In the last month I have found out my husband has been cheating on me. We have 2 chilren and have been together for 12 years.They have all been just one of things but it has hurt me so much. I feel terrible, i cant function with daily things and just feel like ****. I found out by a family member and he even lost his job by telling me, so it is all true. I told him i was leaving but he says he has never cheated on me and never would. What do i do this has ripped my family apart....
2007-10-30 11:29:49 · 11 answers · asked by sue_cp 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can learn to trust him more than you do now, but you will never be able to fully trust him again. It would be unwise for you to have full trust in him. Because he cheated, your relationship has changed. You have to decide whether or not you will stay with him. Either way it will be difficult, and I'm sorry. But complete and total trust is something that simply cannot be regained to make things they way they were before.
2007-10-30 11:34:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am interested in this question, but in reverse. We have been together for 4 1/2 years and got married just over a year ago. I found out my wife cheated on me. I found out everything before I confronted her. I am torn and ask myself daily, can I ever trust her again? I have been told many answers, several of which are posted thus far. One thing I do know, it won't be possible without counceling, even then, I guess the final answer is, only time and her response will tell
2007-10-30 11:54:44 · answer #2 · answered by mredgarjr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I put the plan in motion and it didn't even take a week for things to turn around. She called me late last night and we talked for hours. She said she wants to be together with me again. I'm just thrilled right now. We're going out tonight and I feel strongly that we will get back together. Read more here:
2015-02-09 04:22:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he has cheated and won't come clean how can you trust him? MY husband had a one night stand and came clean the next day...we immediately sought counseling from our pastor and because of his honesty and willingness to face what he had done and the issues in our marriage we were able to recover and we are happier than ever and stronger than ever. I still have twinges of not trusting him but he is patient and reassures me...he is an open book and that lends alot towards the healing process...but he has to be willing to be honest and open and if he can't do that trust will never be repaired...
2007-10-30 11:37:41 · answer #4 · answered by Notagain 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You'll never know more than 10% of what he's done. You may never trust him again, but you need to learn to build trust again in another man. Get counselling.
2007-10-30 11:42:16 · answer #5 · answered by S K 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Did he or didn't he..? In one part it sounded like he admitted it and then you said he said he never would cheat.... Which one?? If he did have an affair, I could not forgive him... And you will recover from all of this but right now you have to go on with your life. I promise you, it does get better but time is the greatest healer. Ask yourself, can you really forgive him knowing he was with someone else? If you can, forgive him and try to fix your broken marriage...If you can't and won't forgive him, please divorce and move on. YOU deserve something that is faithful and someone you can trust..
2007-10-30 12:01:39 · answer #6 · answered by lucylocket7258 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the source.... i.e. Face to face with who she is cheating on and guess what if in fact that the family member did get fired for the reason you said then he has a good law suit and should persue it.. As far as you.. hHYe cheated once ad he will again and again and again and again... I do wish you good luck and much love
2007-10-30 11:40:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay you found out he cheated on you by a family member and this member got fired from his job right, you have two children together right after 12 years is a long time but, he claims he never cheated on you and do you belive him? your not the first wife who has been cheated on and you wont be the last either so clam down and get your thoughts together. In order for you to move on you have got to forgive him in your heart and move on if not your marriage wont survive.
This will not only rip your family apart but do some mentally damage to you also. If you go to god in prayer he will help you heal your broken heart and marriage. because what god has joined together no man put us under.
best of luck
2007-10-30 12:38:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its funny eh? You meet someone and marry them and believe within yourself that you know them! Well, obviously you never really knew him at all. My theory is once a cheat always a cheat. Run for the hills, if not for yourself for your kids. How do know this dirty sod hasn't brought home something a little extra(std)? Your kids don't him as a role model. You don't need it either. Go and find someone who will be loyal to you and only you. My husband came home one night and was calling by another womans name(in OUR bed) the very next morning he was gone and I feel as though it was the right decision for us. You are the only one that can decide what is best for you.. GOOD LUCK this not going to be easy on you.
2007-10-30 11:48:37 · answer #9 · answered by FLIT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A relationship is something you look up to each day. The feeling is so awesome that you feel so good. Having someone escalates you mentally and emotionally. Being in love keeps you motivated every day.
If a relation has to end, this is where the agony starts. The common question is will there be a chance to be with her again. You may ask yourself, "How can I get my girlfriend back?" Millions of people are in this situation encountering the same degree of pain because of the break up.
The true way is to analyze what happened and what ends the love. Check out the mistakes both of you committed, especially your mistakes.
Take actions and do something about the situation. Here are some suggestive tips to help you successfully get your ex to desire for you again as she did before.
It is important that you know the reason for the break up and the cause of the failure. Consider the cause of the break up and you can come up with solutions for the next move.
Do not annoy her by calling or texting her always and let her evaluate the problem. Do not be the shadow of your ex girl friend. Give her a break and let her come up with a decision beneficial to both of you.
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2015-05-03 15:36:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋