what are the actions of someone truely sorry for hurting you as apposed to the actions of someone who got busted and now has to make things better? the old sorry or sorry they got caught dillema......what is the difference in their actions...
2007-10-30 03:01:36 · 14 answers · asked by suitablepenname 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm not sure that it's possible to determine which it is immediately. I think it takes a good bit of time to see if the actions are aimed at calming down the immediate flare up only or if they are aimed at rebuilding trust, not repeating the hurt, and earning forgiveness.
Sorry for the cliche, but, only time will tell.
2007-10-30 03:11:35 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The difference is simple. Someone who is truly sorry for hurting you realizes what they done, whatever it maybe, guilt comes into play, but bottom line is that they truly apologize and will make it right.....NOW someone who got caught and tries to make things better have this important characteristic...if they didnt get caught, they would still do the dirt their doing now. They try to make things better and they may, but for some its a code that "Yeah I will try to make things better, make things better so you wont catch me next time"
2007-10-30 10:09:46 · answer #2 · answered by prodigychild_21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The long term. Someone who is actually sorry will maintain the new leaf, someone who's sorry they got caught will be good for a little while then go back to their old ways.
2007-10-30 10:11:43 · answer #3 · answered by Jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The difference is time, both are going to be overly attentive to all your needs at first, but the one who is truly sorry will be the one who is sincere in everything they say to you and do for you for a very long time to come probably forever. The insincere ones kindness is shortlived just to get out of the doghouse.
2007-10-30 10:08:10 · answer #4 · answered by Maria 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's a HUGE difference. Someone who comes clean about something himself may actually have a conscience and want to make reparations. Here, there is hope.
Someone who got caught, feels they 'have to' fix things. They probably hoped they wouldn't have gotten busted. No conscience there. Here, there is little hope.
2007-10-30 10:28:14 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone who is truly sorry will try to do things to avoid the situation again. Someone who got caught will be right back to the same behvior.
2007-10-30 10:44:18 · answer #6 · answered by Asked and Answered 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They way the say it. You can tell if someone truly feels sorry for what they did or if they are just trying to cover their tracks.
2007-10-30 10:03:53 · answer #7 · answered by vaya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you are asking this question is that deep down you already doubt if they are sincere about being sorry... and it can happen again. Listen to your inner voice, it will guide you to safety... unless you want to get hurt again, knowingly.
2007-10-30 10:55:41 · answer #8 · answered by Being Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If by getting "busted" you mean getting caught cheating, there's no difference and I guarantee he'll cheat on you again.
2007-10-30 10:41:59 · answer #9 · answered by 428 Moore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to say really. I think only time will tell. If he is truly sorry, he'll do absolutely anything to safe what you have.
2007-10-30 10:05:25 · answer #10 · answered by cherie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋