He says he not a sexual person like me. Why would he say that and then look up porn. I don't have a problem with him looking at porn but it makes me wonder.
I'm thin, should I be concerned?
2007-10-30 14:38:13 · 11 answers · asked by Mrs 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
should i block the sites or not?
2007-10-30 15:11:12 · update #1
There's been a decline in our love life so this can be an issue. I'm not going to be afraid of him going and doing something worse because then that's not a marriage I'd want to be a part of. Turning to something worse then porn is a weakness. His love for me should keep him faithful or we should not be married.
2007-10-31 03:12:10 · update #2
Concerned yes, consumed by it no.
Anytime a man takes a picture over the real thing something is missing. What that something is needs to be found out. He may say nothing is wrong, or I like you fine, but still you need to ask some specific questions and not settle for less than specific answers.
I would give suggestions on the questions but might offend someone or get in trouble for posting such on this type of site.
Seriously you need to know what if anything regarding you is involved in this porn craving.
2007-10-30 16:11:43 · answer #1 · answered by Ronnie R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry - I know you said "men only", but as someone who has dealt with this, I think I can help. Men like to look at naked women - that is natural.
What is not natural is if a man is replacing a normal, healthy sex life with his wife by looking at internet porn. I will tell you that he looks at it more than he is willing to admit. He probably wouldn't have said anything or much at all if he didn't think you were aware of it. If he is seeking his pleasure online and not in the bedroom HE has a problem that needs to be dealt with.
2007-10-30 17:19:48 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. Goddess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
looking at porn can be addiction. It releases a chemical in the brain just like any other addiction. The thing that makes it worse than any other addiction is that it's so shameful, it's difficult to seek help. If he is addicted to porn, there is no co relation to how he feels about you. It's totally separate. Believe me, I know. He probably needs your support. If he's anything like me, he hates his self because of his addiction.
2007-10-30 14:54:40 · answer #3 · answered by tom s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love my wife, and I find her good looking and sexy. But still look at porn. I dont know why but, I just get a thrill from looking at porn. Would I pick porn over my wife, no. I think man are diffrent then women when It comes to looking at porn, or just looking at woman in genral. Even when I am driving down the street with my dad we point out good looking women to eachother . does my dad love my mom , yes but I know how guys are. If you took porn from your husband he would just find something else to look at .
2007-10-30 15:25:11 · answer #4 · answered by PA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. don't block the sites. He is not a child or a teenager. I'm married...and I'm absolutely in love with my wife. I just like to see people having sex.
I don't even get an erection while watching it. I watch once in a while, just for my own enjoyment.
Watch it with him sometime. Shared activity, even watching porn, creates shared experiences...which leads to greater intimacy...Both literally and figuratively.
And who knows...it may become something that YOU enjoy doing.
Take care.
2007-10-31 01:57:38 · answer #5 · answered by joseph t 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as a nonsexual person, there are only losers who try to deny it and make others feel uncomfortable for it. Or other losers that try to push theirs on others unwillingly. There is nothing wrong with porn as long as it is done in a manner that is respectful to women.
2007-10-30 15:15:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what kind of porn is he looking at? most men look at porn, some are just trying to find new positions to try on their wife's, other's just like it, i'd be really concerned if he was watching gay porn,
2007-10-31 03:59:18 · answer #7 · answered by akadave 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is looking at porn
he is sexual
maybe just not with you
what is his type?
all men usually fall into types of porn they like to look at
sooner or later they tend to narrows down their choices
2007-10-30 14:41:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he`s looking at porn he`s getting horny over something,i look at porn for the pure fantisizing.
2007-10-30 15:01:04 · answer #9 · answered by David P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't block the sights, he may start lookn in real life!! Instead, when he,s lookn, strip, and start do some wild/kinky stuff to him!! He'll not say no then!!! The benefits are all yours!!!
2007-10-30 15:48:26 · answer #10 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋