why would a man say he is staying in the marriage just for the kids?

Question

could that possibly be the only reason truthfully

Answer 1

No, it's a pathetic excuse to be unhappy. The child(ren) are not going to be grateful that their mom and dad stuck together until they're 18 or so. They'll feel guilty is all and you're showing them a bad relationship as a guideline for marriage. It's better to have two parents separate and be happy than have them together fighting and angry, what does that teach their kids. Does not give them a realistic value on relationships with the opposite sex.

Answer 2

Yes! I am a man that sadly is staying in my marriage for the kids - and because I took a vow. If it was a matter of walking out without consequences most men (and women) would walk. As much as people will profess there is a correct decision it's a lot harder than the neat box they want to put it in. One thing is for sure it's very sad to say the least!

Answer 3

I think its really interesting how people are much more willing to toss away a family at the drop of a hat.

"My happiness in the most important thing in the world, so screw the family I'm leaving."

I'm a good Dad and I work at it every day. I love my children very much. I sacrifice for them to get a good education and to make sure they are well feed and taken cared for. Its my job as a parent to do that. I could very easily turn my back on them and look after myself, but I love them so I don't. Because i love them, their happiness is important to me. I could do a whole lot of things if I didn't have children, but because I do and I love them I don't do all the things I want to do.
Parents who treat kids like another possession have no reason to stay together, but fo rthose of us you love our children want the best for them and a divided family is not it.

Answer 4

No, I believe that it's farthest from the truth.....I believe that he loves his wife but sometimes he hates her and uses the children as an excuse to stay.

Because if he really didn't Love her and he really didn't want to stay then nothing would get in his way of leaving......

Truthfully.....We do what we want and we don't care who gets hurt because we will have our way.

Answer 5

Yes it quite possibly could be the only reason. That or he's too used to having someone cook and clean up after him, doesn't want to give that up.

Answer 6

for the same reason women do it,,we don't wanna see our kids ending up crappy adults,,from growing up in a broken home,,with only one parent,,and if the marriage in not totally unbearable,,women just like men will stick around for the kids,,

Answer 7

It might be.
Some men may not be happy or satisfied with their mate, and may want to "grin and bear it" because they don't want to screw up their kids' lives...Divorce always affects children-some more than others.

But...If they give this reason to you and they still want to have an affair with you, chances are it's not completely true. They want to "have their cake and eat it", too.
So...Be careful -and be smart.

Answer 8

Because he wants to get into your pants. Therefore he does not want to tell you that he really loves his wife but still wants to give it you on the side. He's a liar and a cheater, so he's obviously pretty good at telling women what they want to hear. I suspect he thinks this is what you want to hear.

Answer 9

He isn't really interested in having another chick in his life and he wants to be there for his kids so he can guide them. Nothing wrong with that.

Answer 10

because he is?? maybe he has other reasons, but that may be his main reason. Ask him, but if you really want the answer then you have to be prepared to get it.