My boyfriend and I live together and are planning to get married and start a family. He already has a boy from previous marriage and he pays child support, which I think he should. We have enough to pay the bills, housing etc. My concern is if we have a child, he won't be able to me help out financially since a good amount is going to child support. I guess i'll be the breadwinner and I'll have to pay for child care and other expenses. My question is, has anyone been in this situation? if so, how did you manage? Should I get a 2nd job, should he get 2nd job???
2007-10-30 05:34:56 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If your husband's financial status changes (i.e.,, lower income, higher income, has another dependent, etc) he can petition the courts to adjust his current child support on account of a change in financial status.
Your income has nothing to do with his child support.
If you can't afford to have another child now, then wait.
take care.
2007-10-30 05:39:02 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Yea, I'm in that situation right now - I just married the love of my life - and I pretty much pay all the bills. He pays things from his former marriage(600+ for child support) health insurance, braces, and now his daughter needs medical surgery. One day the C.S will be done - and then he can help out. until then - we are doing what we need to do to get by. To me its just a price that I paid to marry this guy! I'd say see how things go - if you can't afford everything - I'd say maybe he could get a 2nd job - or maybe you could ........just make sure you put your finances together into one checkbook- so it doesn't "FEEL" Like you are paying for everything(even if you are).......but, he continues to write out the check for his bills out of 'our checking' - so, I don't feel like we have a zillion!
2007-10-31 05:04:23 · answer #2 · answered by ★★★ Katharine ♥♥♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"you'll have to pay..." and "he won't be able to help you out"
Do you think that is what marriage is? Marriage is a partnership - you loose the "I" and "he" and it becomes we. While his child support remains "his" issue you have to realize that you are making a choice to marry a man with a commitment outside of your marriage. You are electing to enter into a relationship where the TWO OF YOU will have to make things work financially.
You need to lose the the "me" mentality. If you cannot accept that this is a part of your marriage then maybe you need to reconsider marrying this person.
2007-10-30 05:48:40 · answer #3 · answered by Susie D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His child support will not change even if you have triplets. Its hard i know. If you plan on staying home to raise a child, I would work 5 more years and save all you can. Just have one child. Hope this helps, wish I could have planned things better.
2007-10-30 05:46:16 · answer #4 · answered by Brian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I pay child support and we both work and we have 2 children together and we do just fine. If you both need to then find better paying jobs.
2007-10-30 05:40:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you and him have children, they will either 1... lower support to his previous child... or 2... never raise the support to the previous child due to any subsequent children w/ you. =) no, don't get a 2nd job, that's his job to get a 2nd job! =) you, take care of the house and any future kids...! =)
2007-10-30 05:46:05 · answer #6 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything he pays, he pays to another woman. She will be there in the curtains for the rest of his life. You get whats left over.
2007-10-30 05:42:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After he marries you he should ask that the amount he owe be recalculated. His expenses will go up and the amount available for his prior family would be less. They can't use your income in the calculation.
2007-10-30 05:43:20 · answer #8 · answered by old-softy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it si a partnership, both of you do what it takes
2007-10-30 05:38:50 · answer #9 · answered by coach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋