Do you think its creepy or sexy that your husband watches you bathe from a distance?

Question

My husband told me sometimes he is out on the street walking the dog and he can see me step out of the bath tub. He says he loves it, and sometimes when I take a shower and he is in the bed already he is staring at me through the door. Its flattering but sometimes annoying. I kind of went off one time, to please give me privacy once in a while. Since then he doesn't do it. I love my husband and our sex life is amazing but I feel like we should be entitled to our private moments. Am I wrong for feeling this way towards him?

the door to the bathroom and connects with our bedroom is all glass, we live in the country so there isn't much action on the street outside usually just deer.

Kitkat: Have you heard of bevelled glass windows and french doors?

Answer 1

I don't see it as creepy that your husband watches you because he is your husband and not a complete stranger. My fiance watches me all the time but it doesn't creep me out. It does get annoying at times though and I told him and he said "Baby you are just so beautiful to me that I can't help but to stare at you." That one sentence melted my heart and I quickly was able to appreciate the fact that he does that. I love him more for it but out of respect for me, he doesn't do it quite as much. Your marriage should be all about being open and sharing with one another. You should tell him that you feel uncomfortable and he should be able to respect that but don't shut him out completely. Invite him into the shower with you every once in a while. Show him that you are just as attracted to him as he is to you. Don't make him feel like an outsider (which I know you wouldn't do that) just take advantage of the situation and involve him in it sometimes. The outcome will be great for the both of you because you did mention that your sex life was amazing, lol! Anyway, I do think you both should have some private time but just sit him down, discuss it with him, and don't hesitate to get him involved in some of your bath/shower time. Best Wishes!

Answer 2

I personally think it's sexy. My boyfriend and i bathe together almost everyday, we love it. Its a great way to get close to each other, the times that he bathes before i get home he sits in the bathroom with me while i bathe. We just talk about our day, or whatever. Its become our little ritual.
Maybe you can frost the glass door, or hang a curtain so that he knows when you need your privacy. Also try to bathe when he's not home, or when he falls asleep.
I don't recomend you go off on him anymore, or refuse to give him a peep show again because he means well. You are his wife and if he cant look at you then who can he look at? if after all the time you've been together he still finds you sexy, then you go girl, better he check you out than someone else.

Answer 3

Personally, I'd be more concerned about why you can see into your bathroom from the street, because if your husband can see you, who else can?

As far as the other, personally I don't have a problem with it if my husband watches me shower or bathe on occasion.

It sounds like your husband doesn't do it every time, which means that you DO have privacy "once in a while", so what's the problem?

And if it really, really bothers you, close the bathroom door...

Answer 4

I don't think he's trying to be creepy, to me he just loves to see you and is letting you know how sexy you are, though I do agree you need your private moments. You've asked him to stop and he has, so what I suggest is once in a while when you're feeling frisky, purpously leave the door to the bedroom open so he can see (but not the window from the street, others are right, who knows who else is seeign you) and give him a good show! As long as he knows it's not going to be a nightly thing, he'll appreciate it that much more!

Answer 5

if he did it everytime and always made sure that he could see you well that would be a little creepy. but if its once and a while then one it is flattering and two you might even want to play along and look back or not look at him at all, but do something sensual or provacative for him. If there are certain times you want privacy and to be left alone let him know before hand. You might even want to once in a great while let him join you, but not for sex, just to bath you. Have fun with it. If you already have a great sex life that's awesome, but whats wrong with a exploring ways to maybe make it better. embrace what is happning, but embrace it in your own way, because it is your private time that he could be taking away.

Answer 6

Yes, you are entitled to your private moments. I find it a bit odd, slightly sexy if it were an occasional thing, but if this is happening all the time, yes it's creepy and intruding!! Of course, why are your windows open when you step out of the tub?? Close your blinds woman! If your husband can see you, so can everyone else!

Answer 7

That is a little creepy, you can not even take a bath without him looking at you. Yeah you need time to just relax yeah he is your husband but that does not mean that he has a right to see if you anytime he wants. Why not shut the door and curtains when you are in the shower and such. But then you should be able to tell him give me some space and he should respect that request. It can be exciting but not every time there is a time and a place for that kind of stuff.

Answer 8

It's neither creepy when done at a distance or up close for him to be involved, even if it seems a bit voyeuristic. What may be bothersome, though, is the fact that if he can see you from outside, then who else is watching? Further, many couples find it invigorating and stimulizing to watch each other bathe and even bathe and shower together, sometimes ending up having sex while doing so. In the bath, in a pool, at the beach--it can be fun!

Answer 9

You are right in communicating your feelings, but I wouldn't make a big deal. Since you are marraige, your husband is entitled to look at your body and love every part of it. His appetite for you is healthy and may curb any appetite he may have for looking at OTHER women. Please don't deprive him. I think when your husband doesn't have a problem with other women and is into YOUR body is the best thing in the world! I'm sure he's got a pet peeve about you as well. Give him a little break. This is the love of your life!

Answer 10

Please.... be glad it was your husband who noticed that you can see in the bathroom when you bathe... close the curtains and shut the door to the bedroom if you want privacy...

my wife leaves the bathroom door open when she takes a shower... if i'm still in bed I look at her in the shower... and get some good visual stimulation... its a turn on.