hubby problems with animals and me.. ?

Question

My hubby and i have been married almost 3.5 years now and its been very rocky.We met while we were both sill in college i was a freshman and he was going for his masters both of us were huge animal lovers so everything seemed perfect.We got married after i graduaed and thats when trouble started.My hubby is a workacholic and thats his obsession.While we were dating though he made time for me but when we got married i got pushed aside.He started traveling alot,doing anything to advance his career,staying out late,and spending 2 nights a week in the city.Unbeknownst to me he was also becoming an alcoholic and becoming addicted to prescription drugs to keep him awake or put him to sleep.After 8-9months of marriage he just up and left after a melt down because he was fiered because of a female co-worker i'm not sure of the particulars.He told me he was sick of people esp.women so for 6 months during which divorce papers were filed i had no clue where he was...

I started seeing an ex.bf a little bit.Then my husband came back told me he loved me ,wanted things to work,was so sorry, and that things would change.Well we got back together i found out i was pregnant he was made aware of the paternity(unsure) situation and said it did not matter he never wanted to know .Well now my daughter is almost 2 yrs old and he acts like he hates her.He is being cruel to our animals ect?He acts paranoid what do i do?

I am confused because he acted normal and loving for a time?

Answer 1

he dosent seem to have his priorities in order right now.

Answer 2

Your husband is a selfish idiot, and the dog is just an outward example of this fact. Don't bring the dog back without asking him, because that's exactly what he would do to you. But do give him this ultimatum: Since you have said you don't want the dog, either he begins to care for and train it, or you WILL bring it back. Seriously, the dog isn't the problem... the marriage is. You guys have serious issues only a lot of marriage counseling will fix. If you can't convince him to seek help with you, then this whole marriage is going to fail.

Answer 3

First off, does he still drink and do drugs? This stuff can mess with your brain.

I personally would get a paternity test, and lay the matter to rest. Seems that he might be feeling ambiguous about the situation, but maybe doesn't have the courage to face it. But I don't know... Could be just that he has psychiatric problems.

Answer 4

maybe u should not have allowed him back into your life. he only came back because whoever he was with dumped him. he does not think the child is his and will be mean to her forever. get a divorce and move on in life, life is too short to settle for a life like this. he is probably cheating again or doing drugs, and wants to cause as much trouble as he can so u will leave or so when he leaves he won't feel so guilty. get out of this relationship for the sake of your child.

Answer 5

It really does sound like he had an office romance which went wrong and resulted in him losing his job, now he wants you back I think you should continue the divorce proceedings-if you don't it just gives him the green light to do it all again and keep treating you like a doormat.

Answer 6

The answer seems clear to me....do you really want to keep your daughter in an environment where the male figure appears to hate her?? That is going to do a lot of damage to her emotionally...I'm sure she already senses it. I'd say leave and don't look back.

Answer 7

I couldn't agree more with Mrs. Incredible. She already said exactly what I was going to.

You need to start being a parent and look out for the well being of your child - not your pets.

Answer 8

He had an affair and he left you to pursue it. Duh!! It didn't work so he ran to you. He only wants to HAVE someone. I thin you shoudl give him his walking papers. He isn't in it for love, hes only there because he knew he could come back. He will treat you and your child like crap as long as he stays. He will leave again when he finds someone else to leave for. And then you are stuck with a child who he has made to feel unloved. This will scar this child forever. Make him leave. Hes a piece of crap

Answer 9

Mrs. Incredible that's a little harsh. OK, alot harsh.

You are clouded and you need to talk to someone to help uncloud your feelings and priorities. Once the dust settles it will be clear what you need to do. And hope you never have friends like Mrs. Incredible. You aren't a tramp, you are human.

Good Luck!

Answer 10

Wait ... He hates your daughter.

Then the next sentence is about how he acts cruel to your animals.

How can you even write that !? How can you give us this long story about how your life is so hard and you don't know what to do b/c you're a tramp.

It's time to stop caring about YOU and how YOU feel and time to grow up and start thinking about your CHILD. If he is emotionally abusing her - get the hell out of that house !!

Plain and simple - even in your title "problems w/ animals and me". Jeez !! How self-centered are you ?! People like you make me wish we did have baby licenses and sterilization for everyone.

Edit - Yeah I get pissed when people are worried about their own selfish lives when they have a child to take care of. A child is not a pet, you can't just take it to the pound when they aren't cute anymore. It's your child - your child comes before you do. What that child needs is number 1, not your own needs.

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And I notice you don't even mention her in this post. So, are you more worried about the dogs ? Or your own daughter ?
Please .. I'd love to know ...

Answer 11

serve that man with divorce papers and never go back again . Your daughter deserves someone who loves her such as you . good luck .