I used to let my wife spend all my pay check, but I'm no longer in the mood to let her do that. Now my fair share in our joint account for bills and house hold expense, but the rest I put in my personaly bank account. I just don't feel like I should have to give it up to her just because she wants it. Is this a bad thing or should I be forced to give it up?
2007-11-26 07:00:24 · 9 answers · asked by snack_daddy10 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
BTW, I've notice that she is a lot more frugal when it her money she is spending.
2007-11-26 07:13:25 · update #1
I used the words "fair share" and yet people are saying she should have more. This is interesting.
What if we switched things around and made it about sex. Would you all be so willing to give it up? I think not.
2007-11-26 08:11:01 · update #2
It's a bad thing to give it to her if she is not spending it correctly...
When I was married, my ex gave me his check, he was gone out of town 8 months out of a year. So I had to keep up with everything, but he had a fax of everywhere the money went to.. It was our money, so I made sure I managed it well for the both of us
2007-11-26 07:06:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sense enormous animosity and resentment on your part...Ask a Divorce attorney..They can let you know she gets half of everything you have..including your retirement funds..And if your in a community property state..you can really be in deep DO_DO if you all of a sudden decide you don't want to share anymore...BE CAREFUL ...
With holding money is a means to Control and manipulate
another person..when it's been equal before.......
When did you decide you could be your wife's DADDY instead of her husband????
Do your marriage a favor and find a good marriage counselor. Your wife deserves to be treated better .Good luck..
2007-11-26 15:18:34 · answer #2 · answered by Dog Rescuer 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
honestly, I think you and your wife need to sit down and do some talking. If you want your marriage to be equal you both must understand "giving and taking" but agree on "sharing"
2007-11-26 16:04:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends what she is doing with it.
If she is paying rent/bills, buying food, gas, etc. then you should give it to her since that is for both of you.
If she is just spending it on junk, then no, she shouldn't have it.
2007-11-26 15:05:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
did she spend as you put it all your money on herself or the house to make it comfortable for you something must of happend for you to feel this way if she does the same then there should be no problem
2007-11-26 15:10:44 · answer #5 · answered by butterfly 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That sounds like a good idea so far. Your next step is to transfer those extra funds to my bank account.
2007-11-26 15:17:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Marriage should be 50/50.But some people have to handle their money differently.It is your money and there is bills for both of you.If she is OK with it,do it your way.....
2007-11-26 15:09:43 · answer #7 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hopefully she isnt in the mood to put out any more, just because you want it. do you squeak when you walk? Thank the lord you aint my man, you would being given out lots of money for alimony now.
2007-11-26 15:04:47 · answer #8 · answered by married with kids 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Find a youngen
2007-11-26 15:05:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋