my husband of 4 years met a man at his job. the man is openly gay. this man is my husbands best friend. he calls my husband all times of the day. and every morning at 430am. to wake him for work. even though im there to wake him. my husband and i seperated (for diffrent reasons). he went to stay with this man . he said he had nowhere else to go. this man only have in his whole apartment is one bed, a dresser, and a tv. nothing else. where do you think my husband slept. he told me on the floor. now that my husband is back home with me. he went to pick up his clothes and return his keys. his friend told him to keep the keys. why would he tell him that. my husband dont see anything wrong with that. but i do. is it selfish of me to think something is going on. when i ask my husband he gets offended. and says nothing is going on. he says that they are only best friends
2007-10-30 08:35:55 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
HELLO???? Ring, ring, ring. All the alarms are going off.
The fact that he's keeping the keys is what is most disburbing.
Wake up sunshine
2007-10-30 08:42:48 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having male friends of both gay and hetero varieties, I can tell you that unless men were friends as kids, the two often don't mix. What could they have in common besides work? They obviously are pretty close if your hubby has buddy's keys. The two lifestyles of straight and gay are often at different ends of the spectrum, especially if the other guy is openly gay. The phone calls are also a telling sign. If the guy was just a buddy, why doesn't your hubby's other buddies call at all hours too? That guy is moving in on your man, if he hadn't already. Make your hubby get tested for HIV or start using condoms if you are going to stay with him.
2007-10-30 15:51:26 · answer #2 · answered by Really now 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry so much about your husband and his gay best friend. If he has said that they are best friends and he had no where else to stay then it is no big deal. The gay friend was only trying to help your husband out by giving him a place to stay. When the friend is calling your husband it sounds like he is just concerned for your husband. Best friends sometimes do things like that for each other. I really don't think that there is anything going on with the two of them. I have had friends who were gay and they are the nicest people that I have ever been friends with. They would do anything in the world for me and I for them.
2007-10-30 15:50:32 · answer #3 · answered by Nancy M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ease up what with you ladies i am married and my best friends are gay there isnt anything wrong with that is there i have keys to their houses and sometimes crash there that doesnt mean a thing most gay guys will respect a mans wishes even if they have the hots for the man so what gives and if he said he slept on the floor believe him and yes if you asked me the same questions it would offend me because you were seperated and his friends let him crash there if this friend was straight woul dyou have had a problem with it i dont think you would you would be worried that you hubby took some bimbo to his straight friends house instead so i would say drop it and appologize for being paranoid
2007-10-30 15:48:04 · answer #4 · answered by the_orc_1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be real. No straight man would maintain anything more than just a casual friendship with a gay man. If he's sleeping over, he's taking long walks up the old dirt road.
2007-10-30 15:59:52 · answer #5 · answered by Scorpio 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly ask the heterosexual men you know how comfortable they would be with having a close friend who is gay...most would say they are not comfortable...Did this friendship begin before the man came out or after? I'd honestly be really suspicious...it doesn't sound like they are just being friendly...
2007-10-30 15:46:30 · answer #6 · answered by Notagain 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay , that is just too good a friendship to be true. i dont see how they are just friends.not a lot of straight guys have gay guys as best friends that they would move in with them during a seperation from their wife. im not saying your husband is gay .why dont u just ask the friend .there is just too much of a fish smell for me to buy this . sorry.
2007-10-30 15:42:22 · answer #7 · answered by praise t 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he has commited adultery with this man and is keeping the keys to continue the affair. I would tell him that I think it is a homosexual affair and I would be calling the divorce attorney about now.
2007-10-30 15:50:06 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Suspicious, and yes demand a blood test, not because of the gay issue but auke he swings on both vines, you need to have this out.
2007-10-30 15:46:58 · answer #9 · answered by Diamond Dogs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hm I'm not really sure about that, I would say that depends on how honest he has been with you over time. It seems a little weird to me, but who knows maybe it is just because they re good friends. I think its up to you on weather or not you believe him. Use facts, and think about it.
2007-10-30 15:48:15 · answer #10 · answered by love.struck_69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋