She has a degree in buisiness management and keeps getting jobs in a conveniance store.She isnt lazy but everytime she gets a job she only last a few weeks.My dad has helped her with 2 jobs recently and she quit after 4 days .We use to talk it but now we scream about it.My kids are mad at her ..We all want something better for our kids but it takes 2 anymore to get it.Please help.....Thanks
2007-10-30 03:57:32 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well if laziness is not the answer, nothing is.
That's exactly the problem with your wife. She's lazy and expects you to foot the bill.
You are the man of the house, it's time you put your foot down and stop pampering her.
Give her half of the bills to pay. Do not loan or give her ANY money, not even for groceries. Advise all other family members not to give her any money.
"You don't miss your water until the Well runs dry".
When she doesn't have any monetary resources, she will get up off her lazy butt and work.
2007-10-30 04:09:20 · answer #1 · answered by simee 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Every older child and teenager is going to try to get under his/her parents' skin. He brings it up because he knows it works and its a way for him to work out his frustrations. He is probably still hurting and by hurting your feelings, he copes. You need to teach him better, more creative ways to channel his aggression. Remember that you are the adult on the situation and it does seem like you are paying too much attention to this. The way you remember specific words and events seems over the top. Accusing him of lying isn't going to help either. He has a right to create whatever idealized image he wants and needs. Let him be and when tries to put you down simply say that you think you aren't that bad yourself and that you are happy the way you are. That is all. Let him talk about how great his father is. Just keep going about your day, do not insult the father and do not say things like "he is the reason why he's in foster care". Smile, nod and have fun with your son. Share special moments with him, make him feel accepted and safe, and do whatever you need to do to keep yourself motivated, but without making it the boy's problem. Remember that you are not in a competition. You are the boy's father for better or for worse. Find effective ways to bond with him and things will subside in time. Be very intelligent about this and remember what is important: the child.
2016-05-26 02:18:46 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You left out the best part! What happened to stop her from pursuing her career? When she screams about it.. what does she say?
It is possible that the career she had in mind is not available in your area or she may just be under-qualified. Have you asked her? Maybe she just isn't interested in what she has a degree for. Did she have to put it on hold when you had kids and now wants to stay at home and raise them?
You may want to take a deep breath and calmly ask her what's up. Instead of cutting her off with the "I think you should...." try listening to what she has to say. If she has confidence issues... you and your dad are not helping.
If she isn't confused you may try asking her if you can help instead of assuming she wants your help. Maybe she has had one too many job rejections.... have you asked her about that?
2007-10-30 04:45:03 · answer #3 · answered by peggy m 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like she is not confident enough to try to get a job that allows her to meet her potential. She's obviously not happy with these type jobs or she wouldn't be quiting after such a short period of time. Is she insecure? Try and sit down and talk about it, the screaming is not helping. It's affecting your whole family. Try to get her to see the situation from a different perspective. That's about all I can offer for now. Good luck!
2007-10-30 04:07:17 · answer #4 · answered by makeloans2 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Talk her to conseling something must be wrong why is she doing this it is not far for you or your kids. Talk to her and let her know. But I think couseling is in order so she can get her feet up or maybe she does not like what she is doing talk her to career center and help her find a job that way show her places that she might like to work.
2007-10-30 04:02:32 · answer #5 · answered by Lost 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
And of course you're not putting any pressure on her at all, right?? Find a way to be an adult. Screaming isn't good for anyone, especially the children.
2007-10-30 04:01:59 · answer #6 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She is prbly jus lazy. What woman with such qualification wants to throw it all away. Atleast she should think abt her kids welfare.
Have a heart to heart talk with her and give a an ultimatum.
2007-10-30 04:10:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You want something better for your kids? Okay. How about if you tell your wife that her job is to be a good wife and a good mother? How about if she stays home to take care of the family while you work to support the family? Or are you one of those "men" that needs your wife to work in order to pay all the bills?
2007-10-30 04:01:50 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 6⤊ 2⤋
it almost sounds like you need to give her an ultimatum. And she needs to take it or leave it. You're hurting your poor kids in the long run and she should have the brains and consideration to do what she needs to to make the marriage and family survive. Good luck.
2007-10-30 04:01:26 · answer #9 · answered by dinny's engaged!! 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Sounds like she lacks self confidence. Ask her what could be wrong.
2007-10-30 04:06:54 · answer #10 · answered by cooter726 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋