Do you know anyone who was murdered by their abusive partner for leaving the abusive relationship?

Question

Has this ever happened to you? Were there any RED FLAGS in the begining of the relationship.What were the warning signs that the relationship was going to become abusive.

Answer 1

There are millions of cases which is the reason for all of the shelters established for battered and abused women. It is hard to put a finger on any one thing perhaps that would be a red flag necessarily because even an argument that many couple have from time to time can become a murder, as in the case of Steven Grant here in Michigan not too long ago.
One thing that may help is to look for the danger signs in handwriting because that has been shown to be over 80% accurate over many years and although an abuser can be nice when he, or she, gets what they want, the handwriting does not change. If this is you looking for the signs, I will give you a link to NCADV and handwriting wizard but as a rule of thumb if he is violent one time, don't look for any further signs but get out and be safe.

Answer 2

In my hometown, we had a couple who were the "high school sweethearts" - but it was a relationship of turmoil. Many times they had violent fights, which usually resulted in him beating her up. Yet they stayed together, got married and had 2 kids. Everyone knew that sooner or later something bad would happen. Finally, she had him arrested, got a restraining order, and he went to jail. By the time he got out, "Robin", now pregnant, was living with another guy who treated her and her kids like a queen. The ex showed up one morning with a shotgun, went into their home.. shot Robin's boyfriend at point blank range, shot her in the back, and committed suicide in front of their 2 and 5 year old children. All of the adults died. The only fortunate part of the whole thing is that luckily his parents lived next door and they heard the gun shots and got to the kids right after it all happened.

A year ago, the house where all of it happened was torn down and a memorial flower garden with a bench sits where the tragedy happened.

In the same town, a boy who feared his abusive father killed his mother, who was trying to get his father to come home. The boy's only motive was that he had heard her talking on the phone to the dad and they had agreed he would move back in that weekend.

Yes, there are always warning signs, if one is willing to see them.

Answer 3

Warning signs are usually putting you down,controlling you in unobvious ways,where you suddenly realise you have hardly any contact with friends and family,or are keeping secrets from them about your relationship,also things like comments about make up clothes you wear.If you feel its not right its not,trust your instincts and get out before you get in too deep.Most of these men are cowards at hard and once you are brave enough to have no contact for a while they get fed up and move on to the next poor unsuspecting female.Good Luck and keep strong XXX

Answer 4

no, but I did know an abused woman who discovered her boyfriends suicide. He was always mean and abusive to her, mentally and physically. He called her one night and told her to come over to his parents. When she got there, his parents weren't home. She went into his room and discovered the whole thing. It was really sad because she was a beautiful girl. After a while she healed from it, but she was never the same again.

Answer 5

Nicole Simpson

Answer 6

A good friend of my mother's left her husband of 12 years because he used to beat the hell out of her all the time. My mom had lunch with her...the next time she heard anything of her, it was from the woman's mother, saying that she had been shot multiple times, by her husband. He shot her 4 times with a .38, and as she lay dying, the b@stard laughed, turned around and left. She lived long enough to crawl to the phone and leave a bloody hand print on it. He got off lightly..."crime of passion" defense. He said that she was cheating, and that she had provoked him to hit her.
I hope he rots in hell.

Answer 7

My grandma used to say, 'if he hits you, leave him!"
She did and took the 2 kids with her.. not normal for her day either but it was that or be a punching bag the rest of her days.

Answer 8

You scare me with your question, if you are afraid get out now. There are signs, short temper, cuzzing screaming alot, controling, putting the other person down, no respect. Call the police. if you need.

Answer 9

never happen to me .. but i knew some one who murder her husband because he cheated on her.. she spent 17 yrs in prison and when she came out she started working at my company.. becoming a trainer and assistant..manager.. funny thing was later with 3 yrs she married a drug dealer who cheats.. she did not kill him.. instead moved back in with her mom

Answer 10

yer askin, im tellin.........git out now. i left my ex with our 2 boys... 4 and 5 yrs old at the time........we had the clothes on r backs a carton of cigarettes that i stuffed in my purse and 68 cents in my purse. we ran like hell after a 6 hour beating and drove straight to the cop shop in the next town bcoz he realized i was running with the boys and he was following us. went thru hell but i went back to my home state, got the boys enrolled in skewl, had a job and r own place. the ex came in the middle of the nite, broke down the door, held me and the kids at gunpoint after he beat me with the gun, and took us back to alabama. im tellin ya honey........that was 18 yrs ago and i still know hes comin back. git out NOW!!!! dont wait. it aint easy, but its better than bein dead. u dint mention kids, but believe me......in THEIR best interest........leave. kids can bounce back from a divorce....they NEVER bounce back after watchin years of abuse.