Give me one good reason why I should not???

Question

I work with my ex. He's the boss and I am she second in command. We had a dissagrement about something related to work....he bardged into my office saying outloud for everyone to hear: <>

OMG! I am ready to explode...specially I have never been on any !!

Give me one good reason why I should not go into his office, make a scene and break everyting in my sight?

Lynn: haha. I love it!!

Thank you all for your support! I made it through the day without breaking something.
For those who suggested to go to HR, he is the owner of the company so he is God in here...and him and I were a couple 'before' the company.

Answer 1

because your too mature and ur not going to break ur knucles and go down to his immaturity level.
now thats a good reason ITS NOT WORTH IT.
keep ur cool, not even the most shetty man would do that to a lady.
dont do what he did or itll build more hate. dont go to his jerkish mind level , not worth it,
but dont pretend like nothing happened either...
i seriously hope this one helps girl

Answer 2

Violence is not the way to go and I am sure you already know this. Make sure that you announce calmly in front of the entire office that he is lying about illicit drug useage on your part and make it be known that anyone repeating such inaccurate information can and will be sued successfully in court. Even him.

I have to wonder if you were his second in command when you and he began the affair? If so.always avoid any behaviour like that in the future..and advise every girl you know to avoid it. If it is true ..and you felt pressured to begin and continue a sexual affair with him ... you may have a lawsuit anyway.

The real point is though.. do not have sex with anyone in or near the office. KNOW the person who is the target of your affection.. do not sleep with him or her..and know their friends ( choice of friends means alot ) ..know how that persons parents treat each other.. IF the person seems reasonable.. then move forward toward MARRIAGE ..not convenient useage just because ya can. kapish?

Answer 3

I submit my sympathies. If he is willing to make a scene just because he got a bit mad, he is also a bit rude. Your co-workers are probably at the moment thinking that obnoxious person was rude to insult their favorite leader. If you barge into HIS office and start smashing the area, your loyal defenders would then turn on you because you did the very thing they hated your ex for.

If he makes a scene again, don't just ignore him, or he might turn violent. Don't start yelling at him, either, or your friends might just think you were really hot-headed, not a nice person whom is being bullied. Instead, ally yourself with the other people. If it continues, talk to the CEO.

A last word about your ex. He needed the support of the company, or a large purse, to get to be boss. If it seems he's just shoving you around, he might not be boss for long!!!

-A sympathetic stranger

Answer 4

First revenge(if you must have revenge is a dish best served cold) Second could it be he still loves you and is really mad that he has lost you go? (only applies if you still have positive feelings for him)
Finally (and as a chap you fear this most) you should be much more cunning, breaking things makes men cross and hurts us, but we are soon laughing about it with our mates over a beer (at the woman's expense)
So being in a traitorous mood towards my own gender, this is what I would do in your position.

Tell him you are very cross with how he behaved and that you will get him back in your way in your own time (this will leave him wondering for a few days when the bomb is going to explode) After two weeks or so when he thinks it's all blown over, wait until he is in an important meeting then walk in and say. 'You know you accused me of being on pills (so he knows what the reference is) well I've had it confirmed by my Dr. it must be your lack of sperm that caused the problem'
Then walk out.
Do be prepared to resign and find another job as he will never forget this, he will never laugh about that with his mates!

Answer 5

Because you are a big girl. He will respect you more if you handle this like a lady. Go to his office, close the door, lay a big one on his lips, sit down and calmly ask him if he is feeling better. Let him know how you feel without getting emotional. If he gets loud or starts pulling rank, remember you are a lady and ladies don't yell back. Keep your tone even and calm. He will either realize he was a complete idiot, continue to act like a child, or become terrified that you will cut him in his sleep. Either way make sure this is left at the office - don't take it home.

Answer 6

He can always use that against you and you can get into a lot of trouble and get Fired! You are much better then that!

Just try to disregard that comment and do the Best job you can and stay on top of everything. Make sure your integrity is impeccable and people will see you for who you are, not just some immature comment that was made about you. They will see how untrue it is and how ludicrous your ex is.

I Hope you will have a great and blessed day.

Answer 7

Because that takes away any legal standing that you have in this case. If he is your boss then you need to report this behavior to his boss. He cannot do things like that because that creates a hostile working environment and is against the law. You need to have a "good faith" discussion with his boss about these actions and give the company a chance to rectify the situation. If they don't then you have a legal standing against the company. Document everything.

Answer 8

Because he's not worth it.

If you do that than you'll look like you were on pills or something.... I'd wait to calm down and think about you can do that is most productive. Is there anyone over him? I'd write letters, document everything, and see if there is anything you can file with HR....or wait, bide your time and get even

Answer 9

That's exactly what he wants you to do. Completely ignore the situation and act like you don't care. If you do cause a scene people will think what he said was true and he will see he has suceeded in upseting you. Hope this helps. Good Luck.

Answer 10

Because you don't wont to sink to his level. You are adults and should act like it. He is acting like a child and do you really want people in the office to see you act like that. You two are supposed to be setting an example of how you want people to act at work.