My friend is married with a son. Her husband does not work at all. He says that he is a philosopher and is "seeking his inner self". Their son is 10, and he did not work a single day since they married. She works two jobs and studies to be a teacher of foreign languages (she was a preschool teacher, then decided to "upgrade"). When she comes back home at evening, she quickly runs to the kitchen, to cook a dinner, and serves it in front on TV for her husband. Then she checks her son housework, and washes and does the laundry and cleans,
and goes to bed late to raise early. Her son goes to some sports club to play football, and he is very good, and she pays the club fees, and for his uniform, and for the trips he goes on with the team and so on. It was all a strain on her budget, so she took a third job - on weekends she sits at the stall and sells pictures of some local painter (in the tourist area), and
says that she earns a lot from this one,
2007-10-30 01:20:13 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
though she sits there on an open air all the day, be it called or hot.
I just look at it and wonder: why do women need marriage at all, what for? To be Slaves for men, and to provide for them, and please them in bed, and cook and clean?
2007-10-30 01:20:52 · update #1
he isn't a philosopher.. he is a lazy no good piece of crap.. why does she stay? she obviously can make it on her on..
2007-10-30 01:30:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is not a marriage, this is indentured servitude. A REAL marriage is about equal commitment to the good of a family and each other. It is caring for another more than anyone else in the world and loving everything about them. It is compromise and so much more.
On one hand I feel for this poor woman for being in such a one sided marriage and stuck supporting a complete loser bum like this. On the other hand, she can always leave him or give him an ultimatum to get off his lazy a@s or be kicked out. When you enable someone to constantly take and never give then you are just as guilty. After a while the other person expects it and it is the norm to just take. She has given this bum the power to take and never give. I hope you are able to give her some good advice and help open her eyes. God bless.
2007-10-30 08:43:18 · answer #2 · answered by joe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This isn't an example of a good marriage. In most of the marriages I know it is a give and take and all fiances are pooled together for all to use. I only know a couple that have their finances separate and to be honest, they aren't the closest people either. It seems like there is a lot of resentment and mistrust between them. The woman you describe doesn't need a husband. She just doesn't know it yet.
2007-10-30 08:32:50 · answer #3 · answered by ♦justme♦ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow! 10 Years of getting away with being a loser and counting. How the heck did this guy get away with something like that? It sounds like a cultural behavior. What is their nationality?
Does this friend of yours have a sister that thinks the same?
2007-10-30 08:43:48 · answer #4 · answered by darmonx 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a guy and there's nothing appealing at all about this scenario. I'd have to ask the same question of what is marriage for? Apparantly for this guy it's an entitlement.
2007-10-30 08:27:56 · answer #5 · answered by QWERTY 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To increase India's population.
2007-10-30 09:09:04 · answer #6 · answered by lmdhamone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He continues to do nothing, because she allows it. If it works for her and she's not complaining, it really is none of your business. If it bothers her, she needs to talk to her husband, light a fire under his butt, and stop accepting his lazy behavior.
2007-10-30 08:25:32 · answer #7 · answered by Jill C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is so stupid, because as i know when you are married you already a partner, and in your friends case, her husband doesnt work at all, i think she better think twice....
2007-10-30 09:24:04 · answer #8 · answered by Maria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my God... her husband probably plays around online all day w/ women! she needs to divorce this man, plain and simple... he's full of crapola... seeking his inner self? he probably plays w/ himself all freakin' day... =(... if I were you, I'd tell her she needs to divorce him... he will never... get a job... ugh! what is marraige? the union of 2 people working together... good luck to you when you tell her she should dump him! =)
2007-10-30 09:00:02 · answer #9 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is a looser!! Sorry if someone said this to me that they need to find them self, I'd show them the door and lock it!!
2007-10-30 08:24:40 · answer #10 · answered by kim t 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋