My husband is keeping a secret from me...i found out that he's been keeping-in-touch with his ex again.They've been together for 8 years till i came and ruin everything.She was away,he was lonely, i came.They were best friends as he said,they know each other too well,more than the way i know him.Something in the past happened,and what they did is foul for me.Because of her he lied to me.I was hurt because honesty is very important to me,i believe that trust is one of the foundation of a happy marriage.
Recently,i had this same feeling as before.And when i go through his mails i saw truth about my intuition.Actually,there's nothing wrong with the letter.It was just the fact that he's keeping secrets from me again.And its her again.
Am I invading his privacy?Don't i have the right to know these things as a wife?If there's nothing to hide then why hide the truth?Am I a bad wife?
2007-10-30 05:34:25 · 24 answers · asked by louiedy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are both at fault and need some professional help.
You say trust is the foundation, but how is he supposed to trust you when you go through his e-mails and everything? What if he knows and is playing you for a fool? One day he comes home and goes "Hey honey did you read the e-mail I sent Marissa (whatever just making up a name) about divorcing you because you read every piece of e-mail I send out?"
2007-11-01 07:49:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriages is sacred and honor by God,the vows that you take should be important to you,i'm not here to judge you because no one should be judging anyone ok,but marriages is of love,trust and commitment and if you guys don't have that them their is a problem,what i would suggest is that you talk to your husband about it, and about the fact of privacy every-one want a bit of that included you, because i don't think you would like if your husband read your letter or search your cell phone or other things,so talk to your husband, see what you guys can work out,marriages is not easy and their is always gonna be ups and downs, so work at yours, good man and woman is hard to fine, because i know you still love him,not only talk but listen to him ok.
2007-10-30 07:54:14 · answer #2 · answered by mb0941 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wait a second you're the other woman and now your questioning his honesty... both of you are dishonest he is wrong for leaving his wife to be with you if he didn't stay and try to work it out ...and you are wrong for invading his ex-wife's territory if he leaves you to be back with his wife... then what ....what goes around comes around you set your own self up for failure the communication standing up is more important than the communication lying down
2007-10-30 06:18:39 · answer #3 · answered by meka33311 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Always remember this: "Seek and ye Shall Find".
Listen to the kettle calling the pot black. Did you not say, " He was with HER first, and then you came along and took him from her".
If he wasn't over her, then you never had him to begin with.
If you keep up the charade, you will lose him back to her.
JEALOUSY is an evil force in human nature, which is not healthy and causes more harm than good.
Stop snooping. If he's communicating with her, so be it.
Remember this too: " What goes around, comes around".
2007-10-30 05:56:39 · answer #4 · answered by simee 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You are not a bad wife I check my husbands cell phone all the time you are just going with your gut feeling just don't try to care some much becuase some people get cought up ion this that they start checking everything and like you sai dmarriage needs trust so tell him taht you were looking threw he emails and that yousaw that taht you are sorry but you feel bad let him knwo he will never know if you do not tell him and he will not know how you feel until you tell him so you need to do this and fast becuase his relationship with this women can grow and he can leave for her. Talk to him communication is also good in a relationship do it. You will feel better and never say youa re a bad wife becuase he love your husband you just don't trust him and that is normal I would not trust him either if I knew he was talking to his ex.
2007-10-30 05:44:03 · answer #5 · answered by Lost 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋
supply her the chilly shoulder and discover some new acquaintances to pal with. all individuals who's dumb sufficient to log into your account and then make it easier to realize is dumb sufficient to purpose to get between you too in case you nevertheless like one yet another now. clever up and learn from this so which you do no longer positioned your self interior an identical sort of spot yet over back.
2016-10-03 00:44:15 · answer #6 · answered by goulette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you get it?
This is a vicious cycle circling your husband.
You were once the other girl, stepping on his girlfriends toes. And now, she's becoming the other girl, stepping on your toes.
If he's not being honest and truthful, there's something going on. If he doesn't want you to see something, then he's hiding something.
And, since he's married he shouldn't even be contacting Ex's.
You're not a bad wife but it sounds like he's a bad apple that has commitment issues.
2007-10-30 05:40:52 · answer #7 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
You know what your doing is wrong but did you know it is also illegal? Either party could send you to prison the same as they could if you opened a letter in the regular mail.Honesty is important to you but you are sneaking into his mail?Things like this make it not so bad to be alone!Learn to hack a computer system and when you want you can check on all of your ex's,plus this guy who will soon be your ex.
2007-10-30 05:49:57 · answer #8 · answered by notagain49 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
well yes and no...no your not a bad wife yes your invading his privacy....I fully agree he should not be keeping secrets from you.......Trust can make or brake a relationship its very important...you need to go to him and tell him your sorry for snooping.....it was wrong. and then ask him why he was keeping this from you, do not let him say to you " nothing is going on we are just friends I didn't tell you cause I knew you would get mad" do not buy it...its bull, if there is truly nothing going on than he should have shared this with you even knowing that it may bother you......TALK TO HIM.....trust and communication very big in a marriage...Good Luck!
from reading others Answers I have to ask so I don't jump to assumptions here ....was she a EX wife or EX girlfriend.... if Ex wife well are you surprised? really he cheated on her with you..the trust was already gone with him...if Ex girlfriend well then hey he married you
2007-10-30 05:46:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
I do not believe that the email/privacy issue is the real problem.
You do not trust your husband. You both either need to commit to get help for your marriage or move on. This will destroy you both.
Get counseling before it is to late.
2007-10-30 06:17:50 · answer #10 · answered by Tadpoler 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋