I'm aware of a woman who recently got married, but hasn't stopped calling her ex-boyfriend. I'm neither the husband nor the ex-boyfriend, just someone aware of the situation. Her husband doesn't know about it even though the ex-boyfriend wants her to tell him because he wants to remain friends with her, but not disrupt the marriage. The reason he's an "ex" is not because they fell out of love, but he wasn't in a position to commit to her when she wanted a commitment and she moved on to her current husband. My guess is that the woman is still emotionally attached to the ex and by telling her husband she still talks to him, the hubbie would probably order her to stop. She knows she shouldn't be talking to him, but she doesn't want to stop either. Either way not a great situation.
What do others think about her motives and why she won't tell the hubbie that she wants to remain friends with the ex, but has no intention of reconnecting with him or cheating.
2007-10-30 02:40:40 · 5 answers · asked by Tiger 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, she is still emotionally attached to her ex boyfriend, and she should never have gotten married without taking the time to grieve the loss of the relationship and readjust to life....
And it's even more apparent because she is keeping her communications with the ex boyfriend a secret from her husband.
She isn't being fair to herself, OR her husband. I think her marriage sounds like a rebound situation, to be quite blunt
take care of YOU. maybe it will work out in her marriage, but i really doubt it at this pace.
2007-10-30 02:50:10 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound as if she wants to let the ex go, maybe she feels as if it may work out for her and the ex eventually. She is holding on to that hope i think and that is why she isn't telling her husband. And she in my opinion shouldn't be talking to the ex, if her husband doesn't know about it, she is in the wrong and her marriage will not work. I don't feel as if this woman should have married because she is still in love with the ex.
2007-10-30 09:51:49 · answer #2 · answered by sweetemtation_123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like she still loves the ex. Like you said they didn't break up because they fell out of love. Basically it was because he wouldn't marry her when she wanted. If this keeps up and the husband finds out, the marriage wont last long.
2007-10-30 09:47:11 · answer #3 · answered by B&M_2005 M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is trying to hold on to her past. Obviously she hasn't gotten over the ex, and if she isn't careful, she will have a second ex on her hands, her husband isn't going to be understanding for long.
2007-10-30 09:48:38 · answer #4 · answered by WVPV07 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but as terrible as this is, it is none of your business. You should stay out of the whole mess...
2007-10-30 10:04:50 · answer #5 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋