To say that he is a minute man would be giving him too much credit. Usually it lasts about that long....wham, bam, and I don't even get the "thank you ma'am" before he is fast asleep again.
He always wants to use the same position too....the "spooning" one where he is behind me. Gee, that NEVER gets old! I don't think it's anything I am (or am not) doing, because I take care of myself physically and dress nicely. How can I get him to realize that women have needs too?
And I know it's not low sex drive on his part....he can, on occasion, be a wonderful, enduring and considerate lover.
2007-10-30 08:47:03 · 24 answers · asked by Ms. GTO 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I totally understand. My husband has been the same way lately. He lasts a little longer but it's always the spooning deal!I keep wondering what's going on and if he's just got comfortable with me and thinks he doesn't have to do so much now. I am going to sit down and explain to him that my needs are not getting met. I definately need more than what I am getting.
2007-10-30 08:58:29 · answer #1 · answered by faith 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
SO, he never performs oral on you? OR he never pleasures you without him getting his?
I always make sure my wife is pleasured even if I finish in 1 minute I still spend the time on her to bring her to orgasm. Usually if I finish in 1 minute the second time (10 minutes later) I will last forever (well at least long enough for her to get there)
AND for different positions, what the heck is his problem? I admit that after 11 years my wife and I have about 4 that we use on a regular basis and another 3 that we do for fun (I know not the 101 in the kamasutra(sp?))
SO, for advice, COMMUNICATION is key! I have NEVER turned down a sexual request from my wife. SO ask him for specific things and he will probably do them!
Good Luck!
2007-10-30 09:45:56 · answer #2 · answered by me4tennessee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are 2 types of "minute men": 1) the kind just get off quick 2)the kind that get off quick because they don't care they just want to get off.
Your guy is #2 seeing as he doesn't even try. So since he is a being a jerk about it, you can afford to be a little rude about it. I'd wait for him to try to have sex with me (if I was a girl) and say, "No, I'm not in the mood. I never have an orgasm when we do it anyway". He'll be offended but aren't you that he is being so inconsiderate? And then you can just go from there.
2007-10-30 09:08:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st you need to tell him that this is not working for you. Because if you don't say something he will think all is good.
If that doesn't work stop having sex with him. After about 3 or 4 times of " I'm not in the mood" he'll get the picture and ask whats up. Then explain it to him again.
2007-10-30 08:57:05 · answer #4 · answered by DEBBY'S BABY 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately men are not born knowing all about women's sexuality. You have to tell him what you like and don't like but you have to do it delicately. Unfortunately their egos are in their little head and not their big ones.
Go ahead and let him do his minute man job and then start in on him. It iwll take time for him to work back up again and it will be an opportunity for you to show him how to do all the things you like.
Good Luck
2007-10-30 09:11:33 · answer #5 · answered by mn lady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok. i'm leaning in the direction of gay. and you do no longer know which you will no longer meet a guy who isn't as relaxing to spend time with. For all you know the guy you finally finally end up with could be a million,000 situations extra marvelous than this guy and honestly decide to be with you. shop your chin up and flow on. you would be extra advantageous for it.
2016-12-30 11:01:18 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is the key to any problem like this. Next time he finishes so quickly reach over and pull your dildo out from the nightstand drawer and explain to him that you need more than what he just gave you.
2007-10-30 08:54:33 · answer #7 · answered by rkrell 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
try taking your guy to some sex classes or groups that teach lovers how to maintain a healthy and stimulating (for both sides) type of sex drive, if you havent sat him down already and tried talking to him about this. if you dont want to take him to sex sessions try teaching him while your in bed, sort of take the reins and guide him into performing how you want. it just might work.
2007-10-30 08:59:48 · answer #8 · answered by Cutie Pie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hell that not a real problem is it just tell him you are keeping score and you refuse to play anymore if the score doesnt change to anything but 1 to nothing that is about all you have to say or make sure you get yours first or maybe get seconds and thirds whatever you like
2007-10-30 08:55:42 · answer #9 · answered by the_orc_1 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Men need to be told HOW you like it. If you don't say anything he will continue to do as he is because he will think that you like it that way also. Speak up, tell him what you want and how you want it.
2007-10-30 08:58:11 · answer #10 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋