im involved with a married man he says he still loves his wife but yet he still wants to be with me he comes to see me every chance he gets and lies to his wife about it i want to be with him too we care a lot about each other a lot i dont know weather to stay with him or break it off i need help if you have any advice plz let me know we both love each other very much im just all confused
2007-10-30 08:21:42 · 41 answers · asked by dixiesweetjc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Trust me. You need to find a way to not want this man. He is someone elses wife. He says he loves his wife. If love cheating on her? Is loving you going home to his wife? He is being unfaithful and you are allowing him to use you to do it. He doesn't deserve your love or your body. If he did leave his wife and decide to be with you how could you ever trust him? You couldn't. Life is way to short to waste time on this kind of thing. Find someone that is worthy! Good luck!
2007-10-30 08:29:31 · answer #1 · answered by Shannon C 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Look forward 5 years. Where do you see your self in 5 years if you stay with this arrangement? Do you like what you see? If not, get out. Do it on friendly terms. You are happy with what you have recieved up to this point. It has been fun. Now it is time to go our separate ways. Let's agree to get back in touch in a few years and see how we each are doing. Have a nice life. Good bye.
If you like being the woman on the side and that is all you want out of life, then continue as you are now.
Does his wife know about you? Are you sure? Ask him to introduce the two of you. May the two of you will become friends and she will be okay with sharing the one man and the three of you can have an arrangement. Each of you can have sex with either of the other two or all three together. You all can live lives as you do now but you can also add this group component layered on top. Each of you enter into a legal arrangement or contract. You as a close family friend with certain assigned rights that are similar to those between a husband and wife. More people are doing this today, I understand. Heard about this trend on the radio yesterday afternoon.
Maybe you all can be friends and live as inimate friends for life.
2007-10-30 08:52:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So, he's a liar and a cheater (according to your own post) and flat out tells you he loves his wife...you do not love yourself, it seems. If you did, you would want a man who could be devoted to you, not accept the leftover scraps from another family. While you're home alone pining for this man, he's at home, enjoying his wife and family. Even if his feelings fro you are genuine, don't you think you deserve someone to come home to, who is all yours? Don't you want the kind of relationship where you can go to the park, to local restaurants, etc and just spend time together without having to be lying at every turn? He's thrilled he has someone to be naughty with, and as others have said, once the wife finds out, it's all over--
2007-10-30 08:35:50 · answer #3 · answered by melouofs 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He hasn't left his wife for you so that tells you that you are a plaything. He will not leave his wife, for what. Why buy the cow when the milk is free.You are nothing to him and if you did get him he'll make a fool of you soon as the next hot panties walk by. You'll be just taking a problem off his wife's hands. Just think of this, his wife probably trying to get rid of the nogood bum anyway. Help her out. Then you can sit up all night and wonder what hot panties he's chasing.
2007-10-30 11:54:25 · answer #4 · answered by Thunder 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you always want to be the mistress and be waiting for a man who is unattainable then I feel very sorry for you. He is using you and will continue to do so as long as things stay smooth at home or the next younger model comes along. Start living your life instead of just letting it happen to you. If he really loved you, he would be proud to show you off, be with you around town and make you his wife. You are on a dead end road and when he leaves, you will be older and hopefully wiser.
2007-10-30 08:39:34 · answer #5 · answered by Mama Mia 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
They have a few names for women like you. Like HOME WREAKER. the others I won't say . But I will say this. How dare you date a married man.. Thats just wrong. Wrong of him in the most part but wrong of you as well. You need to a a real women and call it off.. And I hate to break it to you but you don't love him you don't even love your self if you have to date a married man. You just want something somebody has... Find your own man thats unmarried and has no girl friend.. And he does not love you he is a married man who is getting his thrills on having 2 women. Both of which he lies to . he is having his cake and eating it too. What a loser..
2007-10-30 08:43:04 · answer #6 · answered by dollbaby2407 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know this hurts but you need to break it off. This isn't a healthy relationship always sneaking around and hunny he's married how would you feel if you were the wife in this situation. They always say they will leave her well dont be fooled. do the right thing in time your heart will heal. find someone else who is single and go for it then you wont have to be so precausious. find a love that is yours and only yours have a commitment with someone who loves you and wont cheat on you and you can't cheat on them. the bible says not to. pray about it and someone else will come along. i am sure of that. dont worry
-hope i helped
2007-10-30 08:29:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I believe we can love many people but being in love thats a different story.. I believe that we only really have one true love so it confuses me when you say this guy loves you an loves his wife.. I guess to me which is it hes seems to me that he can be taking advantage also something you should think about.hes maybe having sex with both of you here an taking advantage of all this something for you to think about.. I would advise you if hes staying with his wife an hes not leaving her why stay with him? if you love him an he claims that maybe he should leave her an be with you but of not I feel hes just using you hes got all he needs but what about you.. good luck
2007-10-30 12:02:54 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet_mystery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not healthy for you! it wont go anywhere! you cant call him your man 'cos he isnt! its bad for your self esteem which is already damaged to get you in this situation in the first place! You cant trust him, he's not mature emotionally and he doesnt have strong integrity.
Integrity is being honest and faithful and decent to your life partner, he isnt doing this.
I saw a married man briefly and ended it by telling him, ok go back to your marriage and try to make it work and if not call me in a year.
He called me in less than a year and I told him 'if nothings changed why are you calling me?' - he still called 6 months later but you know...hes still with her and I'm having nothing to do with that bees nest!
The guy was hotter than georgia asphalt! French, could be a model and his wife was 10 years older than he....that was his bed he made, his mess not mine...
It hurt it was hard as I was lonely and lustfull but it was the right decision.
Why would I screw over another woman? Women have enough problems with men than each other being the enemy too!
End it! Join a dating agency, go online, get out there and over this character!
2007-10-30 08:33:28 · answer #9 · answered by Sunshine Girl 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Stop now as he is lying to you and his wife. He has the best of both worlds- a girlfriend and his wife to take care of his home. What do you get but a part time boyfriend that can not be trusted.
2007-10-30 08:33:48 · answer #10 · answered by mnwomen 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋