Hey, my marriage begun on a bad note. He was still in love with somebody even when we were married. He always entertained galz in our marital house and allowed them to dock in any time they felt like. We do not have great conversation, he hates personal conversation and so we do not bond. The sex is poor as he is done in 2 mins. He is not keen to seek for help inasmuch as I have told him that I do not get satisfied. He doesn't help much with housework and I work until I am too tired to think. He is off hand, and I do not feel loved at all even though he says he does. He doesn't discuss cash or property or other plans and he has been deceitful in the past with our property and even money. He doesnt listen to my opinions and I am just like one of the kids many times.
Problem is I am getting attracted to any man who shows me some kind of affection. I am so sexually starved, I just do not know what to do.....I feel like I am going to cheat
2007-09-13 07:34:06 · 20 answers · asked by lavagal.com 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Have you tryed counseling?I will not be the one to give you advice,but I also am aware of there being two sides to every story.Everybody deserves to enjoy life.God bless
2007-09-13 07:40:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds bad. If it started out bad, and on an shaky ground.....then you can't just up and repair it. Think of it like a house. If the foundation is flawed, you have to tear the house down and rebuild it AFTER you put down a solid foundation.
You already know what you need to do. Don't let fear of the unknown, and comfort in the familiar cause you to continue to living an unhappy, loveless life.
2007-09-13 14:48:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're sexually starved, have sex with your husband. You say he is done in 2 minutes, but you don't have to let that happen. This is a very simple technique, but far too many women underemploy it. First off, remember, you are the gatekeeper to sex. Bear in mind that your husband wants it, but whether or not, and when, he gets into the treasure box is entirely up to you. So, don't get undressed until he makes out with you for several minutes. When you get undressed, do NOT allow penetration until he has brought you to orgasm orally. Only after you have had at least one orgasm through oral stimulation should you allow him to penetrate you. Once you begin following this technique you will begin to feel much more satisfied sexually.
2007-09-13 14:43:03 · answer #3 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm not understanding your question really. Are you asking us if you should cheat or if you should leave?
Do you like living that way? No? Well then don't cheat. Be good to yourself and get yourself out of this situation. If you have told your husband all that you have told us here. If you have tried to work it out and all you get is cruelty and neglect. Then leave. You don't really need our permission, do you?
2007-09-13 14:58:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is true in the situation and the way you feel then just go ahead and give up on your current relationship. Take time for yourself, regroup and try again. Next time be more selective in your choices and if you get married, make damn sure he loves you first.
2007-09-13 14:38:30 · answer #5 · answered by No one 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
See a Lawyer and file the papers. When he gets those it is game over for being deceitful. Then get on with your life. learn from your mistakes and find the right kind of person for you.
2007-09-13 14:40:15 · answer #6 · answered by bootsontheroad 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
DO NOT CHEAT! It will haunt you during your DIVORCE proceedings-I assume you are filing shortly? It appears this man does not care for you mentally, emotionally or sexually. Please stop being a doormat and try to get on with your life-this, too, shall pass and things can be great if you let them. (i know, i was abused for hella....) and recovered myself and my self esteem - good luck!!
2007-09-13 14:42:54 · answer #7 · answered by Andra J 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't cheat get a divorce. Get out while you still have a chance at love and happiness. This guy don't love you he is using you. If you can't see that you are blind.D-I-V-O-R-C-E!!!
It's not to let to find your true soul-mate, he's out there somewhere go find him.
2007-09-13 14:42:16 · answer #8 · answered by Tammy K 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask him for a divorce, your marriage didn't sound that great to begin with, why try and save it?
2007-09-13 14:52:30 · answer #9 · answered by Meg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you read what you wrote, what would you tell another woman in the same situation?
"Get out."
You're still young and you can fully recover from this bad experience.
2007-09-13 14:38:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋