I were married for 2 years ,but beeen together for 14 years.help please
2007-10-30 13:44:40 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Give it a rest. You don't need to be dating until after your divorce has been final for a while. It's not really fair to any other man that may get involved with you because you're really not emotionally (or legally) available.
2007-10-30 13:49:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to start by making a lot of friends or hanging out with old ones. If you are recently separated you don't want to get involved too fast with anyone for a while until all the baggage is gone from being in that relationship. A newly separated or divorced woman often feel loneliness and can be compared to a lamb ready for the slaughter when the wrong guy comes along so just be friends first. Try new ways to meet people perhaps. Join a bowling league, become a member of a gym, perhaps hang out with people from work - anything to be involved with people again. Depending upon how that relationship was and how it ended, you have to consider whether you have to work on your self esteem also.
Perhaps to prevent getting into something with the wrong person again you might go to handwriting wizard.com and learn what to look for in a person's handwriting to warn you of the losers you may meet. I learned a bit of that and it is interesting if not useful.
There may be nothing wrong with dating sites as long as you remember that for every good person on there, there is probably at least 10 husbands as well.
Just concentrate on making new friends and you will find somone interesting enough to date!
2007-10-30 21:11:56 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to do some no-risk practicing to get your confidence back...
Go where the men go. Home Depot, Lowes, sporting goods stores... Browse the aisles for men with no ring on their finger -- doesn't have to be a good looking guy, just a single guy for this practice round. Ask him for help with anything...don't worry if you think you're coming across as obvious, your brain is bound to make you think that. And, it's Christmas, so this is a great time to be buying something you don't know about ("I'm getting my brother a drill for Christmas, what is a good one...") Men love to help with those things...especially if you're wearing a cute outfit and lip gloss. After he's helped you, thank him and tell him you like his shirt, or any other compliment you can come up with. If it strikes up a conversation, great -- if not, move to the next aisle and repeat.
The point is to get comfortable with harmless flirting. Once you're comfortable with it -- EVERYWHERE is the right place to meet a man.
Good luck to you!
2007-10-30 21:16:22 · answer #3 · answered by Erin K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not plan on getting back together with him and are going to file for divorce, I would then check out Match.com. One of my good friends met someone awesome on there. They've been married for over a year now. I've tried it myself, being recently divorced. There are a lot of hot guys on there. =)
2007-10-30 20:50:44 · answer #4 · answered by Jeannie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you separeted or divorced? There's a big difference.
You could start by sleeping with his brother. That's where most women would start.
2007-10-30 20:48:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
Are you not satisfied with only one through out your life? Be satisfied
jtm
2007-10-30 20:56:43 · answer #6 · answered by Jesus M 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
a little more info please lol
how long have ye been seperated? why did ye seperate?
and as far as gettin back into the dating scene, it all depends on how long ye have been seperated.
2007-10-30 20:49:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Low puch up bra, short skirt, no panties, that'll get their attion!@!
2007-10-30 22:56:28 · answer #8 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋