My brother in law came to me with the intention of breaking ice this eve......
telling me my attitude pisse* him off.. .and wehn i started by saying that "you"dont patch up even wehn i apologized .. he said that was not a real apology!!!
Well ..he said we cannot make up i think..i said the ball's in your court..and then he very roughly shunned me after i said i know your style/nature now... so its upto you"
he shooted off saying ""what my nature???: and then stormed off my door!
In past few years we have had a hot n cold relationship but there have been times of very strong emotinal bonding .
We used to best friends. i have gtot over him totally .. and im sure so has he.
But our fights dont stop ..one fight if ever resolved the fresh one waits very next day .. im tired ..
im married to his elder bro mom of two .
he is a father to be sooon.
what do i do? we live under 1 roof .. and im just unable to cope with this nonsense!
2007-10-30 02:53:09 · 16 answers · asked by barley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
joint family ...india!
cannot move out we have our wings but meals together!
2007-10-30 03:03:08 · update #1
He is a typical male and only able to do one thing at a time, as usual. He has yet to learn that the appropriate position is on his knees worshipping your every word and etc. Kill him with kindness and don't argue with him, tell him he is right even when he is wrong. Pretty soon he will turn into clay in your hands to mold as you wish.
2007-10-30 02:57:53 · answer #1 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, get your own place. It sounds like too many people in the house. You need a place of your own with just your spouse and children. Second, some people are better avoided. I have family members that I just avoid. I speak at family gatherings but have nothing to do with them otherwise. Remember the old adage 'you can pick your friends, but not your family.' You don't have to be friends with your family members just try to maintain a civil relationship.
2007-10-30 02:58:07 · answer #2 · answered by zento1110 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like it is time for someone to move out. In-Laws barley get along anyway but when your all under the same roof, it makes it worse. You guys see to much of each other. Good- Luck!
2007-10-30 03:01:09 · answer #3 · answered by B&M_2005 M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either have your husband man up and stand up for you or you guys need to get your own place (or boot him out as the case may be). As from the sounds of it you two are just like any other two trying to live with one another day to day. Don't take it personal, it happens to everyone. You two just clash for what ever reason. I know it can't be good for your stress. Either things need to calm down or you need to get your family its own space. Good luck to you!
2007-10-30 03:04:06 · answer #4 · answered by Beatngu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW tell ur hubby how u feel about him, besides he should get his own house that way u and ur hubby can have ur own privacy, things are usually better that way, my husband had two of his friends living with us and we would ALWAYS fight and i would fight with his friends too and when we moved out i became better friends with his friends and we also stopped fighting as much
2007-10-30 02:58:43 · answer #5 · answered by nicki_viau 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who's house is it? if it is your house, inform him you won't take his crap anymore and if you have to he and his family can move out. ask your husband to back you up. not to get in the middle but to back you up towards brothers crappy behavior.
if it isn't your house all i can suggest you do is move our or ignore him. though if is his house, you need to look at what you are doing to piss him off and see if there is anyway humanly possible to refrain from making him mad. because ignoring him in his own house will only make him more angry.
good luck, that's a tough situation.
2007-10-30 02:58:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let your husband handle him. Obviously you two can't get along and if you don't back off it's going to affect your husband's relationship with his brother.
Be cordial and loving, but maybe you can't be friends with him, and that's okay.
2007-10-30 02:57:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to striaghten up his act and to get it together and that you don't need to have all of that stress at home and around your children. I'd just tell him how it is. Hope this helps!
2016-04-11 02:32:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all why are ya'll all living together ??? seems that alone would keep things pretty heated up...............whats wrog with your Hubby ??..........and when is he gonna step up and be the man.......???
It takes two to tango....its a two -way street......
you can either be mature about it or childish same as they are...
that choice is yours........
2007-10-30 02:58:53 · answer #9 · answered by hghostinme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whose house is it?
Jus tell ur hubby that u r not comfortable living like this and that u wanna move.
Goodluck
2007-10-30 03:03:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋