She can't afford to buy it herself, so she has asked my boyfriend to pay for half of it, and it could be a gift from both of them. I have already bought him an xbox 360 for Christmas, but she wants to keep one at her house as well. I think it was inappropiate for her to ask my boyfriend to pay for half of it, when she could have asked her own boyfriend. He bends over backwards to do everything she asks him, but i dont want him to do this. What should I do? Do you think he should help her out by paying for half of it?
2007-11-26 05:31:54 · 26 answers · asked by Paige 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I really don't even see the purpose in getting 2 to begin with. you can move them from house to house it isn' difficult. and your boyfriend shouldnt help pay if she has a boyfriend who can help support her. your boyfriend needs to realize that she isnt his reponsability anymore, you are.
2007-11-26 05:35:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think that part of the problem is that she is worried about there being "cooler" toys at your house than at her house being a determinate factor to which house he prefers to stay at. While I mostly think this is something he should decide on his own (he can come to you for advice, but the DECISION is his), it does seem a bit silly to give to 360s to the boy for Christmas. I also think it sends the wrong message for him to be giving a gift to him "together" and then have a different gift come from you separately.
So in my opinion this is not a good idea, but that is my opinion, he is the one that should decide whether he wants to give her the money or not. That being said, I would say that the 360 the two of you bought should come from you as a couple, and her 360 should come from her, regardless of who pays for it.
You and him are the unit that he needs to see, not his ex and him giving a gift together.
2007-11-26 05:40:14 · answer #2 · answered by JA in SC 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like an expensive gift. It is better for all concerned that each of them give separate gifts. If the ex can't afford it then she should save her money until she can. Your BF should not be financing things for use at her house except though child support. He needs to be careful because if he sets precedent then she could take him back to court and get awarded more money.
2007-11-26 05:37:56 · answer #3 · answered by Older Guy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No I do not. The kid is already getting one from you. Lets not stop there. Lets get him one for when he is at mammaws and pappaws, and when he is at uncle wilberts and also can't forget to get him one for when he is at day care.... ffs and hahahaha on that ex wife. She is jealous of you and hanging on to a man that she cannot have anymore and using the kid to try and do that. She is a moron and a child herself. Christmas is not about how many x boxes a kid gets. We all know the reason for the season. Except for loser ex wife that is. If she wants it so bad let her buy the whole thing herself and not use your boyfriends money to do so. I am all for the kid getting tons of gifts and toys. I would get the kid one myself if I had money coming out my ears. Kids need stuff and lots of it now-a-days. But lets get the kid a variety of stuff. She needs to let go of the ex husband because he is with you now. I could go on and on and on some more. I get all in a tiff when I hear about or see ex wives get this away. They stink for sure. I bet if you bought the kid 6 pair of jeans then she would want to go halfers with your b/f. Get my drift? Well I sure feel better now getting that off my chest. How about you? hehehe......Again my answer is no... no way no how.......(smile) I hope the kid really has alot of fun with the xbox you are giving to him. That is really cool of you to do..........
2007-11-26 05:52:20 · answer #4 · answered by Fergy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
For all the people that say its none of your business..its like..Whatever!!!
I agree with you on this --- if he didn't already have one- I would say...maybe the boyfriend go in w/ the ex and get it for the son--but, if he already has one - No, I do not think he should AT ALL... I guess she has to get something less expensive for him. Its not just the XBOX 360- but, who do you think will be buying the subscription for it for her house? Yep...the boyfriend.. when it runs out..he will ask dad.
So, to me...this would be a NO!! he already has one at your house - maybe she can get him something different - playstation - or something.
2007-11-26 06:50:09 · answer #5 · answered by ★★★ Katharine ♥♥♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that if that's what she wants then she needs to pay for it especially since he already has one. If she can't afford it by herself then she needs to come uo with another idea. This sounds alot like my situation. Have you expressed your feeling about this to your boyfriend. If you have and he disagrees then be prepared to have no say soin the future. If you'll are planning on getting married some day this will not be good.
2007-11-26 05:44:20 · answer #6 · answered by Keke 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she cant afford to get him an Xbox 360, she needs to think of different gift ideas. Theres no way I would help pay for it. Sounds like maybe she and her boyfriend want one and thinks your boyfriend will chip in cause they cant afford one.
2007-11-26 05:37:28 · answer #7 · answered by tarie75 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I personally see it as useless since the child has one from you both at your house. I wouldn't agree to it, but it's not your child. Talk to you bf and tell him how you feel. Maybe a different kind of game system, one she can afford on her own. Some children are lucky if they get one let alone two! Good luck.
2007-11-26 05:36:24 · answer #8 · answered by Nikki 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, it doesn't matter what you think. It's up to your bf to do what he feels like doing.
I am a nanny for a 9 year old who has FIVE game systems in the house (XBox, PS2, Nintendo Wii, Nintendo DS Lite, Nintendo Gameboy) so an XBox at each house sounds pretty "normal". Let your bf deal with his ex wife, getting in the middle is only going to lead to bigger issues.
2007-11-26 05:59:16 · answer #9 · answered by laura1977 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why don't you return the Xbox you bought, and let the parents split the cost of the present. Then the child can carry it back & forth; he doesn't need two of the same item. You can then get the kid a less expensive present, if you feel the need to give him something from just you. Are you in a competition here?
2007-11-26 05:44:28 · answer #10 · answered by Nefertiti 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋