My husband and I bought a house together with my mom, she put down 30,000 on the house and we got the mortgage (both parties provided something the other couldn't) in our names.When we bought the house she said if my bro(he's older)lost his place she wanted him to be able to come and live here for a while.He's lived with us since a month after we bought the house, and it's very stressful. My husband and I have 1 child and 1 on the way, my bro has 1 too.His son isn't supervised or corrected when he behave's bad, this rubs off on my child.Him and his son have both broke things and never fixed them in the house.I talked to my mom about all of this and told her my reasoning but I wanted my bro to move or I would.She refused to kick him out so now I am moving, but she is making me feel awful that she will loose her money since I can't afford a new place and the mortgage for here.at the same time i feel like i tried to wokr with her.
2007-09-13 00:18:26 · 3 answers · asked by Jenna24 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Give her one more try talk to her again tell her something has to be done. Give the brother a time like 90 days to move or your through being nice. You dont want your kids to start acting like his kids and if they stay around him they will. I dont live with my brother but he does not make his kids mind either and when we are around them it doesnt take very long for my kids to start acting like them. If you do have to move out try to give them an warning like im moving next month so bub will have to start paying my part. Dont feel bad its not your fault just think of your babies and whats best for them.
2007-09-13 01:35:52 · answer #1 · answered by jes_j78 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, you shouldn't feel guilty - but, i don't think you should leave with nothing. you had an agreement - mom provided the down payment and you would pay the mortage and the house and the mortgage is in your and your husband's name. you also agreed that your bro could live with you for AWHILE. you agreed to this. since mom, won't kick bro out, i'd sell the house, you have the right to do this, it's in your name and get a new home without your brother being part of the deal. you did what your mom asked, your bro took advantaged by deciding to move in without thought of leaving or paying. by handling the situation this way, your mom does not have to kick your bro out and you don't have to lose everything you put into this home. you sell and start over - mom has lost nothing, there is still a house, and it's yours; and, your brother just has to find his own means of providing for his family. no one gets a free ride.
2007-09-13 01:41:17 · answer #2 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to have your brother pay for it since he lives there and is the one causing the trouble!! Ask her what she would rather do, live in a rental with your brother, or have a home with you.
2007-09-13 00:25:16 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋