Marriage & Divorce - 30 October 2007

should me and my husband go to bed OR should we open another bottle or wine and stay up and play while the children are in bed?????

2007-10-30 11:38:39 · 9 answers · asked by mamousoux 3

In the last month I have found out my husband has been cheating on me. We have 2 chilren and have been together for 12 years.They have all been just one of things but it has hurt me so much. I feel terrible, i cant function with daily things and just feel like ****. I found out by a family member and he even lost his job by telling me, so it is all true. I told him i was leaving but he says he has never cheated on me and never would. What do i do this has ripped my family apart....

2007-10-30 11:29:49 · 11 answers · asked by sue_cp 2

How did you know you had found the person you were going to marry? How did you propose or how did your spouse propose? How long have you been married and are you still happy together?

Just looking for a smile to cheer me up today... it's rare to hear about happily married couples and how they know they're in love. :) Thanks!

2007-10-30 11:27:56 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

Have you and why??

2007-10-30 11:20:02 · 11 answers · asked by To be honest 5

he is 18, works at motel , 3 nights a week and does nothing else and i am fed up.....had a fight with my wife and she said i am out the door and i am not breaking up her family . she said that i an a drug addict (NOT TRUE) i fool around with other ladies(AGAIN NOT TRUE) ALL THIS BECAUSE SHE DOESN'T WANT TO ADMIT THAT HER SON IS A BUM ..WHAT SHOULD I DO?

2007-10-30 11:12:18 · 14 answers · asked by Steven H 3

only read if u give mature adviceand ready to read into long sad story. my idea of marriage was about trust and lots of love and atleast the other person is eager to be sincere about our relationship. i was arranged to a man and brought him to US. first everything was good. i loved him so much because he showed me so much love and i accepted him and was glad he was my hubby. even though we are arranged. i showered him with love and attention. after 6 months he moves to another city for job while we save money. so for those six months he was distant i felt like he is seeing variety of women in big city and he doesn;t think of my appearence same as before. i would call him cry about him not talking to me. he wouldn;t open up. sumthing wasn;t right. the way he talked loved wasn;t touching my heart, it was just watever. when i move in with him we fought every day . i would ask him to communicATE to me but it was goign nowhere. one day we fought and i was leaving for a week ...more details

2007-10-30 11:11:45 · 9 answers · asked by baby doll 1

I'm in my thirties and when I see old people I say
I hope I'm never that old!!

2007-10-30 11:05:00 · 22 answers · asked by crystal c 2

2007-10-30 10:58:45 · 21 answers · asked by oooOOO YEAH 1

2007-10-30 10:47:50 · 14 answers · asked by R.Stafford 2

Would you sleep with a woman or a man who is already married to another. Now the caveats:
1. There is no abuse in the marriage.
2. They are comfortable financially.
3. The spouse will not know about your tryst. But they could find out if it went on for awhile.
4. Basically, you don't get a cop out of "saving" the spouse from "worse than death".by starting a relationship.
Would you do it? Do you mind being known as a "homewrecker"?

2007-10-30 10:33:40 · 23 answers · asked by SUMMERWE 3

2007-10-30 10:01:27 · 57 answers · asked by Anonymous

Im not saying im a perfect husband but the only thing that im proud of is i never cheated on her no matter how rough we been through i've been there. Recently i felt sadness while i'm working i don't know why? so when everytime im sad the only person that i talk to is her. i've never dream of it or think of that till now. i still don't believe that she'd done that. so i confronted her she admits it but asking me to choose whether i stay with her or leave her. because i was shocked to loss her the only person that i have in my life i was begging her to stay with me. I've ask question she said it's been 4 months they been seeing each other they only have intercourse once that's what she said. ask her was it someone close to us where does he live does where does he work how many times meet etc .her answer is so limited. i forgive her. the next day i woke up like i don't even know that it really happen so when it haunts my memory i burst to tears. i could'nt believe it. i been looking on her stuff like i don't use to do. i've find out lot's of receipts stuff that she never usually have she's changed alot from clothes to intimite lingerie so everytime were at home i keep asking questions was he good than me sex romance and appearance.
it just burst like that i couldn't control my jealousy so it when on and after that about 2 1/2 weeks i've recieved her mobile bill from our mail seen it she still communicating with the guy whats worst is 5am in morning was the earliest call that she made 4 calls a day to him.whilst that she wouldn't make an effort to call me like that i am jealous to the bones. so that's it i've confronted her again i told her tell something that i don't know are u in love with this person why u call her in such time she reply i was just saying hi which is totally wrong clearly wrong whatever she is planning with that guy probably got interrupted by me well thats it and that's that. what i think for her to do all of that effort is suicidal why because we got married in a country that never offers divorce and were still filling our citizenship for our adapted new country.A have a good hunch after the incident i've destroyed her mobile after i've first discovered the affair she bought another one and kept it where she works just to keep in touch with this guy what shock me the most of her answers at first were revised lies
so i said to myself to hell with it if thats what she really whats in her life so be it i won't stand in her why. but she said im sorry the she wants to spend the rest of her life with me that she love me. she cryed like i've never seen it before. which made me very confused. so no matter what im vigilant towards her until the guy will stop his interest to my wife and find another life to destroy and then i'll know whats gonna happen next that's the right time to decide... what worst is she just told me this guy doesnt have a permanent job more of an happy go lucky i've called him twice but he replies rudeness towards me and doesn't give a damn about my wife.where is he when i was furious and almost beat her did he think of the consequences like he will ruin her future. i was just trying to know if this guy is intention to my wife.
it clearly shows that she was just played by this fool. influence her to commit more lies and deception drown her more. I've ask her so many times why did she do this to me she answer very shallow answer like "you were not there" "where always fighting" is that it? how about is she content over me or she looking for somethingelse? now im thinking was it something in her past that still haunts her i told her if she would tell my everything i would understand and live with it what important is our family but still if she cannot adress this things to me his husband her problem will eventually arise again someday im thinking to myself she has problems mentally physically... I don't know how many times i told her that i will never betray her i don't want to lose her that no one can replace her if we have to move somewhere else just to have a fresh start i'll do it .i love her so much i desperately need your advice and expierence but will she change?

2007-10-30 09:58:27 · 17 answers · asked by hes_a_spank 1

2007-10-30 09:51:55 · 18 answers · asked by softkisses4707 5

2007-10-30 09:29:11 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous

me and my hubby slit up in may 07 he walked out on me went with someone from his work i stopped him seeing the kids cus he would only c them when he wanted to and still does dont want him around me or the boys am i being selfish and do i as their mother have the right? i have now meet someone and hes so good with the kids also the kids are going off their dad alittle cus they dont get to c him as much as they would like to ifeel like a bad mum at the moment am i ??

2007-10-30 09:28:49 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

he has no money to buy me out. does he have a choice?

2007-10-30 09:28:19 · 47 answers · asked by kravitz67 1

we have been married 5yrs had two children but we never show each other any affection we never have sex apart from when he is gagging what do you think i should do to try put this problem right.

2007-10-30 09:26:08 · 13 answers · asked by bumpa 2

My husband and I both work full time. We have a 5 year old child. He insists that the house is not clean enough, and has asked me several times to do more. I honestly don't have time to do everything. I started a business with a family member, and I spend alot of time on that. When I get home, I spend time with my child, and do whatever I can. His schedule is a lot more flexible than mine. He is off two days a week, just like me. But whenever he does some housework, he points out that I am not doing it. I feel like I am being pulled in several directions and there is a lot of tension between us. We have not had relations in 7 months, due to the stress between us. I don't know if he is just picking on me because I am not having sex with him, or if I am being lazy and need to clean more. Maybe I need to stay up later than normal and try to get more done. Please help.

2007-10-30 09:15:06 · 41 answers · asked by ACE Tx 1

use ur brain good answers

2007-10-30 09:11:33 · 27 answers · asked by smite69 2

It seems to me that I've got nothing to lose, she is paying for her own flight and I've not made any promises.

She might be wanting to live in Europe and see me as her ticket to do that, but could it work out anyway?

2007-10-30 09:04:37 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

She likes to wear dresses, she reads novals books, reads

love stories.

I ask her can i say i love? That she started lol lol lol lol.

She also like a her back rob down every night after she come

out of the hot shower or bath.

Also today iam thinking of give her some roses and a dinner

night out with a candle light dinner? I take her out 6x / year

and getting her roses and dinner out with a candle light.

i need some help with all females please answer that to me?

2007-10-30 08:59:00 · 5 answers · asked by BIG BLACK GRAZZLY BEARS 3

Any creative ideas?? I want to give him something special - what was something creative that you did for your significant other?

2007-10-30 08:56:58 · 3 answers · asked by Milla 2

To say that he is a minute man would be giving him too much credit. Usually it lasts about that long....wham, bam, and I don't even get the "thank you ma'am" before he is fast asleep again.
He always wants to use the same position too....the "spooning" one where he is behind me. Gee, that NEVER gets old! I don't think it's anything I am (or am not) doing, because I take care of myself physically and dress nicely. How can I get him to realize that women have needs too?
And I know it's not low sex drive on his part....he can, on occasion, be a wonderful, enduring and considerate lover.

2007-10-30 08:47:03 · 24 answers · asked by Ms. GTO 7

heres a question for you. why should you chance on love again, when you lost it so carelessly last time, it takes soo much work, and my emotions are not stable enough/lifes ups and downs easily have me up and down. So knowing on this, and the pain of failed love, why should you try again?

2007-10-30 08:45:54 · 19 answers · asked by steveo 1

to me this would never be a problem. I date people that are comfortable with this (sometimes going with me). I have analyzed this and there is no feminist attitude from them, there is no religeous attitude from them...it just seems to be a control issue....i have never been married, and obviously whether it takes a few years or a few days to end, all my relationships have ended at some point...but i can't wrap my brain around this.....is it a control issue? And if so is it a slippery slope meaning a doomed marriage? Help me understand this

2007-10-30 08:42:45 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have only been married for 3 years, but I have been together with my husband for 10. I feel extremely guilty, but I can't stop thinking about this other man. Any advice?

2007-10-30 08:39:37 · 20 answers · asked by Jade 1

my husband of 4 years met a man at his job. the man is openly gay. this man is my husbands best friend. he calls my husband all times of the day. and every morning at 430am. to wake him for work. even though im there to wake him. my husband and i seperated (for diffrent reasons). he went to stay with this man . he said he had nowhere else to go. this man only have in his whole apartment is one bed, a dresser, and a tv. nothing else. where do you think my husband slept. he told me on the floor. now that my husband is back home with me. he went to pick up his clothes and return his keys. his friend told him to keep the keys. why would he tell him that. my husband dont see anything wrong with that. but i do. is it selfish of me to think something is going on. when i ask my husband he gets offended. and says nothing is going on. he says that they are only best friends

2007-10-30 08:35:55 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am married for six years now. I cheated on my wife three years ago and sometimes even now i don't tell my wife everything. She wants to move back home and us to make a fresh start, that is three hundred miles from my family here. I want us to stay together but I don't want to move. Also how can I get her to trust me again? She seems very unhappy and still accuses me of things that I'm not doing involving the other woman. The other woman is also married but I've not seen her in a couple of years. What would you do? I love my wife very much and really want it to work out.

2007-10-30 08:26:23 · 23 answers · asked by Ricky 1

2007-10-30 08:25:23 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

im involved with a married man he says he still loves his wife but yet he still wants to be with me he comes to see me every chance he gets and lies to his wife about it i want to be with him too we care a lot about each other a lot i dont know weather to stay with him or break it off i need help if you have any advice plz let me know we both love each other very much im just all confused

2007-10-30 08:21:42 · 41 answers · asked by dixiesweetjc 1