Marriage & Divorce - 30 October 2007

I know about a lot girls/guys that have to ask permission to their significant others. Do you? and why? I never do I believe I'm responsible for myself as he is of himself and if he screws up its his loss so leave it our own judgement.

Hint: It doesn't matter if your are married, engaged, divorce, single I'm sure you had at least one serious relationship. Thanks your honesty.

2007-10-30 05:59:25 · 45 answers · asked by krixty 3

My husband and I have been together for 4 years, married for just over a year. Recently I quit my job to pursue my passion and have now replaced my income doing so. He was okay with me quitting but then became ugly and mean about it. Very passive/aggressive. Honestly he's been like that on and off our entire relationship. It was one-sided from the get go- I did what he wanted, when he wanted, and once my hobby became my job, that changed and he was NOT okay with it. He has never wanted to be part of my life; until I told him I was leaving him because I can't live my life doing everything by myself. I didn't get married to do that. I told him I didn't feel like he cares about my desires. We have separate checking accounts; and pay bills separately. Now that I've threatened to leave he's decided he wants to be involved. He now wants a wife; not roomie. He waited until I didn't care anymore to change and I don't feel the same way about him. At 1 time I wanted him. Now I'd rather work

2007-10-30 05:55:04 · 14 answers · asked by *Artesia* 2

2007-10-30 05:51:07 · 10 answers · asked by babydoll67005 1

Im 21 years old been married with my wife for some time, I dont know what to do anymore about her. She always wants to go out and spend money and if she doesnt get her way she will litterally cry and wine about it. We started are relationship smoothly on my behalf but hers wasnt, and the reason why is she was still communicating with her ex and while we were bf/gf I found out she would go to his house to wash clothes or even to just chill even when he wasnt there. Im having a bit of a problem trusting her, she's very stupid at times. She mostly cares about materialistic things, this next coming semester she is going to try to go back to school in which I dont mind cause education is always important, but on top of that she wants to work 2 jobs and also goto a fitness training center and I think to myself OK!, your married and you know I wanna have some time to spend together but you wanna go and do all this as if your not in a relationship for time.

2007-10-30 05:40:52 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

My boyfriend and I live together and are planning to get married and start a family. He already has a boy from previous marriage and he pays child support, which I think he should. We have enough to pay the bills, housing etc. My concern is if we have a child, he won't be able to me help out financially since a good amount is going to child support. I guess i'll be the breadwinner and I'll have to pay for child care and other expenses. My question is, has anyone been in this situation? if so, how did you manage? Should I get a 2nd job, should he get 2nd job???

2007-10-30 05:34:56 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband is keeping a secret from me...i found out that he's been keeping-in-touch with his ex again.They've been together for 8 years till i came and ruin everything.She was away,he was lonely, i came.They were best friends as he said,they know each other too well,more than the way i know him.Something in the past happened,and what they did is foul for me.Because of her he lied to me.I was hurt because honesty is very important to me,i believe that trust is one of the foundation of a happy marriage.

Recently,i had this same feeling as before.And when i go through his mails i saw truth about my intuition.Actually,there's nothing wrong with the letter.It was just the fact that he's keeping secrets from me again.And its her again.

Am I invading his privacy?Don't i have the right to know these things as a wife?If there's nothing to hide then why hide the truth?Am I a bad wife?

2007-10-30 05:34:25 · 24 answers · asked by louiedy 1

I am the first to admit, it is easy to say leave him or her. I stayed with my wife after catching her 4 years ago in an affair. Since then I/we have been to hell and back to get where we are now. (I still think about it everyday) But we took a vow that was cracked deeply and we are slowly mending it. That vow we took back in 1995 means more to me now, than then. The following couple of years after the affair we could have split. I know I have worked harder than I ever imagine to get our relationship to the level we are at now. All I am saying is it is hard to keep a vow, but very easy to break them. Some marriages must end in divorce, but many are just from lack of effort. So how much is your wedding vow worth to you?

2007-10-30 05:21:22 · 35 answers · asked by Opps 5

I've always, well.. wanted a different dad. He used to be abusive, up to about 4 years ago when my mom's friend called child services on him.. nothing really happened to him. He still lives with us and he still screams and curses and all that but he just doesn't hit us. I dont even know if he ever hit my mom.. I was always too scared to ask. But now I think my dad is sneaking off with someone else. He leaves and tells my mom not to ask where he's going. I wish I had a different dad, my mom just deserves better. What is your opinion on this?

2007-10-30 05:19:29 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

and then regret that decision??

2007-10-30 05:09:05 · 16 answers · asked by bhackle2 3

I didnt think i'd hear from him. I wrote back, went back and forth until his answers turned into just 'nice' and 'yeah'
what the hell?? i was hoping he'd make plans with me for this week or something. i reacted silly, I said, so when are you stopping by? (; i live about 40 min away so he said, a little far for a weeknight, maybe weekend. I have driven to his place 3 times so i said, haha, i did it! I got no response so about 15 min later i wrote, i'm just kidding with you. He is a man of few words...but come on...I know he is looking for nothing serious, but i dont want to waste time with someone i wont see

2007-10-30 05:06:10 · 12 answers · asked by gally g 1

It's drawn out, but try to make it short but detailed.
My 5 yo daughter's father and I first of all broke up, because he had become a pathological/ habitual liar and I had started to become physical, I left him, because of the lieing, him detaining me and because of me becoming physical.
He found someone new, at first things were fine, until she started getting in the middle telling me how to parent and what I had the right and not the right to do.
He allows her to make false accusations against me, She posted my daughter's name on an adult profile, she doesn't allow him to spend extra time with my daughter, she thinks she should be involved in everything, when they aren't even raising their own 2 children.
Fathers, How would you feel about your current wife doing these things? How would you feel, if your child's mother ONLY on occasions involves your new wife?
Need any more info., just ask please.

2007-10-30 05:02:59 · 10 answers · asked by Cyndi G 1

2007-10-30 05:02:46 · 39 answers · asked by louiedy 1

2007-10-30 04:55:15 · 34 answers · asked by Top Contributor 2

Ok... I know this Iraqi guy, he's a family friend of ours -- my dad knew him for 20 years, and I've known him since I was born - great guy... He's been a refuge - he left his homeland when he was a teenager... He married a nice white lady (she's really friendly) but she said something kind of weird the other day...

Well, he's a smoker and a drinker, so his wife was saying that she calculated online that he would die in ten years, and she'll take the money in their joint account and move into a studio with their daughter... nobody said anything, but that sounds kind of, well... morbid...

Also, for some reason, she does not want to help him get a citizinship (he seems ok with it) -- but I mean, it's just funky...

I know its not my business... but I have to question: WTF?

2007-10-30 04:54:13 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

If you meet someone and they tell you they've always been afraid of being hurt so they push people away when they feel they are getting too close, what do you do to keep them if you have started getting real close to them and you are also the same...i.e you also tend to push people away when they get too close.....

2007-10-30 04:53:54 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-30 04:48:12 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

How long do ya have to wait before u can go in for a divorce when ya split on good terms and want to stay friends?
I heard that u have to live apart for 2 years before even going for a divorce.

2007-10-30 04:47:26 · 16 answers · asked by blank 2

I know a lot of people todays think that not getting married is the better way to go. With increasing divorce rates, the financial burdens and ect. Not getting married SEEMS like the ideal solution.

I don't believe that! I think its pretty ignorrant the way people make it sound like not getting married will automatically make everything prefect. Doesn't mean that the relationship will be anymore loving, that you won't end with any less of a jerk or witch! That you won't have financial issue as well at end. A lot of non-married people ending up court these days. I've know people who weren't married that have had some horribel relationships! The easy way out wasn't so easy!

The only real benefit not getting married has, is the expendability factor. Dump 'n' run. And to be honest, if thats your priorty. I'd rather be alone! Whether your married or not people with always be people. Marriage doesn't create the issues, people do. Problem can come in many forms.

Agree or disagree?

2007-10-30 04:46:39 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

ill try to make this as short as possible i am 26 have a 8 year old child from a previous relationship, i met my husband over 4 years ago we dated for a very long time had a lot of problems but love never let us part ways for long my husband joined the military and seemed like a new wonderful man all i ever wanted comes home we get married and soon after meet him in a different country.. and where do i begin... problems,problems, he isnt the same man i thought i was marrying. my husband really will call me every name in the book **** ***** u name it and for the dumbest reasons alot of the time i just know when i agree theres a fight. and no i do fight words back, hes always telling me im useless becouse hes the only 1 working but we only have 1 car and it is hard to find a job with very little english working jobs i went to school before coming here for dental assisting for a year and can not get that job... he has all access to bank accounts only putting my name on the one that has it

2007-10-30 04:36:25 · 12 answers · asked by misty l 1

I have been living with my partner for 5 years we have 2 boys and never been married. We both live together, although we want to go our seperate ways we both agree that it is better if he live with us and pay the mortgage while i provided the income for the children. As time goes by it's getting more difficult to provide for my children and was wondering if I can claim for single parent benefits?

2007-10-30 04:30:46 · 23 answers · asked by hanif1022326 1

My hubby and i have been married almost 3.5 years now and its been very rocky.We met while we were both sill in college i was a freshman and he was going for his masters both of us were huge animal lovers so everything seemed perfect.We got married after i graduaed and thats when trouble started.My hubby is a workacholic and thats his obsession.While we were dating though he made time for me but when we got married i got pushed aside.He started traveling alot,doing anything to advance his career,staying out late,and spending 2 nights a week in the city.Unbeknownst to me he was also becoming an alcoholic and becoming addicted to prescription drugs to keep him awake or put him to sleep.After 8-9months of marriage he just up and left after a melt down because he was fiered because of a female co-worker i'm not sure of the particulars.He told me he was sick of people esp.women so for 6 months during which divorce papers were filed i had no clue where he was...

2007-10-30 04:28:06 · 16 answers · asked by Jenna F 1

She has a degree in buisiness management and keeps getting jobs in a conveniance store.She isnt lazy but everytime she gets a job she only last a few weeks.My dad has helped her with 2 jobs recently and she quit after 4 days .We use to talk it but now we scream about it.My kids are mad at her ..We all want something better for our kids but it takes 2 anymore to get it.Please help.....Thanks

2007-10-30 03:57:32 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I want to break up with my boyfriend. We have been together for 5 years. And I'm not happy anymore. The problem is the jeep that he drives is in my name and I still owe for it. And He doesn't have any credit to get it in his name. So, if we break up. He wouldn't have a way back and forth to work. I don't want him to lose his job because of me. Am I being stupid? should I even care about what happens to him after we break up?

2007-10-30 03:55:01 · 12 answers · asked by patches 1

My fiancée, whom I dated for 4 years broke up with me in June, stating that she needed to find herself. It has been 5 months now and haven’t talked to my fiancée in 2 months, and I have started dating a new girl, which is going really well, except recently all I can think about is my fiancée and how much I miss her. What is worse is that the new girl, lives in the apartment building directly across the street in NYC from my fiancée. I need help, I want to move on but I miss my fiancée more than anything

2007-10-30 03:54:27 · 34 answers · asked by Jennaba9048 1

I am a very sexual person that loves to experiment and have fun sexually. I have caught my husband on MANY occassions masterbating to porn and it hurts me so bad. I have cried many tears and begged him to stop but he keeps doing it anyways. One of the biggest reasons that it hurts me is because he is not having sex with me. I will try to get him to do it with me I am even willing to watch porn with him and do it for him but he says no. He will even go weeks without having sex with me and I will try to turn him on by dressing up or throwing him on the bed he will turn me down and i will go to sleep only to wake up in the middle of the night to him masterbating to porn agian and he just turned me down that night! I am very unsatisfied in bed since i like to have sex 5 times a day if i can get it. I am attractive i modeled for a company till i quite to move with him down south. What am I doing wrong? Doesnt he care that this hurts me so much? It feels like he is cheating is he? Am i wrong

2007-10-30 03:41:50 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

i live in chicago with an abusive husband who does drugs i dont have a way to leave here do i have to file for divorce first? i have no friends here to help me get anywere and my family is all in tennessee thats were im moving. could they get me for kidnapping even thowe hes abusive? should i get proof hes abusive first? or can i make the state give him a drug test when he trys to accuse me of kidnapping?

2007-10-30 03:37:06 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife and I have been together for 3 years have a 9 month old child. I feel like we are roommates. We hardly talk unless we are away from home. We argue most of the time. I work 7 days a week and when I come home and just want to relax she has a problem with that. She calls my name constantly until it makes me a nervous wreck. When I'm at work she calls my phone all the time. my job requires me to move product on and off my truck and she wants me to stop and talk to her. And if I don't she gets an attitude and wants to argue. When I tell her I have to go, she hangs up and calls right back. She tells me she loves me and want to be with me but that kind of love I don't need if she continues to make me feel miserable. She never see her wrong only mine. She has ansiety and won't take her medicine. Sometimes she can be the sweetest person and then she can just turn into a totally different person yelling and screaming. She keeps the house in a mess won't pick up, won't clean up. Help?

2007-10-30 03:34:56 · 19 answers · asked by joseph b 1

I was in my parents house on Sunday and my sister in law was there, i went to make sandwich for my husband and she went nuts when I used the roll which she bought.

2007-10-30 03:34:52 · 15 answers · asked by sunflower 2

a friend of mine recently told me my hubby sent her an msn messege telling her what time i go to work and if she wanted to come over for"you know what i mean." when confronted about it he denied saying that to her but he didnt deny talking to her. at this point i beleive her over him just for the simple fact that she came and told me to reassure me she didnt want my husband. is it possible she made it up or is there more to it

2007-10-30 03:32:56 · 16 answers · asked by happy1 1

hey everyone :) well im 15 and me and my family are moving houses shortly - not too far away still in the same suburb. So of course i was going threw all my stuff chucking things out, have you's ever chucked something out then later on wishes you hadnt?

also does anyone have any tips/tricks on making moving as easy as possible - with packing, cleaning, moving ect?

thanks!

2007-10-30 03:24:28 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous