my wife and I are living with my parents and my sister in their house (due to financial matters). My wife and my sister do not get along at all. My sister doesn't really talk to my wife...just barely. Anyway... I was chatting with my sister the other day...laughing about something... My wife heard us and was furious..."don't talk to her unless she respects me more!! She treats me like I don't exist"
How should I handle this situation?
2007-11-26 06:03:42 · 17 answers · asked by rearender999 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Move out or give your wife the walking papers!!
2007-11-26 06:37:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no resolving this issue while you are living there, so moving as soon as possible would be for the best. Even is all you can afford is a studio or efficiency appartment it is better than the stress you are living with now.
However, you need to be firm with both these females and make sure they understand that you will not be pawn in their silly game and that they can play without you. You WILL maintain a good relationship with your sister, and you WILL stay loyal to wife. At the very least this might shut them up for a few days, longer if they actually understand that they are hurting you.
2007-11-26 14:14:03 · answer #2 · answered by Rebecca W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To keep peace in the house just tell your sister the deal and talk to your sister when your wife isn't around. Your sister will always be there, she can understand if you put your wife first. Your wife comes first anyway. When you get a chance ask your sister why doesn't she talk to your wife anyway? That's kind of childish of the both of them.
2007-11-26 14:35:53 · answer #3 · answered by KSR 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More so than men - Women hate women. Most women I speak to readily admit this. As much as everyone on this site will tell you to "man - up" or "tell your wife to grow up" - It won't change the fact that nothing you say or do will change the fact that insecurity in people will result in childish, B.S. behavior like your wife and sister are engaged in. The sad fact of the matter is this won't be an isolated incident - unfortunately I know this first hand - your wife will have many, many more of these feuds during your marriage. Mark my words... There are people that work through things and their are people who need to fight with anyone that looks at them the wrong way. Guess which one you married?
2007-11-26 16:26:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wife needs to be less jealous and grow up. Both need to talk to each other and discuss why they don't like each other. Odds are there's no good reason. Let them both know you can't take sides. Family and marriage go hand in hand.
Also work as hard as you can to move out and have seperate lives. Odds are again that so many people living together is causing some sort of problem somewhere even if they aren't talking about it.
2007-11-26 14:11:27 · answer #5 · answered by lbmonkey25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your wife she is being immature and you are not. You have to live with these people and you are probably already a little down about that so why would your wife want to make matters worse by being such a baby.
I wish you luck with your financial matters and hope you can move out soon - I know it can be very very difficult and depressing to live with inlaws because you can't afford aplace of your own.
btw, does your wife resent you for the situation you guys are in?
Is she jealous of your sister's looks?
These can be factors that are adding to her attitude.
2007-11-26 14:34:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your own place is the obvious answer. Your wife should come first in your life, but she has to understand that you are not going to hate your sister cause she does. Let them both know that you will not be a part of their mess.
2007-11-26 14:14:04 · answer #7 · answered by JustMe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your wife you can't ignore your sister - she's family. Tell your sister to treat your wife better because she's part of the family now. Perhaps you should sit them together to talk it out?
2007-11-26 14:10:24 · answer #8 · answered by SweetyPie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would sit down with both of them in the room and tell them that you love them both and will not chose a side. Is your sister just being mean to her or is it your wife? Your wife is upset because she wants you to side with her. You have enough love for them both. Good luck and hopefully you and your wife can find your own place soon....
2007-11-26 14:07:21 · answer #9 · answered by Nikki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Grow up be a man and get your own house. Tell your wife to grow up and act like an adult not a high school child who's jealous. Tell your sister to quit acting like a high school bully.
2007-11-26 14:09:22 · answer #10 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋