I have been married for 7 years and I sometimes don't have sexual desires. Well, most of the time. I would rather do it by myself. Sometimes the thought of being with another person turns me off. It has really been a problem because my husband has a high sex drive. When I finally give in, I just want it to be over. Anyone else feel this way??
2007-11-26 06:01:32 · 10 answers · asked by Stephanie R 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is not about being attracted to my husband. I love him very much. It is really the intimacy thing I have problems with. I just don't feel like having sex.
2007-11-26 06:10:57 · update #1
You have to ask yourself what do you think about when you take care of yourself? Is it something that he isn't doing or is it something that is missing emotionally? Try to search why you don't feel this way and talk with your husband about it. Even if it is that you feel you aren't attracted to men anymore. He needs to know why and more importantly you need to know why. Good luck.
2007-11-26 06:12:59 · answer #1 · answered by No one 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not I have a high sex drive but my hubby doesn't well not anymore what is it that you can not handle anymore that make you want to find it somewhere else the thing is in tjis case you need to use your mind when you have sex with you hubby think about other things for instance what turns you on and close your eyes and feel it. You are having it with him but your feeling nice. So not only do you get your buts he gets his to. Try different kinky things together like for instance foreplay or watch porn things that turn you on and gor from there.
2007-11-26 14:10:20 · answer #2 · answered by Lost 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do occassionally get a bit repulsed by the thought of being with my husband, but he's put on the pounds and has some other not so wonderful habits..
You really ought to just grin and bear it.
2007-11-26 14:08:20 · answer #3 · answered by Jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds more like you don't want sex with someone because they can't pleasure you. You obviously enjoy masturbation. Men are not mind-readers. Talk to your husband. Tell him how you like to be touched and what turns you on. Have you tried masturbating in front of your husband?
2007-11-26 14:20:45 · answer #4 · answered by Jack01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, do not feel like doing it with myself. Would much rather do it with husband. Is your husband not handsome or what. I find mine so sexy that I am always squeezing his nice tush. hehe.
2007-11-26 14:05:34 · answer #5 · answered by Brittney 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My sister was the same way come to find out she has thyroid problems. It may be health related and you don't even know it. See your doctor.
2007-11-26 14:08:01 · answer #6 · answered by THIC007 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm that way now cuz I'm prego...but before that was a different story...
Have u guys tryed doing new things to spice it up?
that might help :)
2007-11-26 15:43:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife is the same way IDK if she is pleasing herself manually but she has no desire to have sex and I have a high sex drive...A good wiff of her perfume and i am ready to go!! She says its her harmones and she needs to get to the doc to get on the pill.....
2007-11-26 14:36:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but no. If you can't stand being with your husband, why are you married to him?
2007-11-26 14:08:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get counseling.
2007-11-26 14:04:54 · answer #10 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋