I'm thinking of my town, I wouldn't know if the person living next door is a pedaphile. You know of any? What's happened to them? They get bashed? What are the tell tale signs of one? None I'm guessing, but what would you do to a pedaphile? I'd put pics all around town announicing it to everyone and run them outta town!!!
2007-09-13 03:53:26 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Go to familywatchdog.us
You can put in your area and it will tell you of every registered sex offender in your area. Key word being "registered". A lot are not registered. They look normal, the guy next door...or a relative. My sister works for child protective services and she deals with those kind of sick people daily.
2007-09-13 04:42:14 · answer #1 · answered by Alliance Kicks Horde Butt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend of mine was divorced and she told me that she had no lack of guys interested in her and eager to help with her child-care problems (she had a little boy). For me, red flags go up when I hear that but I was very conflicted. Perhaps a guy was really interested in her, happy that she already had a son and didn't NEED to get pregnant in her 30s and she wasn't eager to get married right away. Maybe he was just trying to be helpful. But I'm so so so SO suspicious.
I did know a paedophile. He was the sweetest, sincerest, nicest guy and everyone liked him. Paedophilia is a disease and as with sexual deviations, that person gets very good at hiding it. Unless he's around other paedophiles. This guy did find another paedophile and they did get arrested and they were banned from the area (maybe even the state) by the judge. Although I don't think there was enough to send them to jail at the time.
It's very very hard to pin down a paedophile. So the best thing is to warn your kids not to let adults get too close - this is a shame to say but that's the only thing you can do.
There are no tell tale signs. And that's like saying, 'There are tell tale signs of a homosexual.' What if someone is just a bit effeminate with some gestures but he is really very heterosexual? You never want to make a final judgement based on looks in any situation, anyway!
2007-09-13 04:09:40 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I know someone on a the sex offender list. He served 10 years for his crime. Now, He is a man trying to rebuild his life. He is off drugs and alcohol which is the main reason he did what he did. He goes to AA, NA, anger management, and a group therapy that talks about proper coping skills when/if improper situations arise. He is gainfully employed. All he wants is a second chance and is working very hard for the right to have that second chance.
So, what about his victim? Where is her second chance? Well I do know that she has gotten therapy, she is married and has children of her own now. She has moved on as best she could. And good for her!
There is something about pedophiles or sex offenders that most people look over or don't acknowledge. They attack people they know. The people you hear in the news attacking random children/teens are a very VERY small minority. Most often than not the offender is a family or a close family friend.
So, check your own backyard before you start a campaign on the town.
2007-09-13 05:12:27 · answer #3 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do know a pedophile, but I haven't seen him since the day he was sentenced in court. Good riddance! He got deported after his prison sentence, and I imagine that in his home country people would take the law into their own hands, which is probably why he came to the US in the first place, so I hope somebody has neutralized him by now.
What I did to him is, I had him arrested.
I actually know another pedophile too, but I couldn't have him arrested because my knowledge of his behavior was second-hand. I avoided him after I found out.
Yes, I think you could put pics around, after he has been convicted. I heard about somebody doing that in Washington; the pedophile (who had been convicted but was out on appeal) complained, but the judge said he was a convicted pedophile, this was a matter of public record, and the posters were accurate, sorry! The laws may be different in different states. If he hasn't been convicted, you have to be careful you don't get in trouble for libel.
As for telltale signs, there is nothing that you can be sure of. But the sign that I have noticed is that pedophiles may not act like a regular adult with kids. A regular adult relating to a child tends to be nurturing, to teach, to take on something like a parental role. Or if they don't relate well to kids, they kind of ignore them and talk over their heads. Pedophiles tend more to play like another child, not using their adult judgment. A regular adult may play at the child's level, but they will still teach reasonable limits like "we can't do this in the house" or "don't throw too hard." This is a very vague indication and you can't count on it. A regular adult might do something silly or injudicious without being an abuser; and I'm sure some pedophiles can fake the normal adult behavior. But if the child reports that the adult is touching the genital area, even in a non-sexual way, I would be on alert. (Of course I don't count the normal way you might have to help a very young child in the bathroom or if they have an "accident.")
2007-09-13 04:34:34 · answer #4 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to learn to spell it before you start running people out of town. Every community now has online data bases for registered sex offenders. You can check it but remember that doesn't mean the person had anything to do with children, it only means they were convicted of a crime forcing them to register as a sex offender.
The very best way to keep a pedophile out of your life is to pay attention to who your child is associating with. I don't care who they are, if it doesn't make sense to you, listen to your gut. If little Sammy's couch or teacher is spending just alittle too much time with him or her, then plant yourself right in the middle of that and see what happens. Make sure your child knows they can tell you anything without judgment and make sure you don't have children that you have to foist off on someone else to raise.
2007-09-13 04:03:34 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
http://www.familywatchdog.us/ go to this web site type on your Addy and it will tell you all offenders that is registered in the state where you live it ALL so has some great pointers
2007-09-13 05:55:11 · answer #6 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hahaa...
well i once had this teacher who i was POSITIVE was a pedophile...all my friends thought it too...and basically the whole school. nothing really happened to him, much to my annoyance. but all the teachers, the females mostly, sorta stayed away from him, too...
2007-09-13 04:00:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have had some issues with someone when you were younger!!
2007-09-13 04:01:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋