heres a question for you. why should you chance on love again, when you lost it so carelessly last time, it takes soo much work, and my emotions are not stable enough/lifes ups and downs easily have me up and down. So knowing on this, and the pain of failed love, why should you try again?
2007-10-30 08:45:54 · 19 answers · asked by steveo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have to get yourself emotionially healthy and stable first..
Noone wants someone with baggage and drag downs from failed relationships. Get over it and then try again. There is no point into putting someone else on your emotional see-saw.
Good luck
2007-10-30 08:49:45 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Because even though it can cause you pain, it can also be the most wonderful feeling in the world. I have many relationships that have failed and I wouldn't have it any other way. I would rather to have loved than to have never known love at all!
2007-10-30 16:13:29 · answer #2 · answered by faith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you did fail the first time. You already know what it is like to fail and you can learn from your mistakes and make all new ones. Love is worth it, no matter what the sacrifices.
You will never know unless you try and you will always regret it if you don't
Good Luck
2007-10-30 15:59:36 · answer #3 · answered by mn lady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with all that said heres something to think about do you want to spend the rest of your life alone with no one remembering you when you die if for no other reason than to have someone to help you moderate the ups and downs and to tell you when you are down that it will be all right to have someone that you know will be there every morning and will have ups and downs also and just so you arent alone if any of these dont tug at your heart then you need not care because the best part of you which is your heart is dead already
2007-10-30 15:52:57 · answer #4 · answered by the_orc_1 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
When you learn to love and respect others the same way that you wanted to be treated, and when you've matured and learned what you've done. When you learn from the past & leave it behind and when your tired of all the b.s. you did or experienced then your ready. But always remember...Love always comes with the risk of being hurt and that's the risk we need to take. If we truely want to find it.
2007-10-30 15:56:37 · answer #5 · answered by jtease 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because life is not over just because you had one failure. My advice is to date a long, long time before committing to anyone else. Ask a lot of questions. Find out as much as you can about them. Ask them their values, interests and plans for the future, tell them yours. Observe them in social settings, how do they treat other people? What are their political views spiritual views? Do they drink or use drugs? Are they well educated? Find out as much as you can and don't have sex with them until your wedding night. Love is a choice.
There are a lot of good single people in this old world, go out and date them until you find a good one.
2007-10-30 15:54:40 · answer #6 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Because the alternative is spending the rest of your life alone...I would say its well worth the risk...you will be happy you did when you find a person that loves you as much as you love them!
2007-10-30 15:50:00 · answer #7 · answered by Raelee 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you're still hurt and emotionally unstable, then you shouldn't try again. If you start to feel differently (and you probably will eventually), try for love again then. No need to pursue something you don't want now.
2007-10-30 16:16:52 · answer #8 · answered by Trivial One 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens to all of us...you are not alone. Just be wise about it. There are many really nice women who woul treasure a good husband. Maybe try one a little older, more mature.
Joy to you.
2007-10-30 16:07:05 · answer #9 · answered by frillyfroofroo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be worth it when you find the one that's right for you. Life is one big learning process and everyone that comes through your life leaves you with something that helps you grow as an idividual. So always remember that and have faith that you will eventually find the one that's meant for you.
2007-10-30 15:52:37 · answer #10 · answered by Kathy R 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋