Is it just me? That I find Divorce Super Extremely Scary!!! OR do other people are just as scared as me???
2007-09-13 03:43:36 · 26 answers · asked by pain_of_unhappiness 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Divorce is scary. You have a lot of things that need to be sorted out during that time. Plus you also need to be thinking about what you'll do with out your other half, of course if your unhappy this shouldnt be a problem anyway and your probably looking forward to meeting new people.
2007-09-18 09:15:49 · answer #1 · answered by Niki S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was terrified of getting divorced. Same as everyone that has answered before me. I didn't know how I was going to pay the bills, put food on the table, maintain the car, if I would find a job (I hadn't worked for 8 out of the 12 yrs I was married), care for my 3 children, but I think the scariest thing was being alone and that somehow I failed and wasted my life on this person. It's been a year and a 1/2 and haven't got divorced, but am legally separated. It's been the best year ever in a long time. I wouldn't change anything in my past if I could. It's made me who I am today and I'm happy with myself and who I am. "No regrets, just lessons learned." Good Luck!
2007-09-20 21:08:12 · answer #2 · answered by Elvira E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through an unhealthy realtionship and I'm scared of the change. We had a talk last night that has me confussed. I'm like I really do think that our relationship is better then others. At the same time, I'm ready to leave because I'm emotionally tired and want to be alone. I think my mistake is saying that I want a divorce and I'm going to move out. Then weeks past I'm still there and eventually we get back together. I'm tired of this, the next time, which I know will happen, there is no talking, I'm leaving. I think you just have to find the best way for you. We are human, we don't want to hurt anybody feelings, but yet we don't want to be alone and afraid of starting over. Just ask yourself have I done all that I can do. Then if so, you have to try to walk out on faith and see where it leads you.
2007-09-13 04:09:18 · answer #3 · answered by sweetcheeks 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is unhealthy for all involved... the couple... the children... the in-laws and the extended family. It is not an easy situation to be in. Depression can follow just as if someone has died. In fact, it is a death.... a death of a relationship. Get some counseling for yourself. ... your spouse also if they will agree. We live in a society where everyone thinks that divorce or separation is the answer to all our problems. Think about what went wrong.... is it physical or mental abuse? If so, why? Are you having problems communicating? Why did you get married? These are questions that you need to meditate on.... and, really, get some help. I pray all goes well for you.....
2007-09-21 03:23:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm scared, and unhappy I always known that I got married for other reason then love. Now am wondering if true love does exist. since, I also met someone whom I feel so attractive but I guess he respect the fact that I'm married and have kids because we only talk twice. But still I tell myself if I ever get a divorce or become a widow I never want to get married ever unless if there is true that real Love does exist??
2007-09-13 04:10:28 · answer #5 · answered by Ineedyouherewithme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, I got divorced about 2 years ago and I had children. Things work out for the better. I found the man of my dreams. If you are not happy...get out! Why should anyone be afraid of a BETTER life? I love my life now, and I never regret the decisions that I made.
2007-09-13 04:30:46 · answer #6 · answered by Loo M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am one of the lucky ones finally. It took me three trys to find the right one though. Divorce is never easy, but if two people are out of love and agree it is over, then do it the fastest most painless way possible. Move on with your life and your true love will find you. Good luck!!!
2007-09-20 10:09:38 · answer #7 · answered by Notbusy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are as unhappy as you think you are, you would NOT be afraid to move on to a better life. I think that you should consider the fact that if you find divorce super extremely scary, STAYING IN A BAD RELATIONSHIP (MARRIAGE) that you are unhappy in is MORE scary. You have to learn that you can be happy if you are rid of him (or her).
2007-09-19 17:46:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I put up with years of verbal abuse because I was afraid of a divorce and tearing the family up.
Then he started doing the same to the kids, and that was it.
The divorce process was awful at times, and expensive always (my ex thought he should get *everything* and wouldn't negotiate). But it is done, now, and although it is difficult being a single mom life is better for the kids - and me.
2007-09-13 03:59:17 · answer #9 · answered by stenobrachius 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you are not alone. I am married and I am not happy. Yes I am scared of divorce too. There are kids to think about, were or not I can make it or my own. Whether or I will be able to move on with my life. I could list a bunch of things, but I will not. You have to listen to your heart and make to final discussion on your own. Good Luck
2007-09-13 03:54:07 · answer #10 · answered by sanna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋