For married people -- how did you know you had found the One?

Question

How did you know you had found the person you were going to marry? How did you propose or how did your spouse propose? How long have you been married and are you still happy together?

Just looking for a smile to cheer me up today... it's rare to hear about happily married couples and how they know they're in love. :) Thanks!

Answer 1

When I met my husband 15 years ago, we had both just recently divorced out first spouses. Mine was final, his was not. He was very hurt and needed a lot of space. He talked about her a bit when he needed to and I listened without judgement. I realized I loved him when I decided that even if I was the "rebound" person and maybe we wouldn't be together forever, I didn't care. All I wanted was to help him through his pain. I was there when he needed me, gave him space when he needed that. It didn't always feel good but I didn't care. I loved him.

Our 2nd Valentine's Day together, he came over. I saw him walking up the walkway with a HUGE box. It was a hope chest. We had been to a furniture store about a year before and I'd pointed out a beautiful Lane chest with hearts on the front of it. A year later, he remembered and got it for me. I cried and asked if it meant he was planning on marrying me someday...LOL...he held me and told me he loved me very much. We married just over a year later. That was 12 years and 2 more kids ago! (I had 2 from my 1st, he had not had any) We are a very happy, loving family. It worked out for us, we were lucky.

And I'm the luckiest woman who ever lived...

Answer 2

Since I was a teenager, I had already made my "list" of what I wanted in a husband. I met my future hubby, and really liked him. I never told him. Then I'd get over it, thinking, "oh, it's just a silly crush", but then I'd feel it all over again later. This went on for a few years. We were friends, but I knew he thought of me as a little sister. He is 6 years older than me. We still wrote letters as friends. Then one day he said he wanted to be more than just a friend. My first reaction was to say no (as I'd done to all the other guys, because I was in uni and wanted to concentrate), but then I said give me a few weeks and I'll pray about it. I did so, and couldn't find a single reason not to, so I said ok. After one year (still writing letters, with one visit), he proposed. I still made him wait. I thought long and hard, remembered my list, and he actually had everything on it. So, I said yes. Engaged my last year of uni, married 2 years later. Knew each other 7 years before marrying. Been married 6 1/2 years, still happy together.

Answer 3

There is no "the one". If you were free to look around for your whole life, I'm sure you could find several even dozens of people that you could classify as perfect and someone you could spend the rest of your life with. It's just a matter of being in the right place at the right time with a particular person, then closing your eyes and see where the roller coaster takes you. If you can commit to that person without looking around, then you've found "one", not "THE ONE" and so have they.

Answer 4

have known 'the one' for 28yrs and been with him for 12 of the 28yrs, before that we were best friends (although I knew I was his childhood sweetheart).
We lead very different lives and went down very separate paths, I moved away for some years - he stayed put however whenever I was back in town we would meet and talk about our lives (as bestfriends do).
So I moved back to my home town still on different paths until he decided it was his turn to move..... everything changed for me in that instant (call me selfish) but I knew I couldnt let him go without letting him know how I felt!
He stayed and although It was a difficult transition we made it happen, no longer am I the party animal, drug taking good time girl - he is my rock, my soul, my everything.
We have 4 great boys between us and everyday he shows them how a lady IS to be treated.
He accepted me and my flaws and for that I will always be greatful.

edit: sorry joe I disagree, I know I will never find another nor do I want to he is 'The One'

Answer 5

I met him when I was attending Bible college he was on a road trip visiting a friend who was my friend as well. We hit it off Great, after a month he said "I love you" I was the very 1st girl he said that to... In three months we were engaged. We were at a christian camp and he took me for a walk next to the river and he proposed....6 months after we met we got married 3 yrs later we have 2 amazing little girls and We still love each other dearly I respect him as a man and I am so proud of him! And he loves me as christ loved!

Great Question!

Answer 6

We where actually just best friends and roommates. We where at a Mexican restaurant having lunch and thought man we are such good friends we should get married. 4 months later we where married. Now 2 kids and 4 years!

Answer 7

he hugged me for the first time and I knew it was him. we've been married for 19 years and have 3 lovely girls yes we are happy together in every sense of the word. my kids recently found out we are still having S E Xual relations (yuck is what they said!) we laughed and said its what marrid couples do with each other sometimes) we have had ups and downs but all in all it has been good!

Answer 8

well once upon a time....J/K
well i was a single mother of 2. my children's father went to prison and i had no choice but to move on. I was living with my mom and started dental school. Sooo i finished that and started to work to save so i could move out and live on my own. So when i finally decided that i was just going to be single...along comes my angel. just out of the blue he was introduced to me by a cousin and we just started to hang out when ever i would get out of work. And then..... one day after some months...he told me he fell in love with me and my kids....DING! DING! DING! DING! He said the magic words when he included my children.
We moved out of state and still have been in love. A few bumps but nothing major.
We have been together for 6 years and we had 3 children together. So yea count them up....i got 5 now!

Answer 9

We lived together plus had a child. After many years we decided either to marry or break up. He gave me that option. Since I didn't want to be on my own with a child who was still in school and a minor. I married him. Nothing special or romantic about it.

Answer 10

Been in Lust for 37 years and married for 36!