Marriage & Divorce - 30 October 2007

From the time I was 11, up until I turned 23, I was very very overweight. I have only had one "boyfriend" growing up and I use that term loosely because I later found out that he cheating on me and using me. The majority of guys that I met were very mean to me because of how I looked. I'll confess that for a long time I had very low self esteem and suffered from depression. Since then I have lost about 95% of my excess weight and all of a sudden men that I meet are interested in me and hit on me. The problem is that now I have no desire to date anyone or get married. My family does not understand this and they keep pushing me to settle down with someone when in reality I'd much rather be alone. I don't want to get hurt if I should gain back my weight and I feel that if I'm not loved for who I am on the inside, I'd rather not be loved at all. I have asked them to stop but my cousin especially insists on trying to hook me up and she makes comments about me being single. What should I do?

2007-10-30 03:22:59 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

Is it ok for a man to hit a woman if she calls him an insulting name? Nothing physically, just calls him the "b" word during an argument after he has called her very demeaning things.

2007-10-30 03:18:08 · 66 answers · asked by Anonymous

I know if I were to marry my boyfriend I would be big as a house. His cooking is sooooooooooooooooo good. Our first 6 months togther I gained 20lbs because of his cooking. lol

2007-10-30 03:17:36 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-30 03:11:32 · 12 answers · asked by inlovewith maria 1

My husband is in the military there are several details to this i don't have time to tell such as may 14 mothers day two months after getting residency green card he left me had dometic dispute and said if it happened again he could go to jail and loose his greencard. Well july he ran into the military he is 35 myself 30 he wanted to get his citizenship faster 1 yr instead of 7 the military will give him that after 1 yr of service Well he was allowed a 5 min call home we argued he said i don't need you anymore the military is taking care of my process! He never invited me 2 basic training graduation which he couldn't have had if i didn't help legalize himand i was the one he didn't invite!! after he got in ait where he is now he can call on nights and weekends has a cell phone i have called him almost everyday he never answers sometimes hangs up on me he never calls his 2 yr old daughter or my 7 yr old it is really discusting and it is hard for me to move on without him telling me WHY

2007-10-30 03:08:11 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

Want to hear the opinions of married folks out there. Was listening to a radio talk show this morning and was shocked by how many moms just HATE Britney!

2007-10-30 03:07:38 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

Please be kind in your answers. I am not looking for insults or harsh judgements. I am feeling fragile and confused enough as it is...

I started playing this online game about a couple of months ago. I am married, with 2 kids. I got to know this guy in the game and pretty soon it turned into something more. I have never done anything like this before. I have been married nearly 9 years and I love my husband very much. This was only a spare time recreational thing. I was certainly not looking for someone else.

I think I have completely fallen for this guy. He feels the same way, and he is married with kids too. We are both complete wrecks here. We can't quite get over the strength of our feelings for each other. We have seen each other's pics. I have tried to walk away but it's tearing me up inside. I can't eat or sleep. We have talked about meeting, but that would be making the final step into a real affair. I don't want to ruin my marriage. Help...

2007-10-30 03:06:43 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

what are the actions of someone truely sorry for hurting you as apposed to the actions of someone who got busted and now has to make things better? the old sorry or sorry they got caught dillema......what is the difference in their actions...

2007-10-30 03:01:36 · 14 answers · asked by suitablepenname 4

i know, being 18 in college right now seems like the perfect path for me right now! but a boyfriend of over a year now and with him being in the Airforce has made difficult to see each other like we use to. Don't get me wrong out relationship has been through a lot and we have made it threw all of them! I know how to be independent I'm practically on my own right now. I believe that if you have God in your life everything goes so much easier, and i do believe any marriage can work! My boyfriend and I want to move in together and a soon enough get married. I don't really have that much going on in my hometown. I'm finishing up my freshman year by December and would continue my education where every i go! What advice to you have for my situation? Move and get married?

2007-10-30 03:01:09 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

Our child support order was done 7yrs ago he wasn't making much, now he has his company and i dont know where to get information to take to child support office since he never reported the drastic change of income. The attorney generals office isn't much help and pretty much as long as he sends his $200 a month they're satisfied.

2007-10-30 03:00:17 · 7 answers · asked by linda 1

what i do my husband doesnt really work. we have been married for a year now and this is really getting to me. he leaves home from 5 am and works until 10 pm forhis job i go with my friends at about 12 pm but when i come back around 2 am he is still doing the dishes and cleaning up! im getting tired of his lack of performance how do i get him to work or should i kick him to the curb?

2007-10-30 02:57:53 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

My brother in law came to me with the intention of breaking ice this eve......
telling me my attitude pisse* him off.. .and wehn i started by saying that "you"dont patch up even wehn i apologized .. he said that was not a real apology!!!

Well ..he said we cannot make up i think..i said the ball's in your court..and then he very roughly shunned me after i said i know your style/nature now... so its upto you"
he shooted off saying ""what my nature???: and then stormed off my door!


In past few years we have had a hot n cold relationship but there have been times of very strong emotinal bonding .
We used to best friends. i have gtot over him totally .. and im sure so has he.
But our fights dont stop ..one fight if ever resolved the fresh one waits very next day .. im tired ..
im married to his elder bro mom of two .
he is a father to be sooon.

what do i do? we live under 1 roof .. and im just unable to cope with this nonsense!

2007-10-30 02:53:09 · 16 answers · asked by barley 2

My husband quite his job and the employees and boss gave him a party, they got him a cake and card, 99% of the people wrote good luck and just signed their name, but there was one that hit me the wrong way - Here is what she wrote-
I know that you'll exceed in anything you do!
Luv ya,
and then she signed her name.....

I have work in a lot of places and I have signed alot of co-workers cards when they've left work, but I've never signed their card with Luv ya and I never seen any other women sign a married man's cards that way either..

my husband's always told me that he only hung out with a few "guys" at work...........
so on that note, I'm just wanting the opinion of some other women

2007-10-30 02:43:15 · 25 answers · asked by justwondering 1

2007-10-30 02:41:32 · 12 answers · asked by H w 1

I'm aware of a woman who recently got married, but hasn't stopped calling her ex-boyfriend. I'm neither the husband nor the ex-boyfriend, just someone aware of the situation. Her husband doesn't know about it even though the ex-boyfriend wants her to tell him because he wants to remain friends with her, but not disrupt the marriage. The reason he's an "ex" is not because they fell out of love, but he wasn't in a position to commit to her when she wanted a commitment and she moved on to her current husband. My guess is that the woman is still emotionally attached to the ex and by telling her husband she still talks to him, the hubbie would probably order her to stop. She knows she shouldn't be talking to him, but she doesn't want to stop either. Either way not a great situation.

What do others think about her motives and why she won't tell the hubbie that she wants to remain friends with the ex, but has no intention of reconnecting with him or cheating.

2007-10-30 02:40:40 · 5 answers · asked by Tiger 1

What would you do and say?

2007-10-30 02:38:10 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I have been married 10 years, together for 13. He has a condition he takes medication for. If he doesn't take it, he gets abusive (never struck us, just called names and yells). We have two boys under 10, and I hate that they see it, too. I keep his medicine full, and in a good place for him to take it, but sometimes he forgets, and when he gets home, he gets mad a little things, and starts yelling and calling me names. When I get upset back at him, it's all my fault. Our children see this, and I hate it. My husband is a hard-working man, a great father and wonderful most of the time, but I can't stand to see this happen again. I just don't know if leaving is the solution.

2007-10-30 02:36:09 · 18 answers · asked by tara m 2

How do you know when someone is truely sorry? If someone doesn't take responsibility for what they have done and constantly deflects the blame and maybe even blames the innocent party for the reason they acted badly to begin with and makes excuses and justifications for what they have done......can they even be a little sorry or is it all BS to get the issue over with...what do you do when you realize someone who has hurt you deeply doesn't even feel bad for it and all the attempts at "apologizing" are clearly half hearted. And how do you react when they get mad that you don't accept their apology and forget about it?

2007-10-30 02:26:54 · 5 answers · asked by suitablepenname 4

breaks the chain and wants the engagement off? I mean does this happen? after i have read that engagement is a promise to marry each other, right?

Thank you all.

2007-10-30 02:22:56 · 13 answers · asked by jables 4

Been married nearly 20 years. My husband and I seem to have grown apart over the last 2 years. I still love him, but I just don't like him very much any more. I'm not "in love" with him. I just don't seem to have the same feelings I did for him when it comes to intimacy. He thinks I'm cheating because I don't want to have sex with him. But it's just because I don't feel close to him anymore. I don't feel like he cares about my wants, needs and well being, so I guess over time, we've just kind of withdrawn from each other. He shows no affection to me, unless he wants sex. Hasn't told me he loves me in months. I can't talk to him about my feelings because he becomes irate and turns things around and blames me for our problems.

I've sat and cried over this for days, weeks. Part of me wants a divorce, but part of me wants to stay with him, as we have a lot of years invested in this marriage, and we have two teen children.

Advice and suggestions please?

2007-10-30 02:01:34 · 17 answers · asked by ~RedBird~ 7

Sex question.......when me an my fiance get down....he cums in a short time b/c he says its so good...an hot?
he can't control himself. Then 5 mins later i'm ready for somemore an he's tired. Whats up with this..he's 24.


also when we are getting down...he'll say he wants anal...but don't say anything....i would if he persisted a little more

2007-10-30 01:33:20 · 16 answers · asked by Tica 2

Husband gets caught in lies about girls and web pages he has listed he is single on, goes on a business trip plans to have you join him then at the last minute claims he is going to be working and you find out he had the whole weekend off, comes home from trip and brings everyone a gift but the wife, stops kissing the wife and stops having sex. Whe asked why he has stopped these things he claims wife doesn't make the first move ever and thathe is tired of being accused of cheating. Wife never accused him of cheating she accused him of lieing. Please help, cuz I am about to lose my mind and I am lonely, the only person in the house he shows affection to is my daughter...However he has just bought me a new car, new PC, new hand gun and other stuff, but it is more like being with a friend, there is no affection at all.What is going on??

2007-10-30 01:20:50 · 30 answers · asked by swtlilblonde31 5

My friend is married with a son. Her husband does not work at all. He says that he is a philosopher and is "seeking his inner self". Their son is 10, and he did not work a single day since they married. She works two jobs and studies to be a teacher of foreign languages (she was a preschool teacher, then decided to "upgrade"). When she comes back home at evening, she quickly runs to the kitchen, to cook a dinner, and serves it in front on TV for her husband. Then she checks her son housework, and washes and does the laundry and cleans,
and goes to bed late to raise early. Her son goes to some sports club to play football, and he is very good, and she pays the club fees, and for his uniform, and for the trips he goes on with the team and so on. It was all a strain on her budget, so she took a third job - on weekends she sits at the stall and sells pictures of some local painter (in the tourist area), and
says that she earns a lot from this one,

2007-10-30 01:20:13 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

About a year ago my husband had a month long affair. We tried to work it out but we eventually seperated for about 8 months. We reconciled and we've been together ever since. I know that he loves me, but I just don't trust him anymore. I really wish that I could just move on. I'm not mad at him anymore it's just that he doesn't make me feel the same way he once did. I know that he is very happy that we're back together so I don't want to hurt him. At the same time I figure "hey he slept with someone else who cares about his feelings! do what will make you happy!" I'm sure if I want a divorce I do still love him and maybe we could make things work. Right now I'm just so confused.

2007-10-30 01:00:31 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-30 00:59:15 · 5 answers · asked by Tica 2

again, he has been caught texting my sister in law, txt says he could easy fall in love with her hell always be there for her etc, trouble is she is a lying alcholic, he denies this and claims someone took his phone text her these things, then at a family do i caught him playing footsie with her under the table and her making inuendo about his parts bein hard. its all a mess i love him he swears nothing went on yes he text her to help her failing marriage but didnt text any flirty or sexual as was on hr phone, we bought a house with him 6 months ago and feel trapped, kids 22 18 and 15, if i leave will i get tossed out of house, dont want to split my kids up council say i cant have house for older kids but im not about to ruin there life and tel them to find there own home, i need them help any suggestions...

2007-10-30 00:56:36 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

Divorcing the love of your life due to multiple addictions and weird about money and starting to lie.

2007-10-30 00:39:06 · 12 answers · asked by Rachel☺ 5

Been married for a one and a half years now and I have tried that "new man" stuff like trying to be open with my wife and be her friend, etc - but all it seems to have resulted in is one massive head f*** for me. When I have tried to open up or give my opinions about my wifes problems they go down like a lead balloon and upset her or- get this- she finds me "too positive" . All she wants is for me to do is listen to her problems but do nothing. I dont understand her and I personally dont like what I am becoming. However, besides this I know she is a good woman, and I know that when the time comes she will be a good mother.
So I have started thinking that the old school way of treating "wives as wives" and not as friends/soulmates is the way to go.
So my question is: have any married guys gone down this road of keeping a barrier between their personal lives and their marriages? And how has it worked out for you?

Cheers - I know this is a weird question

2007-10-30 00:20:40 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

She did not allow him to have intercourse also.She treated him cruelly.She threatened that she will commit suicide,etc.His relatives had gone to her house and called her to come back but to no use.He is a very good man.What should he do?He is an Indian,staying in India.

2007-10-30 00:02:48 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous