I really want kids and am finally ready but my husband dosent seem to thrilled to have them right now how can I persuade him to want to have kids and how much it means to me?
2007-10-30 14:04:17 · 14 answers · asked by Mashley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He wants them but not now but wont give me a time
2007-10-30 14:12:36 · update #1
I don't know how old you are, but if you are in your early to mid twenties, you have lots of time. If he isn't ready, you can't pressure him into having children. It's best if you wait till he's ready. I'm sure he knows how much you want children and how much it means to you, but in time. Don't rush, I don't know how long you have been married, but it is nice to enjoy being husband and wife, because once children come, it makes life pretty busy and takes up a lot of time. When he's ready, he's ready.
2007-10-30 14:23:31 · answer #1 · answered by Perkymo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you? Imagine if the roles were reversed and he was ready but you were not. Wait until he's ready and then a child will come into the world welcomed by two people that really want him/her. I was ready before my husband was. I waited until he was feeling it too. We now have 4 amazing children. No rush.
2007-10-30 21:21:51 · answer #2 · answered by oracleofohio 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't try. It will only frustrate him because he wasn't ready, and frustrate YOU when he doesn't want to "help you with them enough", and doesn't act like he's as "into being a parent" as you. Both people HAVE to be on the same page, or you're asking for trouble. Think about it. Would you want someone to pressure you to do something you really were not ready for? Just a thought.
2007-10-30 21:10:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't talk your husband into having kids, but you can talk to him about your feelings about having children. There might be plenty of reasons he thinks it's not the right time, but the important part is that you both are open about talking about it. Aproach the topic by how you feel, not how you think he should feel and don't try to trick him into having children. You will most likely regret that.
2007-10-30 21:18:57 · answer #4 · answered by Gabriele M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't
in fact if you keep pushing the issue he may very well leave you
he may not want kids at the moment for several reason
financial being one of them
and maybe he might see you as lacking in maturity for them
also you sound selfish by saying what it means to you
have you considered his feelings?
after all he will have to pay for it all
and once you have a child you cannot go back
2007-10-30 21:10:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't. I don't know what the two of you decided in regards to kids before you got married but the worst thing you can do to someone is to force them to have kids if they really don't want them.
2007-10-30 21:10:14 · answer #6 · answered by missie_d_73 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you cannot persuade him , if he isnt ready then he is not ready for them ... you should have talk this thru before you said I DO ..now if he decides later on he doesnt want them and you still do whats gonna happen ? Divorce ??
2007-10-30 21:19:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can`t . He has to feel the same way as you, or you`ll wind up tending to them while Dad sits and watches tv.
Tell him how you feel, that`s a good start.
2007-10-30 21:07:31 · answer #8 · answered by I tell it like it is 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't and you shouldn't even try. And please don't do the old 'accidental' pregnancy thing. That won't bring him around and will lead to a horrible life for an innocent kid.
2007-10-30 21:10:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I KNOW AS WOMEN WE HAVE THIS NEED TO BARE CHILDREN.. DID YOU TWO TALK ABOUT HAVING KIDS BEFORE YOU GOT MARRIED? MAYBE YOU SHOULD SIT DOWN AND TALK ABOUT THIS TOGETHER, THIS IS A LIFE TIME COMMITMENT
2007-10-30 21:08:58 · answer #10 · answered by wenwen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋