When it comes to telling your partner about past relationships, things you regreted doing and so fourth do you think it's best to tell them everything to the exact detail or thing that you think they only need to hear and know.
What have you done in situations like this?
Do you feel comfortable that they only know what you'v told them?
Do you think that it's best that they only know certain details to spare the hurt and pain?
Please state your experiences.
Thanks
2007-09-13 03:27:28 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There's a whole movie about this. It's called, "Chasing Amy."
2007-09-13 03:33:54 · answer #1 · answered by Billy Bob Barker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This really depends on how well and how long you've known the other person. Everyone has some things that they regret doing and if you've resolved not to repeat the same mistake, then perhaps you can put it in a positive light. When your partner is uncomfortable discussing certain subjects in detail, just answer questions that are asked honestly. If you were in a really bad relationship previously, you may have some unresolved feelings. Be careful not to let these affect your new relationship and if they are, maybe you should explain in general terms, why you feel the way you do. Otherwise, your new partner might think there is a problem in your current relationship. It takes sensitivity and good judgment to decide what to say and HOW to say it.
2007-09-13 11:02:45 · answer #2 · answered by Mover50 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Details are the best way to go because then they know everything and you've been completely 100% honest with them and they will respect that.
2007-09-13 10:33:30 · answer #3 · answered by fallen_angel_0_2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
knowing less is better, keep it that way with 80% of relationships. it's rare for a guy or girl to be okay with knowing everything their other has done in the past or how much of anything their other has done.
2007-09-13 10:44:44 · answer #4 · answered by joe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they ask, you answer their questions honestly.
If they don't ask, but something they do affects you because of something from the past, you explain that to them. But I think too much information from past relationships starts that whole "you want me to be more like......" and I know it starts the "no wonder he did this to you" thing.
I sure don't want to know every single detail from his past. And what I do want to know, I ask.
2007-09-13 10:40:21 · answer #5 · answered by Jacie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most would agree that leaving the past behind is best, but when it comes to marriage and a close relationship, i prefer to know everything before i get myself into crappy situations
2007-09-13 10:36:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ancient history is boring and stale. Why not live for what each day brings you instead of turning over dry history?
2007-09-13 10:34:32 · answer #7 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buddy is right...Everytime I was totally honest in the past I got "screwed over" for it...EVERYONE has a past, deal with it and move on.
2007-09-13 10:49:18 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋