we have been married 5yrs had two children but we never show each other any affection we never have sex apart from when he is gagging what do you think i should do to try put this problem right.
2007-10-30 09:26:08 · 13 answers · asked by bumpa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know that it is no excuse, but how much time do the two of you have? Maybe he is looking for the quick fix because he feels trapped by kids running in or hearing things? My hub and I have date nights once a month to get a lot of things done. Not just in the BR. At least once a month the kids are out of the house and we can talk as loud as we want...affection is sometimes hard too. Good luck I think all men are out for themselves first and foremost, you have to train them that when momma is happy so is everyone else. Take control of that situation!
2007-10-30 09:31:23 · answer #1 · answered by Eastcoast beachgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you show him some affection? You sound like you expect a magic wand to be waved to make it all right without you making an effort. A relationship takes two to make it work. First, sit down and talk to him. Tell him you love him, but feel alienated from him. Ask him if the two of you could work at things to improve them. If you can, go away for a few days and just concentrate on each other. Otherwise, go out once a week just the two of you, and talk to each other. Try to remember why you got married. Why don't you initiate sex for once? Stop being so passive!
2007-10-30 10:24:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if you two need to rekindle the romance that must have been present at one time through this relationship. Start to do things and go places that you used to do when you two were dating. Talk with each other about the past, how your feeling today and hopes and dreams of tomorrow. Best of luck.
2007-10-30 09:30:04 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He physically gags when he's having sex with you? Is he eating you out or is that when you're having intercourse? I don't know if I'd call him selfish. I don't know if he's attracted to you or not. Ask him what you can do to make things better with him. Is there a chance that he has an issue with body odor?
2007-10-30 09:54:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes it's the hardest thing to address a problem and talk about it, many people just seem to go on day after day in "an accepting the situation" state, you obviously feel that you need to do something...ask him if he feels the same .. that there is little affection between you because more often than not one party does not notice problems... my advice get chatting you never know what people feel until they tell you...
hope it goes ok for you....
2007-10-30 09:33:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what your husband is feeling, only he does. You need to sit down and talk to him. Tell him how you feel. He won't know what's going on unless you tell him. Try not to be critical of him, but explain to him that you miss him and that you want to be closer to him. Just tell him how you feel and then you two can go from there.
2007-10-30 09:41:46 · answer #6 · answered by faith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is called communication...you two need to talk and figure out what is going on and what you need to be happy and find out if that is still possible between the two of you.
2007-10-30 09:29:50 · answer #7 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk hun.life is stressful with 2 young children and sometimes they consume all you have.
when the kids are asleep sit and talk to each other tell him how your feeling,
works for me and my hubby
2007-10-30 09:35:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a babysitter and go out twice a month just the both of you
2007-10-30 09:30:49 · answer #9 · answered by Andrea B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are in the same boat as me and we are going for a divorce now try talking to him first thou .
2007-10-30 09:33:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋