But if you really need to know more keep searching I can guarantee you will find out more stuff.
2007-09-13 09:57:25 · answer #7 · answered by bev928 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sound's like no longer purely is he addicted to porn. regardless of the undeniable fact that apparently like he's addicted to intercourse era. he choose's to get help. for realz. im 24 my husband is 37. as quickly as I first met him he use to visual exhibit unit porn on the computer. yet damn hes in no way disrespected me like how ur guy is doing. im no longer asserting that's ur fault. yet there ought to have got here a time whilst u seen him observing it on the computer/television. that grew to become into the time to say no end! that's adequate. do u get what im asserting? cuz he grew to become into thinking it grew to become into cool with u. so thats why he have been given so delicate doing whilst u in mattress. yet one element that stood out to me grew to become into. whilst u suggested he even gets no longer person-friendly interior the automobile. it truly is trippy suitable there. cuz my husband loves intercourse. yet hes to no longer the factor the place hes thinking approximately internet porn interior the automobile lol. i think of he desires help. have him try to get some. cuz he desires it undesirable. this type of element can wreck a marriage. sturdy good fortune!~
2016-11-10 08:38:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound to me like it is just a porn addiction but the big problem sounds like he is or has cut out on you.
2007-09-13 08:57:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like internet porn is the least of your problems. He's not addicted to porn, but it sounds like he likes to have fun "on the side" - and you're falling for his excuses. Please don't tell me that "porn made him do it" - it didn't.
2007-09-13 08:53:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋