How many women are lonely? And why?

Question

On the Yahoo homepage there is an article (Called "Giving up on love") about a woman who never gets asked out. I'm curious to know how many women find themselves in this situation? It is not unusual for men, of course, because men are typically expected to do the asking, so if they are too shy to ask, then they're out of luck. I was a shy man for the first 30 years of my life, so I know what it's like to be socially invisible. But I have the impression that for women the problem tends to be somewhat different. That "finding a guy" is not such a problem, but "finding a GOOD guy" – someone you would really want to spend much time with, can be an seemingly impossible task. I appreciate any enlightenment that anyone can offer on this. Am I just way off base? Also, women, how would you like men to express interest in you? Any tips on how a man can avoid being annoying, while still somehow letting you know that he is attracted to you and would like to spend time with you?

By the way, here is a link to the article:

http://dating.personals.yahoo.com/singles/datingtips/33448/you-askedwhy-dont-i-ever-get-asked-out;_ylc=X3oDMTJhZGQwZWIzBF9TAzI3MTYxNDkEc2VjA2ZwX3RvZGF5BHNsawN5b3UtYXNrZWR3aHktZG9udC1pLWV2ZXItZ2V0LWFza2VkLW91dAR6egNhYmNk

Answer 1

I read thru only the first part of that article and already put my thumb on what the problem was. She believed there was "nothing she could do" to become attractive. And that's untrue....ok, moving on.

I believe that women are lonely (if they are in fact lonely) because: 1) they have an attitude problem, 2) they don't wish to invest in themselves, 3) they are stuck on themselves (not interested in anyone else), and 4) they really don't want the contact (for whatever reason, or even from time to time)...all these go for both men and women.

Sometimes people live in remote areas, or their work schedules don't permit meeting new people, or there just aren't a lot of males around due to a military call-up of sorts, or some places just have more females than males as the more educated have moved away over the years, or some careers have mostely all women and they can't meet a prospective mate on the job, etc. so sometimes just finding someone, anyone, to date may be a problem. But these days if you take a couple of college courses, especially community colleges, or even fun courses there will be people there to meet, to talk with and become friends and to meet their friends. Some females meet thier mate when they went to school with them, or they were neighbors or in the same community, or the man was their brother's friend, or they met them at a college mixer or dance, or bowling or on the beach, etc.

To meet someone, men can just go up to a woman and start talking. A man becomes annoying when they don't ask if the woman is waiting for someone and excuse themelves, otherwise she loses her chances with someone she really did want to meet. If you really wanted to meet her you would immediately ask her name and start finding out her interests and talk on common ground, and when parting ask if you can call her.

A man can be annoying if they phone too often, or if they have nothing to say and just want to "hang" on the phone just breathing, or if they are not considerate (like letting her go to finish drying her hair, or get off the phone if she's expecting a call or is getting dressed to go somewhere). Usually this happens if the person has little education and few interests.

Answer 2

Everyone gets lonely and beauty is in the eye of the beholder. That being said I hardly ever see a stunning woman completely alone - however often lonely. I see many find a man and once they are off the marked they are not interesting to men anymore, and other females feel intimidated being friends with someone far more attractive than them so they get isolated easily. I have seen this phenomenon a lot, not "Candise Swanepoel" looking women sitting alone without a boyfriend OR friends.. But maybe thats just me :o) If you are reading this, have a great day !

Answer 3

I get lonely sometimes, but that can happen even when one is in a relationship. I don't date often because if the chemistry isn't there for me, I don't want to waste anyone's time. My last date was last Oct. and although that doesn't thrill me, I'm okay with it because my life is still full, busy, and fun (overall).

It's true there are a lot of guys out there, and there are a lot of decent guys out there...but just because a guy is a "good guy" doesn't mean we (any particular single woman) will be romantically attracted to him. I've met some guys that seemed to have it all...good looks, plenty of money, enjoyed a lot of the same things I did, similar values, etc but when we went out there was just no chemistry. It was a bummer, but w/o that they just don't keep my interest so we went our separate ways.

Answer 4

I am going to get shot for this, but here goes... You're asking advice from women about women?

Oh My Gosh...thats like asking the wind everyday which way do you blow? Each day the wind will tell you which way it blows, but the wind fails to remember which way it blew the other day. So, if you take the advice and wait longer than a day - it will blow up on you.

Answer 5

there are many women and men that are lonely. and it might not be just because they don't have a significant other. but also because their significant other tend to not care or show that they don't care. there are many thing that a gentleman could do to show that he is interested. he could give her flowers or simply a rose. or they could simply just ask them out to dinner or something.

Answer 6

women & men r lonely bcause life is 2 busy & when ur lookin 4 love is when u can never find it & when ur not lookin ur passin up all the good opportunities so i dont know how ppl find love if u find out tell me

Answer 7

people, not just women need to get out more and go to things they enjoy conventions, coffeee shops and that is where you meet people. Women and men often run right past eachother when they try to meet people, just lookat the people around you and if there are not people around you you need to getout more.

Answer 8

i really dont try to date i have 3 kids and a job in i go to college so theres very little time but it is lonley i wish i could find someone but it is hard

Answer 9

Cos they did not show their intention honestly...live simply, treat neatly, response sharply...that s all they need..

Answer 10

You must pursue fun, It won't come to you.