Marriage & Divorce - 26 November 2007

I find that I am attracted to women that are not my race. My folks don't like that. Is it right for me to "look else where"?

2007-11-26 07:11:01 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband doesn't work. At the moment he's going to school and says he can't manage to do both. I on the other hand work full time, go to school full time and volunteer about 10 hours a week. I have to beg him to do anything around the house. At first I was ok with being the only one working but I'm resentful now and he still won't get a job. It's not like I make alot of money, we barely get by. It would be different if we were young kids but he's 42! Along with other issues I've been thinking about getting a divorce. I just don't see a point in being married anymore. I'm the bread winner, I manage all the house details, and sex stopped months ago. I wonder if I'm just staying married to have someone to hug me and be there when I get home. I'm a mess.

2007-11-26 07:03:35 · 55 answers · asked by Anonymous

If you had to do it all again, would you marry for love or money?

Which way would you choose if you were rich?

Which would you choose if you were a poor single parent just barely making it by?

2007-11-26 07:03:19 · 21 answers · asked by babydoll32 2

fights I am not allowed to talk to him. If I choose to say something, I am threatened with a divorce. What should I do? Keep in mind I am not allowed to talk to him until he deems it is time and he allows me to talk to him. This behavior has lasted up to two months or longer.

2007-11-26 07:02:08 · 38 answers · asked by shannie 1

I used to let my wife spend all my pay check, but I'm no longer in the mood to let her do that. Now my fair share in our joint account for bills and house hold expense, but the rest I put in my personaly bank account. I just don't feel like I should have to give it up to her just because she wants it. Is this a bad thing or should I be forced to give it up?

2007-11-26 07:00:24 · 9 answers · asked by snack_daddy10 6

She had offshore accounts. Was it a nest egg for rainy days or something more? What is your take?

2007-11-26 06:58:08 · 4 answers · asked by Sleek 7

They've been married 2 years. I never want to be an interfering mother-in-law, but I hate to see his marriage end because of his attitude. He told me that since he works hard 12 hours a day to support them, that he should be able to have things the way he wants them. In other words, be the boss. Since they were married, his wife who I a real sweet girl, has lost most of her sight from a congenital eye disease and cannot drive or see to read, etc. Instead of being kinder to her, he is making her feel guilty that she cannot use her degree in business admin. He is extremely strict with the children, the boy likes to read fantasy books which my son thinks will influence him badly so he has forbidden them. He is always laying down "his" laws and being very controlling. He is very stubborn and has always been that way. He will not talk things out in a rational way. His way has to be right. Should I just leave this alone and not interfere? Or should I try to think of a way to help

2007-11-26 06:55:23 · 49 answers · asked by Lean on Me 4

Maybe taken from personal experience?

(my friend and me were wondering about the best way to get that type of point across--- like what to say or do?--- only for a guy who'd deserve to be threatened like that, of course)

2007-11-26 06:55:22 · 18 answers · asked by Lacy 1

I grew up with an alcoholic father that was physcially & Emotionally abusive beyond belief. At 16 I was thrown out of our "home" and lived in the back seat of a '68 Nove for 2 years. I know what you are feeling, I know the feeling of that empty place and that missing piece...how you feel when you see a great parent and wonder why didn't I get that!!! I know your fear that you'll pass this down.

I want you to know that is a lie..if you choose not to do that. I am happily married and have rasied 3 beauitful children who knew nothing but love & acceptance everyday of their lives.

Here's the key: Give them what we didn't get...give them love, give them lavish love, extravagant love, EXACTLY what we longed for and never recieved. I promise you it will be returned 1000X over. Give when your heart say's to hold back...never withold love, oceans of love!!!

It's making a choice ...you know what they need, you feel this deep inside, don't allow this to rob you anymore

blessings......

2007-11-26 06:42:29 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-26 06:37:01 · 13 answers · asked by shannie 1

He lies about small things and never keeps his promises. Should I just face the fact that I don't trust him and go on or get divorced? I've caught him red handed, just last night in fact he lied about still smoking. He supposedly stopped a year ago and I've smelled smoke before but he always swore he wasn't and last night at 3am when he thought i was sleeping i woke up and caught him. He thinks it's no big deal and wants to know how long i'll be mad. It's not what he lies about as much the fact that he does it and apologizes and thinks that solves everything. I've tried talking to him about it but it doesn't make a difference. I'm at my ropes end.

2007-11-26 06:33:34 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I didn't meet my husband until I was 35 and I thought I was making the right decision marrying him because he is a great guy and treats me well. I liked him immediately as a person and while there was no lust at first it did grow within the first few months. However, now we've been together 4 years (married 3) and the lust has dissappeared so we don't have great sex to hold us together. We still have sex, but I don't really have much of a sex drive anymore. We also don't have much in common I noticed, and while he's still a nice guy who treats me well and cares for me, I find that I'm unhappy with our differences and angry at his attempts to change me to be more like him. I DON'T WANT TO DIVORCE and don't think divorce is a solution that should be used when you make a vow that should be forever. I want to work it out and want serious advice only. I need to know how to be satisfied with my life as it is, or what I can do to build up my love and sex drive for him? Anyone ever been there?

2007-11-26 06:31:44 · 19 answers · asked by stripedbook 5

Ive grown up with an alcoholic dad.... now I'm married and have a wonderful husband who drinks every weekend...not excessively, but I cringe by habit when I hear a drink being poured. This is starting to affect our relationship becoz, I've started telling him not to drink every weekend and my husband insists it's not too much and that's it's just to relax.

I went through hell with my dad...seen him start from one or two drinks and over the years increase to 6 and 7 and all the time insisting he's not an alcoholic. Now, I'm scarred my husband will progress into that...it's a natural fear. How do I:

a) get over this
b) tell my husband about my dad...do I? I don't want him to think badly about him or not respect him anymore becoz he is a nice man without the bottle.

What do I do? I want to tell him everything (we don't have any secrets from each other), but I don't want it to affect our married life... our extended family is also very important to us...

Thanks..

2007-11-26 06:30:43 · 14 answers · asked by catch 2

She cheated on me, divorced me. Now the affairs over she wants to see me again but she also wants to date other men. I want her back but I don't want to share her. I don't think that I can ever trust her again. Is it true what they say? "Once a cheatewr, always a cheater."

2007-11-26 06:16:30 · 18 answers · asked by lawdawg_647 2

I'm 43 y.o. - married 19 yr- 5 awesome kids! My wife and I haven't had sex in 2 yr much resentment. Love is gone. I own a business make $500,000 + she's a homemaker. We own all the "good - material" things - large house, cars. I was brought up poor - could take it or leave it / she brought up with $$. She spends $ faster than I can keep up. She doesn't spend on herself but the house, kids, etc. Her whole life revolves around spending money and working around the house. I don't feel comfortable sitting down in my house because my wife wants me working when I'm home. She complains the kids overwhelm her although all are in school all day. I used to run around like a chicken w/o a head trying to do everything to pls her - nothing seemed good enough - I'm not a handyman but p/u, do dishes, clean and keep the kids away from her. She won't do counseling. I've stopped being helpfuI. can't live this way but want to be w/ my kids. wife also makes enemies & will make things nasty for me / kids

2007-11-26 06:15:20 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

What does it mean when you dream your spouse exposes himself in a public place(unknowingly, sort of like he was out of it), when you try to cover him up he gets mad??

2007-11-26 06:14:33 · 4 answers · asked by wartytoadjody39 3

Mine is in her mid 40s and is about 3 to 4 stone overweight. She used to have a body to die for but kids etc have taken their toll. I don't expect her to be Kyliesque, but I do think she should have some self discipline, but she doesn't. She knows how I feel about this, but hasn't got the willpower to do anything about it. She reacts very angrily if I mention it, and won't talk about it.

2007-11-26 06:07:10 · 45 answers · asked by Captain Chaos 3

Yesterday I decided to go to the Spa. I told my husband, who had the day off (Sunday), to do the following chores since the maid had the day off, due to her mother being ill.
1) Mop the floors
2) Load the dishes into the dishwasher
3) Do the laundry
4) Rake the leaves in the backyard
5) Feed the dogs, play with them, and take them out for a walk
6) Organize and clean out the Garage
7) Take the cars for a carwash.

He was only able to do 1-5! I was so angry when I got home and found the garage was still disorganized! I told him to straighten up his act! He just came home for lunch today and bought me a beautiful diamond bracelet and apologized. But THAT doesn't make up for him being lazy! What do you suggest?

2007-11-26 06:07:02 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous

my wife and I are living with my parents and my sister in their house (due to financial matters). My wife and my sister do not get along at all. My sister doesn't really talk to my wife...just barely. Anyway... I was chatting with my sister the other day...laughing about something... My wife heard us and was furious..."don't talk to her unless she respects me more!! She treats me like I don't exist"

How should I handle this situation?

2007-11-26 06:03:42 · 17 answers · asked by rearender999 1

could that possibly be the only reason truthfully

2007-11-26 06:02:34 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married for 7 years and I sometimes don't have sexual desires. Well, most of the time. I would rather do it by myself. Sometimes the thought of being with another person turns me off. It has really been a problem because my husband has a high sex drive. When I finally give in, I just want it to be over. Anyone else feel this way??

2007-11-26 06:01:32 · 10 answers · asked by Stephanie R 2

I work with my ex. He's the boss and I am she second in command. We had a dissagrement about something related to work....he bardged into my office saying outloud for everyone to hear: <>

OMG! I am ready to explode...specially I have never been on any !!

Give me one good reason why I should not go into his office, make a scene and break everyting in my sight?

2007-11-26 06:01:23 · 64 answers · asked by Jane Marple 7

About 1 out of 3 times when my husband and I go out, which happens every 2-3 months if we're lucky. I get so sick from drinking that I am throwing up the next day.

I have 2-3 drinks but I never get a chance to eat before so I drink on an empty stomach. I don't have a chance to eat because I am running around getting everything ready for the babysitter and giving my kids a bath and dinner, etc.

I want to ask for help from an aunt or someone the next day but are too embarassed to say I am vomitting from drinking. Would you feel the same way too?

2007-11-26 05:59:53 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

He had zero sperm count within 6 weeks after his vasectomy, which was over 12 years ago. He's been married to her for 5 years, she never got pregnant. She recently had an affair, he caught her & left her. She's now claiming to be 3 months pregnant & that it's his child. He's stupid enough to believe this child is actually his, simply because she says it is. I'm trying to convince him he's crazy for taking her back & that he's going to end up paying child support on a child that isn't his (she has a history of getting pregnant, leaving the baby's father, & moving on to the next one). Would a zero sperm count NOW prove that it CANT be his, or does that still leave room for "maybe" - she tells him a zero count now doesn't mean 1 didn't slip through. I can't find any info on the effectiveness of vasectomies after such a long time period...everything I look up talks about surgical reversals after a long time period.

2007-11-26 05:49:11 · 34 answers · asked by RCgirl 2

Last time I was at their house I became ill with bronchitis, and I asked repeatedly to be taken to a doctor but they refused, saying I was 'fine' (they live out in the middle of nowhere, so I was 'stuck' at their home). They refused me a bed, I had to sleep on the floor and my mother in law refused to feed me claiming that she 'knew what was best for me'. I had my cell phone with me but couldn't get reception.
They dropped me off at the airport when my visit ended, and I was so sick and pale that I passed out and the lady at the airport snack bar called 911. I was taken to the hospital, my bronchitis had gone untreated for too long and turned into a bad case of pneumonia.
I cannot bring myself to be around my MIL. I have not been to their home since this incident. My husband and I have not seen his parents since this happened (4 years ago) but now he thinks it's 'gone too far' and wants us to smooth things over with them. What do I do to get over this? Should I get over this?

2007-11-26 05:47:32 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am a forty six years, &married for 22 years. Recently I have found that my husband been unfaithful to me with my best friend. This is been going on since April. He gets irritated for any reason, and argues with me, not to do anything around the house. So few times I confronted him with my anger, and he denied there was anything between both of them. Finally, he mentioned to me she been calling him and talking to him about their family issues and all the negative things about her husband. (Which I never new it before)I noticed that they been on the phone for average 5-6 hours a day. His argument is that they never had any sexual relation, just communications over the phone and email. His excuse is as long as they didn't have any sexual relation, they are not doing anything wrong. Then, why they both hide from their spouses. She came to a point that she could not live one day without hearing his voice. Even, when we went to vacation for a week, they both used to call each othe

2007-11-26 05:33:52 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

She can't afford to buy it herself, so she has asked my boyfriend to pay for half of it, and it could be a gift from both of them. I have already bought him an xbox 360 for Christmas, but she wants to keep one at her house as well. I think it was inappropiate for her to ask my boyfriend to pay for half of it, when she could have asked her own boyfriend. He bends over backwards to do everything she asks him, but i dont want him to do this. What should I do? Do you think he should help her out by paying for half of it?

2007-11-26 05:31:54 · 26 answers · asked by Paige 1

I am forty six years, and married for 22 years. Recently I have found that my husband been unfaithful to me with my best friend. This is been going on since April. He gets irritated for any reason, and argues with me, not to do anything around the house. So few times I confronted him with my anger, and he denied there was anything between both of them. Finally, he mentioned to me she been calling him and talking to him about their family issues and all the negative things about her husband. (Which I never new it before)I noticed that they been on the phone for average 5-6 hours a day. His argument is that they never had any sexual relation, just communications over the phone and email. His excuse is as long as they didn't have any sexual relation, they are not doing anything wrong. Then, why they both hide from their spouses. She came to a point that she could not live one day without hearing his voice. Even, when we went to vacation for a week, they both used to call each other

2007-11-26 05:26:43 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous

i love somebody and he even love me but we cann't marry eachother bcz he is from middle class bcz he is my cousin friends and my cousin don't want us to marry plz help me that what should we do if i will not marry we both will die bcz we r in madly love

2007-11-26 05:26:31 · 12 answers · asked by liza d 1

Like why does society give them the mid-life crisis & he's just a typical teenage boy reasons for screwing up?They seem to have an excuse for every stage of life.What about us woman?Why what is acceptable from men not acceptable for women?

2007-11-26 05:25:02 · 11 answers · asked by Sadie 2