Marriage & Divorce - 30 October 2007

He says he not a sexual person like me. Why would he say that and then look up porn. I don't have a problem with him looking at porn but it makes me wonder.
I'm thin, should I be concerned?

2007-10-30 14:38:13 · 11 answers · asked by Mrs 1

my husband when he is angry with me say that he has slept with another woman in the current one a female co-worker. He says its the only way to hurt me because I have not done the lying he has done about dumb things like not telling me he was eating lunch with his female co-workers for 4 months, has given people rides home. Tells me he doesnt tell me about it because I get to jeolous and i don't have to know everything. Well I beleive you should tell your spouse things that happen with the opposite sex because then there is no reason for lying, hiding and wondering what else is not being told. I tell him about everything so one he is apart of my life all the way around and he knows what I am doing and whom I am with. I am married him not anyone else. I care what he thinks of me so that is why I can't understand why he hides things or lies about them. I go sick of him saying that I made hide it or lie . That is blaming me for him not be honest.

2007-10-30 14:34:32 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have been married since march of 2007, I'm in the military she hasn't worked since april. Now she goes to school, and school only.

2007-10-30 14:32:42 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

my fiancé says that I don't make enough of an effort to dress up and look nice.
I say, why bother if all we are going to do is stay home?
I'm not out to impress anyone.

2007-10-30 14:25:26 · 15 answers · asked by Ms. GTO 7

Ive been married for 5yrs and just recently I found pop up letters and messages of other ex-and women writting him. We have had several arguements. Im tired but I love my husband. Do you think this marriage is really going to work?

2007-10-30 14:22:01 · 26 answers · asked by Momme 1

Me and my wife have been married for five years now whe are both yuong in are twienties and here is my problem whe just recently moved to florida and we live with my parents. In this house there is seven people so I'm talkin no alone time plus whe have a kid.Let my explaine more after about the third year of married my wife sex drive has left I,m talkin once a month maybe twice if I'm lucky.Whe have talk sbout or problems things change for a day or two thin back to normal.I have tried everything ax,bod,brute,fancy motels everthing but nothing works.So toninght and now she has a job so it down to once every two months because she is tired.Back to what I was saying tonight no one home my parents took the kid did whe do antything know because now she didnt have to wait to use the computer because everyone was gone she stayed on myspace the whole time!!! Is she cheating is it me Help PLEASE!!!!!!!

2007-10-30 14:18:52 · 5 answers · asked by Jman 1

I really want kids and am finally ready but my husband dosent seem to thrilled to have them right now how can I persuade him to want to have kids and how much it means to me?

2007-10-30 14:04:17 · 14 answers · asked by Mashley 2

First of all I DEFINITELY want her to divorce her horrible husband...
About one year ago, she was ready to divorce him and then she decided to roll up her sleeves and keep trying --which I supported.
She is an amazing human being; everyone falls in love with her the moment they meet her. He's an alcoholic who picks fights with her when he's drunk -- and he gets drunk every night. He embarasses her and emotionally abuses her.

I want to encourage her to go through with the divorce so she she has less doubt that this is the right decision. But I'm also concerned about encouraging her becuase what if they end up trying to work it out once again?

Any advice from divorced people on what your ideal friend would have done as you walked down this road?

2007-10-30 14:03:11 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I got a phone call from a person i know that said she knew that my husband was messing with this girl.The thing is this person does lie but she said she can get proof just dont say nothing about it until then.What should i do ? Should i go ahead and confront or wait a couple of days to see what else wil happen? She said she will take me to them so i can see it for myself when she knows their together.

2007-10-30 13:55:16 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

My best friend is in love with a married man, she says she is aware it's no getting anywhere. Find a bf and now ask her to marry him, but she says still loves the married guy. I don't know what to tell her, I wouldn't like to be in her situation but as a friend I fell bad for her. What would you say to someone in this situation?Marry this guy who's asking her or what?

2007-10-30 13:52:06 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-30 13:52:05 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

Today while I was at work my cell phone rang. It was a private number. A women asked me if I called her home earlier because my number was on her caller id. I told her no I did not call her. She asked me my name and I promptly asked her name in return. Since I did not call her I did not see the point in giving my name. She told me her name is "Tanya". I then gave her an apology and told her that if I called her by accident i'm sorry but no I did not mean to call her. Then she asked me if I knew...and said my husbands name. I simply said yes and she said okay then bye.

WHAT THE HELL!!

I called him immediately asking him who is Tanya. He said he has no idea. I told him I had to go because I was pissed. He called back a little later saying that maybe it was his daughter's Mother playing games because it's possible she found out we just got married and wants to start some mess. We have been through this before so i'm not feeling very secure. What do you think!

2007-10-30 13:51:28 · 22 answers · asked by missie_d_73 3

I'm separated (5 mos. ago). A guy started pursuing me and told me how beautiful I was, was considerate, and had a lot of things in common. He didn't know I was separated. So I told him one night and he was okay with it. Then on our date, he acted really distant. So did his brother and sister-in-law (we went with them). He wouldn't tell me what they said about me being separated (we all attend a pretty conservative church). He said he just wanted it to be a friend thing. I told him I could live with that but it wasn't what I wanted since he originally called it a date. He seemed wishy-washy with his behavior the rest of the night. Then he ignored me the rest of the weekend. I emailed him to say I was okay with us just being friends. He emailed two days later and said, "I had a really great time and hope you did too. I just don't think it'll work out. Let's just be friends." Do you think he'll wait until I'm divorced? Is he still interested? I'm 28 and he's 42.

2007-10-30 13:50:11 · 11 answers · asked by mandirae23 2

He hurt me so badly...I constantly tried to talk to him about what happened, but he wanted nothing to do with me. Then he tried to be friends with me, but then stopped altogether. I caught him in several lies, most likely because he was ashamed. One day he could not live w/o me, and then he wanted nothing to do with me. If anyone knew what he did to me and what I went through, I just dont have it in me to say it anymore. I have not contacted him on over 3 months. He never talked to me, he ended it in an email while I was in the hospital. Can someone please help me how to move on from what happened? Thanks.

2007-10-30 13:48:12 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I were married for 2 years ,but beeen together for 14 years.help please

2007-10-30 13:44:40 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Background:

Found out wife was cheating. Big argument and, as she states in the following blog I threw a vase of flowers I bought for her in the floor. Her father called and left a threatening message on my voicemail same night she left, I called police and reported it. While police where there, wife and her father and mother show up at house, and she told police I threw vase at her. I was arrested and spent the night in jail. Now I found this:

2007-10-30 13:39:31 · 13 answers · asked by mredgarjr 1

My girlfriend has been married for 5 years and with her husband for 8. they have a little girl and another one on the way. Almost 2 years ago he cheated on her (while she was pregnant with their daughter). It was a really ugly situation. He would stay gone for days at a time, fight his pregnant wife to get out the house to go see this chick. the chick even tried to have my friend arrested and filed for a stay away order against her.

He straightened up earlier this year (i think it was because my friend had finally moved out on her own and was even dating this fione azz dude etc) so once he started weraing his good husband hat, she took him back and things have been pretty cool between the 2 of them.

My friend started a bookclub for women awhile ago and she made some post about it on a few online sites. So about 2 weeks ago, she got an email from the chick her husband cheated with.

cont in a moment.

2007-10-30 13:38:52 · 15 answers · asked by Mrs Jackson - West 2

I get this so often...
Women will straight out TELL me they are jealous, or they will do something that sends this message loud and clear. Well, i HEAR YOU, alright?!

Not ALL women are like this. Just ...a lot. And it's not ONLY about my looks, it's about my talents or gifts or professionalism. It's getting to the point where it's interfering with where I want to go in life, meaning it's overwhelming at times, meaning that I can't make any female friends because they're all too insecure with themselves to be able to have a reasonable conversation or go out shopping without some comment or sense that they feel threatened by my ...what...petite, toned body, natural blonde hair, clear skin, degree in counselling psych? How does one DEAL with this crap? Any ideas?

2007-10-30 13:32:33 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

I NEVER HAVE.

This latest time is based on a cell phone record that is faulty.

I sat next to her and had her call me. It did not log the history properly. She saw with her own eyes and refuses to accept what she sees.

What do I do now? How can I talk sense into her?

2007-10-30 13:29:24 · 14 answers · asked by That Guy 4

A friend has been hit by her usually gentle, but recently very stressed husband in a moment of madness on his part. This has never happened before, although he was very verbal abusive b4 They have 2 young children who unfortunately saw whole thing. She threw him out but the kids are desperate for their dad to stay. The whole family have been under a lot of stress lately and things have become strained. He is horrified at his actions and promises to change, get counselling, anger management etc. What do I tell her? Do people really ever change as a result of these things? should she take him back if he gets help for his anger or is that telling him that violence is acceptable? I would be interested to hear what people think on this. In typical style her husband has an anger problem because his dad lost it good style and beat him when he was small, not that that excuses it, but she is worried about what seeing this will do to her own kids and what messages she sends out 2 them either way

2007-10-30 13:23:48 · 59 answers · asked by Helen A 2

many females brag that the boyfriend love them with all their heart but wont marry. . Many have children and women say they are the luckiest women on the planet because their boyfriend have given their all and all
Excluding those couples who choose not to marry. Thats their choice.

2007-10-30 13:21:39 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I found out my wife cheated on me. When I confronted her about it, I gave her no room to deny it, I asked "Who's ?" When I turned and looked at her, she had a guilty/remorseful/oh crap look on her face. There was an argument when I told her 4 or 5 times to get out of my house (house I purchased prior to getting married to her) and out of frustration and feeling she didn't deserve them, I broke a vase of flowers I gave her for her birthday, 2 days earlier. Her father calls and threatens me on voice mail. I call police and they come to house. I give my report and she and her parents show up and she tells police I threw the vase at her, and I get arrested and spend the night in jail. Now I have to hire an atty, and fight the false alligations, and I see an indirect blog of hers admitting to cheating and how sorry she is for everything. What should I do? Yea or ney?

2007-10-30 12:38:56 · 60 answers · asked by mredgarjr 1

My hubby of 3.5 yrs and i have so many problems i would like to solve one for my sanity!My hubby and i have a lot of dogs 3 Labs and one German Shepard who are part of my families breeding program.Since my family has been breeding champions and work dogs since the 80's i know my dogs.Then we have an Akita,Westie,beagle,a cat who thinks its a dog and a rhodesian ridge back that my hubby bought a year ago to go hunting with him.Four of theses dogs were taken in by me personally or bought.The rest were brought home by my husband with the exception of the cat(stray)that wandered into our yard.I love animals and am the main caregiver to the animals but it takes alot of time /effort on my part to train each one.My hubby recently brought home a Cane Corso with the logic of making 2 grand per puppy.How to convince him this is a horrible idea!The dog is already fighting with our current dogs..

2007-10-30 12:23:57 · 14 answers · asked by Jenna F 1

had someone tell you that you were the love of there life.. they could not love someone so much.. only to leave you and marry someone else.. oh yeah they also use the old .. i dont want things to change betwee us

2007-10-30 12:21:44 · 14 answers · asked by vis 7

hi...
can anyone tell me what should i do??? i found out that my husband watches porn and visits adult chat sites when i was checking for something else in history of explorer...i came across this....now.....what should i do??? should i discuss this openly with him or just let me continue by ignoring this...our sexlife is ok and i love him.

2007-10-30 12:20:30 · 19 answers · asked by wise 1

the 2 of them have never gotten along. She also has a new BF that is not much older than the son and the 2 of them clash badly. She sent him here with the clothes on his back and that is it. Here is the problem. My husband contacted Child Support enforcement and let them know that the son was dwelling with us and faxed them paperwork from his school showing that he was indeed enrolled in school here. OCSE them mailed the mother a form to sign to stop child support and SHE REFUSED TO SIGN IT AND STATED THAT AS LONG AS THE COURT ORDER SHOWED THAT SHE HAD PHYSICAL CUSOTDY SHE WANTED THE MONEY. Unbelievable, I know.We do not even want support from her.We just want to stop paying her. My husband and I went to an attorney who wants 3 thousand bucks just to change the court order. In our state the age that a child can choose which parent they want to live with is 14. OKay, so here is my question. Isn't there an easier way to go about having this court order modified since he is living with us

2007-10-30 12:14:25 · 9 answers · asked by whatshername 5

over the coarse of 5 or 6 years, and you never have.


What would you do


It seems "Im cheating on her wit a new person every week"

2007-10-30 12:12:29 · 56 answers · asked by That Guy 4

Has this ever happened to you? Were there any RED FLAGS in the begining of the relationship.What were the warning signs that the relationship was going to become abusive.

2007-10-30 11:57:15 · 13 answers · asked by KISS ME♥*´`*•.¸★ 2

My sister just got married in July, her husband is very verbaly abusive, they can't get along without arguing. He's after her money, she quit her job as an accountant to pursue her master's in finance. He's nagging her every day for having to quit her job, and he gambled their money away on stocks.
She called today and told me that she met this guy that graduated from MIT, and they're having an affair.
So I'm wondering if this is too good to be true, do guy like him chase after married women for the sake of competition or maybe he's for real?
I'm asking because she talk to me everyday, I'm tempted to tell her to dump her husband go for the other guy

2007-10-30 11:52:05 · 10 answers · asked by 結縁 Heemei 5

I had an affair this last summer with a married man, got pregnant and lost baby but before that i told him about the pregnancy and four weeks later lost the baby(girl) at 17 weeks. he did tell his wife now she wants to talk to me and wants to hear my side of the story. what should i do? how do i do this with out hurting her feelings which i've done so already?? help...anyone

2007-10-30 11:46:59 · 61 answers · asked by Anonymous