If you meet someone and they tell you they've always been afraid of being hurt so they push people away when they feel they are getting too close, what do you do to keep them if you have started getting real close to them and you are also the same...i.e you also tend to push people away when they get too close.....
2007-10-30 04:53:54 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I agree with gypsyveg..
2007-10-30 06:25:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is something you both want then talk openly about it now. Make sure to discuss the worries of both your tendencies and make sure you both stay on the same page. If you can effectively communicate through the process you would normally take to push the other away it may work. You must both realize that acting out of fear of getting hurt causes you to miss getting to a place of love. If you both realize that it is a risk and one you are willing to take you must then trust and have faith in each other. Big steps to take but if you risk nothing you gain nothing, if you risk everything then you have everything to gain. God bless.
2007-10-30 12:02:14 · answer #2 · answered by joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me, it sounds like maybe they don't want a serious relationship and don't know how to say just that. Be cautious. Do not allow yourself to get too close (I know... easier said than done). Give them space and see if they come around. Sometimes people need to see what life is like without a certain someone in their life.
Good luck.
2007-10-30 12:07:51 · answer #3 · answered by jennyღ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can fix other people's personality flaws, only your own. This person will have to decide if their feelings for you are stronger than their desire to dodge pain. The same choice you will have to make.
2007-10-30 12:30:25 · answer #4 · answered by just_me_in_md 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They need counselling. At the first sign of trouble, they'll pull away and you might not get them back.
2007-10-30 12:05:01 · answer #5 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself and be as honest as you can with them about your feelings and if you are meant to be together then it will work out for you. Be patient. and caring .
2007-10-30 12:11:28 · answer #6 · answered by seretazandrae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, theres alot you can do, talk to them about the whole pushing situation. && then possibly it may become easier & you may become even closer than you already are!
2007-10-30 11:57:31 · answer #7 · answered by babyboo :D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't do anything. They have to be actively repsonsiblity for their behavior and for healing their past emotional wounds.
2007-10-30 12:34:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ever heard of co-dependency?
not very healthy stuff...read about it and have a healthy loving relationship
2007-10-30 11:58:33 · answer #9 · answered by HopeH 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋