She cheated on me, divorced me. Now the affairs over she wants to see me again but she also wants to date other men. I want her back but I don't want to share her. I don't think that I can ever trust her again. Is it true what they say? "Once a cheatewr, always a cheater."
2007-11-26 06:16:30 · 18 answers · asked by lawdawg_647 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow, that's a tough one. She obviously wants some divorce sex. If it were me, I'd do the booty call thing and strap up with her, but you obviously are in a different mental state. Cheaters aren't always cheaters - some do change, but she doesn't sound like one of them. Since you're looking for a stable meaningful relationship, I'd suggest moving on.
2007-11-26 06:23:51 · answer #1 · answered by Don 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not always true that "once a cheater, always a cheater". I know someone who was in a miserable marriage and felt trapped. Over time, he met someone and had an affair - but he regretted it. Finally, the marriage ended and he met someone else whom he really loved and now would never think of cheating. As for the rest of your question, I'll leave that to others.
2007-11-26 06:19:53 · answer #2 · answered by dhdaddy2003 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't believe that quote is true for every person. It simply depends on the person...and the situation. Unfortunately, time is the only factor that will prove it true or untrue.
If you have doubts that you will be able to trust her again, then I don't suggest you get back into a relationship with her. You will always wonder and without trust the relationship will not stand a chance. The fact that she wants to see you and date other men leads me to believe that she is not wanting a serious, committed relationship with you.
Good Luck
2007-11-26 06:22:40 · answer #3 · answered by Tina 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She's playing with your emotions. She likes herself and always wants to feel desirable. She obtains this satisfaction by cheating! Yes, it is true; once a cheater; always a cheater. This is true in men AND women. Don't worry, she knows you want her back and that is really swelling her head and giving her "satisfaction." Let her go, move on; she is not worth the pain and suffering. Find a woman who will love you the way you want to be loved and not one who has to play "mind" games to gain "satisfaction." Believe me, this comes from personal experience -- however, I am the woman that was fooled by the "player/cheater" man.
2007-11-26 06:24:18 · answer #4 · answered by Bodaciously Red 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It isn't always necessarily true. She may just be wanting you to fulfill some sexual needs of her and she feels comfortable with you. It is all up to you. If you want to try to work it out with her then that is up to you, but if you do it then you have to trust her in it. Don't be the kind that checks up on everything she does or else that will drive her right back into the arms of another man.
2007-11-26 06:22:44 · answer #5 · answered by No one 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She broke your heart once, are you open to that hurt again? She's your ex for a reason. No doubt, she will cheat again. Why would you want her back? There are plenty of women that would love you for who you are. Good luck.!!!
2007-11-26 06:27:23 · answer #6 · answered by cooter726 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhhhhh.... come on! She told you she still wants to see other men. She's obviously not interested in an exclusively YOU relationship. If you can handle that fine. But don't let your heart move ahead of your head in this one.
2007-11-26 06:22:26 · answer #7 · answered by NH_MCD 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like she wants pie and to eat it at the same time. She DIVORCED you, don't you want better for yourself? I think she isn't worthy of your time. She made her own bed.. now let her lie in it! Good luck.
2007-11-26 06:20:13 · answer #8 · answered by Nikki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, you go it. You see how self-centered she is. Now that she has no one, she's decided to use you as left-overs. But, as soon as she finds someone else, you'll be history again. You can't see this......come on now.......open those eyes honey.
2007-11-26 06:51:52 · answer #9 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, and don't you dare take her back unless you want to be in for more heartache. she wants to have her cake and eat it too, don't let her. how dare she tell you that she wants to get back with you and oh, yeah, by the way i want to see other men too. she has no respect for herself and certainly not you.
2007-11-26 06:20:51 · answer #10 · answered by frigginhilarious 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋