I know about a lot girls/guys that have to ask permission to their significant others. Do you? and why? I never do I believe I'm responsible for myself as he is of himself and if he screws up its his loss so leave it our own judgement.
Hint: It doesn't matter if your are married, engaged, divorce, single I'm sure you had at least one serious relationship. Thanks your honesty.
2007-10-30 05:59:25 · 45 answers · asked by krixty 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No I would never expect to have to ask permission - but if i am in love, I would ask for the other person's opinion because I value it, and if it affected them, tell them out of common courtesy.
There is a difference between asking permission and letting someone know because you care.
2007-10-30 06:03:22 · answer #1 · answered by Gem Gem 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't "ask permission" but I do check in and see if he is cool with something I am about to do or purchase. Afterall, it is OUR life, OUR home, OUR money, OUR children, etc. We have a partnership, and while we do not own each other we are two halfs that make a whole and it would be uncool to just do whatever we wanted individually whenever we wanted and then just say "Well, my bad, I screwed up, and sorry you didn't find out till now but that's the breaks". What kind of marriage would that be? That's two single people living together single mindedly. You've got to be on the same page if you want to have long term happiness as a COUPLE.
2007-10-30 06:05:09 · answer #2 · answered by Marina 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, I didn't ask permission nor did my wife. If we wanted to do something and we didn't have plans we just told each other where we were going and that was that. Trust in a relationship is very big if that relationship is to grow and maintain. We were married 25 years (she passed away 3 years ago) and never had a problem with any kind of jealousy or trust issues.
2007-10-30 06:16:11 · answer #3 · answered by wildfire78 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We ask "permission" to a certain extent. We talk about going out by ourselves out of respect. We have a son at home so whoever doesn't go out stays home. I think it is repectful to talk about where your going and how long. Especially in a family because there is a lot more to focus on. When we didn't have our son we would casually tell eachother what we were doing, but not really. I think that PERMISSION is a strong word and used wrong. No one should have to ask for permission from anyone if they are a grown adult, but like I said it is respect.
2007-10-30 06:04:15 · answer #4 · answered by Sadbrowneyes13 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask for permission than there can only be two problems,
1. Your significant other is WAY to needy or controlling.
2. You are spending too much time away from your significant other and are feeling guilty so you "ask for permission" to get the green light, even though you know he/she is pi$sed
2007-10-30 06:10:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say that I ask permission. I do however make sure that what I am planning fits in with his plans. I am a throwback to women's lib. I believe that the man is the ruler in the household and has the final say. I undertand that many women have problems with that and its cool that they like getting their own way. I ask him if the things I am planning for the kids and I fit in with what he had planned for a certain night and if it doesn't then I reschedule what I had planned to a different night. I don't think that makes me any less independent or that he is my master or anything. I just think of it as respect for his feelings. He always does the same for me. He makes sure that what he is planning for a certain night is okay with me.
2007-10-30 06:10:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are only a few things where we ask each other's "permission". If one of us wants to go somewhere overnight without the other or if one of us wants to spend more than $200 on a single item. It's really more ofa courtesy than anything else. I've never told him no and he's never told me no. We just think that it shows respect for the other one.
2007-10-30 06:06:02 · answer #7 · answered by . 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, talking to your partner about what you are going to do is not asking for permission. You should both have enough mutual respect to let each other know where you are going and about how long you will be gone,things happen and it can be a good thing to know this.
On the other ,hand if your partner in life is not worth your time and consideration,and you want to live in a me me me world,then maybe that is where you should be. ALONE!
2007-10-30 06:12:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask permission for what?
Eating a pb & j sandwich? No.
Buy a new car?
Permission isn't the right word. Any decisions other than trivial ones are joint decisions.
EDIT Either you are not married or live very separate lives. When you are married, his failures are your failures, and vice versa. You BOTH suffer from screw ups.
2007-10-30 06:02:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
i imagine it is totally respectful. My dad instructed me that he did not care if my boyfriend on the time, requested him or no longer. He reported he did not ask my mom's dad and wouldnt' assume to be requested for my hand in marriage. i changed into kinda taken aback and harm by technique of it....yet then I see the position he's coming from. He believes that once you're adult adequate to be planning on getting married, then you actually do not choose permission from everyone to do it. yet to each and every their personal.
2016-10-23 04:00:32 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋