My sister just got married in July, her husband is very verbaly abusive, they can't get along without arguing. He's after her money, she quit her job as an accountant to pursue her master's in finance. He's nagging her every day for having to quit her job, and he gambled their money away on stocks.
She called today and told me that she met this guy that graduated from MIT, and they're having an affair.
So I'm wondering if this is too good to be true, do guy like him chase after married women for the sake of competition or maybe he's for real?
I'm asking because she talk to me everyday, I'm tempted to tell her to dump her husband go for the other guy
2007-10-30 11:52:05 · 10 answers · asked by 結縁 Heemei 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well he told her he's in love with her and I think she should try her luck, I know it sound too good to be true, kind of like a cinderalla story
2007-10-30 12:02:52 · update #1
Well sometimes one can fall in love with someone who is married. Many men as a rule do this as more of a hobby. I mean it's one of the ultimate sports, to get a married woman to have an affair with you. I mean the guy gets the sex and all the attention but has none of the responsibilities of a real relationship. He can see other women, and do what he wants. She should be careful, I mean sometime real love does show up when your in a bad relationship, but it could also go from bad to worse quick to if she's not careful.
2007-10-30 12:49:44 · answer #1 · answered by Prof. Dave 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe guys go for married women because it's an easy target. All they have to do is pretend to be more caring, more considerate, a listener, find them desirable, and agree with her complaints about her hubby. They are in like Flynn and someone else is supporting her financially. As long as it's secret and they don't live together, the relationship wont proceed past the Romeo and Juliet stage. If it does, he can run and she cant kick up too much fuss without letting the cat out of the bag.
2007-10-30 19:02:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
More often than not verbal abuse is worse than physical abuse. If she has already started an affair with this guy then she has made her decision. I personally wouldn't stay with someone who was abusive, so I say good for her. I don't agree with the fact that she has gone against her marriage vows, because they are sacred. I think she needs to kick this jerk out and just concentrate on herself, because going straight into another relationship is only jumping out of the fire into the fat. IT'S GOING TO CAUSE HER SOME REAL GRIEF..........
2007-10-30 19:08:50 · answer #3 · answered by FLIT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is already cheating, than there is no point for her to be married. A marriage vow is meant to be pure...and obviously she has broken that vow. Under no circumstance should she violate it...but if she is not happy with him...than yes...she should just leave. It would have been better if she left her husband before she did anything with the other guy.
PLUS...most men get a kick out of getting something they can't have...so yes...some men do get adrenaline rush out of it. So, pursue with caution.
2007-10-30 18:56:21 · answer #4 · answered by dr. phillian here.. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure why the guy is into your sister. But if you're going to advise your sister on anything, I think you should tell her to get out of this bad marriage and end it completely before she even thinks about starting a new one. It is only fair for everyone involved. Good luck.
2007-10-30 18:57:17 · answer #5 · answered by nadia_j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a VERY similar situation & I wonder the same thing. I want to believe he is genuine in his feelings, but you can only know for sure if she leaves her husband. But sounds like she'd be better off without him anyway.
2007-10-30 19:54:29 · answer #6 · answered by azflower25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the guy. It could be for the adrenaline rush, sure.
2007-10-30 18:55:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the guy is not faque..... he must me actualy loving ur sis..
coz its not realy eazy to fall in love with a married lady.... coz she has been sleeping with other guy too... so.. i think since the guy is ready to compromize with this.... his love must be true =)
she can go 4 him... :) all the best......
2007-10-31 00:18:59 · answer #8 · answered by Mr. Mishra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if she leaves her husband she needs a break form relationships period....
2007-10-30 19:00:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anaiyah M 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my lady the good ones are always taken
2007-10-30 19:19:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋