my fiancé says that I don't make enough of an effort to dress up and look nice.
I say, why bother if all we are going to do is stay home?
I'm not out to impress anyone.
2007-10-30 14:25:26 · 15 answers · asked by Ms. GTO 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's hard for us to get out as a couple....we have children, and no babysitter.
2007-10-30 14:33:52 · update #1
You're not out to impress anyone? Not even your fiance? Isn't he important? Doesn't it matter what he thinks, what he finds attractive?
My fiance keeps telling me to be comfortable at home, that it's ok with him if I change out of my work suit and heels into pajama pants and a t-shirt. I find that completely unacceptable. I want him to continue to believe that I'm the most beautiful woman he's ever seen (he really believes that, even if nobody else would agree!). It doesn't take much to put on some clean jeans and a decent shirt or sweater. Why would you resist something so simple that is apparently important to him?
A strong relationship is about give and take. If one wants something, and it's easy for the other to give it, then you should. It strengthens the relationship. Of course he has a right to say something. Not only the right to say something, but a reasonable expectation that you'll comply with his request.
2007-10-30 15:20:11 · answer #1 · answered by Trivial One 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the two of you are having a bit of a problem already and that is a bad start. You can try to dress up a bit and start to make the best of what you have. make him dress up as well and have a candlelight dinner perhaps. Try to find someone to babysit and even if only once a month, go out somewhere together, or even go somewhere you can take the kids - perhaps out to dinner somewhere, in some areas there are still drive in movies - although not many I will agree. A nice restaurant now and then would be different, or depending upon the age of the children even a night out bowling together. You have to make an effort to look nice for him and he has to make an effort to give the two of you something to do other than stay home every night or this relationship may never work. Good luck to you both!!
2007-10-30 21:44:59 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has the right to speak.
Now, the question should be. was it nice to say?
Well honestly I would respond with. I'd like you to do the same but I feel that if were just staying home it should be okay to be comfortable because dressing up isn't to comfortable for me. I'm sorry im not dressed up enough for you what am I doing wrong?
2007-10-30 21:31:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be impressing him!!!!! If he has made a comment, then don't just dismiss it. If you walk around looking frumpy all the time, he's going to feel as if you don't think he's important enough to look nice for. How would you feel if he walked around the house looking nasty just because you were just going to stay home. The way you present yourself says alot about you and the one your with. I don't think he's asking you to dress up as if you're going to a ballroom dance, but making yourself look nice for him is not such a bad thing. It'll make for a nicer relationship. All I'm saying is that if he brought it up, you should take a look at yourself and how you carry yourself around him. Don't ever get too comfortable. The same goes for him, of course.
2007-10-30 21:33:32 · answer #4 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Would you have been willing in the beginning of the relationship to dress up more for him? If the answer is yes, then why not now? We tend to get "comfortable" and take for granted what we have sometimes. At least he's asking YOU to dress up for him, and not someone else. I'd pay attention. Relationships are give and take, and he's not really asking for much.
2007-10-30 21:29:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he means make an effort to dress up and look nice for him... you think?
2007-10-30 21:29:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes he does
if you do not care about yourself enough to dress up
even a little
then you will slowly ( as some many American women do ) let your self go and get "frumpy"
other women from other cultures see it as their martial duty ot look their best for their husband
you have no one but yourself to blame if he does not marry you with your attitude
or if he seek attention from other women who take care of themselves if he does foolishly marry you
2007-10-30 21:30:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that if he wants you to dress up and wear make-up then you want to go out for dinner. or to a movie.
2007-10-30 21:31:27 · answer #8 · answered by beanodom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can babysit!! lol i don't know you but i love kids. I'm 20 and attend mtsu. If you want to get out..i'd be glad to help! well..that is if you were anywhere close
2007-10-30 21:56:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants you to dress up and look nice for him, your attitude says you dont see any need to that he isnt worth it.
2007-10-30 21:30:33 · answer #10 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋